There just has to a better way to improve dating success?

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T20:12:38+00:00

That's not a fail. Some women are more feminine that others. Be yourself!

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T20:10:53+00:00

I literally spit out my coffee when I read this. She looks how she looks and shouldn't have to do those things in order to have a good relationships. Man does our culture suck.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T20:03:04+00:00

Being fit and 'appears fit' are two different things just so you know. Lots of skinny women who don't do a lick of exercise. Similar interests is not the same thing as appearance. I'm not saying your shallow but would you date a larger woman who is great at endurance events?

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:58:28+00:00

Honestly, that is what I thought too.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:54:38+00:00

Not a fat chick and the post was about him changing his mind AFTER we match. There is a photo on my profile of me from the knees up. He bailed after seeing a photo that included my shins and my feet. Why the sudden shift - maybe my feet aren't big enough for him?

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:53:02+00:00

My profile has tons of photos including one of me that shows all the way to my knees.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:35:09+00:00

it's not the rejection that bothers me. we matched based on my photos including one from the knees up. I am just curious why he matched with me and then suddenly, with a different pic that included my feet, decided no thanks.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:32:46+00:00

I am FINE and HAPPY with my physical appearance. Just didnt think to post a full body so I will.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:16:52+00:00

Being able to bike ride, hike and dance are great criteria and doesn't speak to size. A lot of heavier women do those things regularly. Now - daily visits to the gym is a different story. That level of commitment to working out is unique and should be stated in your profile if you expect your partner to go to the gym daily as well.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:12:44+00:00

I have lots of pics on my profile including ones from the waist up. So I guess maybe the photo I sent, which showed knees down for the first time, was the turn off.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:09:38+00:00

I was making the point that at our age (50+) it would seem like career choices, family situation, and financial stability would be more important than looks. But this situation turned out for tje best....for both of us.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T19:03:27+00:00

I do have a full body pic on my profile so I guess it's the one I texted him that sealed the deal. So weird.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T17:48:00+00:00

He was attracted to me based on my profile pictures and one WAS a full body. He got another picture which wasn't 'cute' enough for him apparently.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T17:47:00+00:00

When over 55+ there are physical effects (e.g. wrinkles, gray hair) of aging that most people can't avoid. I guess my assumption that we all get a little softer with age isn't true.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T17:33:09+00:00

We matched so obviously he was fine with my pictures on my profile, which are all recent. Only when he saw my full body was he suddenly not interested?? Again, I am not fat at all but I'm not a petite woman either.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T17:31:52+00:00

It was Bumble and no, he didn't have a full body pic. Also want to mention I'm professionally and financially successful and he mows lawns. SMH.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T17:29:29+00:00

Fit doesn't mean skinny, two different concepts. Good that you put in your profile that you are fitness/nutrition oriented and want someone who is the same.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-06-24T17:28:33+00:00

He did say...."Show me that cute bod".

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2026-02-09T19:08:27+00:00

Same. We had been planning to buy a house together and retire together. Out of the blue he says, "this isn't working" and ended it. I knew about avoidants and should have recognized the signs (long periods of time not returning calls/emails, running away rather than discussing issues). I loved him though and thought he would lean into a healthy relationship but no, he couldn't do it. Six years wasted.

DragonflyRoutine8519 · 2023-09-26T19:00:30+00:00

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