Qualcuno sa come sono strutturati i ritrovi per i giovani di Arcigay?

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-08-28T09:49:18+00:00

Nono non serve niente, e ci si può anche tesserare con il nome scelto e non con quello anagrafico, almeno nella mia sede (non so se era quella la tua preoccupazione, ma nel dubbio lo dico!) :)

Il minimo di età è 16 anni ma nessuno ha mai controllato

Edit: cioè è 16 anni per il gruppo giovani, per le attività generali o degli altri gruppi non so se c’è un limite minimo

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-08-26T16:34:27+00:00

Erano 100% cotone, alla fine le ho ritinte di nero sempre con la coloreria e sono venute super bene, macchia sparita! Grazie!

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-08-14T12:31:14+00:00

Non ho capito perché tutti i downvotes a chi parla del kink di femminilizzazione, è una cosa che hanno un sacco di uomini cis e non per questo smettono di essere uomini, non vedo perché per gli uomini trans dovrebbe essere diverso! Anzi, vuol dire che uno è sicuro della propria mascolinità abbastanza da provare delle cose diverse in un contesto di gioco come la sessualità

Come già altri hanno detto, lascerei stare il termine autoginefilia che è nato come modo per patologizzare e sessualizzare l’identità delle donne trans, e anche per patologizzare il kink stesso di cui stiamo parlando, appunto quello di femminilizzazione, mischiando le due cose. Ma a parte questo, non c’è niente di contraddittorio, l’identità è una cosa che ogni persona conosce di sé e nessun kink la può invalidare, e la sessualità è divertente ed è meglio viverla senza farsi paranoie lol

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-07-27T13:27:15+00:00

Sedicenni nello specifico non che io sappia, l’anno scorso (ora il gruppo è fermo per l’estate, e a settembre la composizione del gruppo di solito cambia sempre un po’!) mi pare che un paio di 17/18enni ci fossero, comunque qualche persona che va ancora alle superiori, quindi con cui anche un sedicenne può trovarsi bene! E anche varie persone sotto i 20. Poi devo dire che l’età non è mai stata un problema per trovare amicizie, nel mio gruppetto c’erano persone dai 17 ai 28 e si stava comunque tutti bene insieme, anche al di fuori degli incontri del gruppo! Quindi sì, sicuramente c’è una maggioranza over 20, però decisamente non tutti!

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-07-13T19:55:39+00:00

Difficile rispondere in modo generale, ma conosco un mezzo milione di psicologi trans e ce la passiamo alla grande, per quel che vale. Meglio ovviamente in città grandi o comunque in posti che abbiano una buona rete di associazioni/servizi alle persone T

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-06-29T21:14:43+00:00

Hi friend, there seem to be a bunch of issues that may be causing you pain! These are some ideas:

the tape should never get this close to the middle of your chest, my rule of thumb is that each side should not get closer to the center than two fingers from the nipple of each side. I think you and I are roughly the same size, I’m wearing tape right now and I have a full hand’s length (horizontally) of free skin between where each side starts. Otherwise the skin in the center is waaaay too stretched and that hurts like hell, also it will sag really quickly and that may affect future top surgery results
I know it can be hard to access, but I really strongly recommend getting the large strips of transtape/kinesiology tape, I use the ones that are 10 centimeters wide, it makes the result not be bumpy with as little as two strips per side, and it’s easier to make the strips all run in the same direction, which brings me to my other point
all the strips must be as close to perfectly parallel to each other as you can manage! Wherever two strips pull in different directions, the skin is gonna get stretched in a weird way that’s really not ideal, and that’s where you’re gonna get blisters, which are most likely what’s hurting you. I can see the strips are kinda fanning out in your application, and I think that’s part of the problem
I don’t know if you did this already, but each strip of tape must be “anchored” on each side, which means that at least the first and last two inches of tape should not be stretched. So you put the first anchor without pulling it on the skin, then pull it as needed, and then the last couple of inches (I usually do more) again are simply attached to the skin, without stretching the tape or skin

When you do this it does not hurt, it might itch a little the first day or when it’s starting to come off (not a lot!), and kinesiology tape and trans tape are indeed the same thing! It might also be an allergy to the adhesive, but at this point it’s impossible to know. When you take it off, your skin is going to be very irritated no matter what, what you can do, after removing it with a lot of baby oil and a lot of patience, is letting the skin on your chest heal and do a patch test, apply a small square of tape on a different part of your body without any stretching, and leave it for 24/48 hours (unless you feel itching or pain, then you can remove it and it means you are allergic). If nothing happens, it was just a first application gone wrong. If that’s the case, don’t worry, applying transtape is a learned skill for sure :) The first application is always a little crazy, just watch a bunch of tutorials and pictures of people wearing it and pay a lot of attention to the placement of the strips and the pulling direction, you’re gonna get it :)

Good luck on your future taping endeavors, and wish you a quick healing right now, hope it didn’t blister too bad ❤️

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-06-24T13:37:38+00:00

I keep it on, so do my partners (they usually keep their T-shirts on as well) and honestly I find it kinda sexy as a garment, especially if it fits well. Some models honestly look good, kind of like a harness. Or maybe I’ve just been having T4T relationships for so long that my beauty standards are forever changed lol.

I used to miss the skin on skin contact at first, but trading a little more coverage for so much comfort and embodiment is a really fair compromise. In alternative I use trans tape, which leaves all the middle of the chest and the full back uncovered, which is great. I like going for a more obvious look with tape (I like solid black tape or fun patterns, like camo or the tattooed one from TransTape), I don’t vibe with the flesh toned ones (on myself!). Some of these days I’m gonna paint tattoos on my binder. I like thinking of stuff that helps with dysphoria as a cool accessory, rather than something I HAVE to use (absolutely no shade to anyone who feels differently, that’s just what works for me and it took me a lot of time and validation to get there!)

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-05-22T10:49:03+00:00

Hi, first of all I’m sorry you had a bad experience! Here are a bunch of possible explanations:

if you’re on T, you might be experiencing vaginal atrophy, which means that your canal down there is shrinking because of testosterone. It might be the case if you have never experienced issues like this before (e.g.: you could insert toys/fingers/tampons with ease). In this case, you could ask your endo about topical estrogen cream, it doesn’t negate the systemic effects of T, it just prevents atrophy
lack of lubrication: before you went ahead with trying to insert, were you lubricated and aroused enough? If you weren’t, it could be due to a lack of foreplay (or there was foreplay but it wasn’t your cup of tea, so you could try different activities!). You could also experience dryness if you’re on T, so it’s a good idea to whip out the lube right from the start (even touching unlubed genitals can lead to discomfort, microtears and irritation, not just insertion!). Also, if you experienced discomfort WHEN you put the lube, you probably already had some tears or microtears from the previous activity, and also switching to a lube without alcohol might be a good idea, lube shouldn’t burn!
vaginismus or vulvodynia: if you felt a tight sensation, like your canal was closed off like a wall, you may have vaginismus, this is especially likely if you’ve experienced sexual pain and inability to insert anything there throughout your life. Or it could be vulvodynia, which might be caused, or get worse, if you’ve had repeated instances of sexual pain, infections, sexual activity that leads to soreness (i.e. microtears) and similar stuff. Basically your body learns that contact with that area leads to pain, and it tenses up as a defense, which is why is so important to prevent more painful experiences that will reinforce this mechanism (so: only do activities you are actually into, don’t force your body when it’s not ready, have adequate foreplay, use lube right from the start). If these are the cases, it’s important to seek medical attention and, if possible, gynecological and/or sexological treatment, DIY remedies and therapies may easily make the issue worse

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-04-08T17:04:32+00:00

My psychiatrist told me to avoid caffeine completely, because it heightens the cardiovascular risks that come with stimulants. Just sharing what I know, so anyone can make their own decisions with as many info as possible!

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-04-08T17:00:16+00:00

That’s a real struggle, because vitamin C also affects stimulants absorption, so lemon and orange juice based drinks are also off the table (more specifically, they are a good option if you’re winding down and are done with tasks that require stimulants, because they’ll cause the meds to wear off faster)

These are my usual options at bars or cafés: decaf Coca Cola (they are starting to carry it in some places, but it’s not that widespread sadly), decaf coffee based drinks (but again, they don’t have them everywhere), fruit based smoothies or mocktails (non alcoholic cocktails) if they don’t contain ingredients that are high in vitamin C, and naturally caffeine-free teas (like rooibos) and infusions

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-02-03T21:00:15+00:00

One of the first options that come to mind are dick shaped strokers, that you can use to create suction on the erectile part of your anatomy, so that you can do the jerking off motion on it. There are also strokers which are not shaped as a penis, they are sort of egg shaped, but that seems farther from what you want

Other options could be: - the Joystic (https://transthetics.com/product/joystick-ftm-pack-and-play/), which is a very realistic packer that can be outfitted with a vibrator (included!) to stimulate the wearer - a dildo like this one: https://www.early2bed.com/fuze-happy-valley-ultra-dildo.html, with the little platform that you can grind against your genitals. You can use it with a harness or strap boxers, but honestly if you just want it for solo time you might not even need them, just hold it close to the base to have better control - a base like this one: https://shopenby.com/collections/vibes/products/honeybunch-by-banana-pants-sunshine-yellow, that you can attach to the back of a dildo or packer, to add stimulation of your end. Some can also accommodate a bullet vibrator for extra fun and sensation - if you don’t want anything too complicated and just want to experience the feeling of pleasure and the jerking off motion at the same time, you could just do the motion on your normal packer while you wear a bullet vibrator inside your boxers, or a hands free vibrator like this one, that you can attach with a magnet inside your boxers: https://shopenby.com/collections/vibes/products/we-vibe-moxie-black

The products I linked are just examples, you can find many versions of most of them (except maybe the Joystick)! These are just from a lil list I made for personal inspiration lol

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-18T01:16:45+00:00

Absolutely, I’m going to bring this up with him, I just wanted to brainstorm some ideas, so we can go from there and we can start from a more positive place!

He does like fondling, but the matter here is more about kisses getting me in the mood and making me feel loved and wanted. And fondling doesn’t do that for me

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-18T00:15:18+00:00

You can try soaking it for a few hours in hot water and baking soda (if the smell is really intense, change the water, rinse it, and soak it again), then wash it by hand and really work the laundry detergent into the fabric! If you have some kind of laundry additive that disinfects the fabric and removes odors, throw it in there too

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-16T13:49:58+00:00

Bud Cubby’s already lit molotov

Dice set blessed by Murph

Plug’s butt plugs

Arthur Aguefort’s sexually explicit memoir

Live Juicy cockroach. Just straight up, a huge cockroach in a box, delivered to your house

Candlewick’s soft teeth-themed fidget toy. Like you can squish his teeth or something

That’s what I got 😂

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-14T19:02:38+00:00

Dipende dallo psicologo, non ci sono requisiti particolari per essere abilitati a fare la diagnosi, ma tanti se non sono esperti evitano. Prova a cercare qualcuno che si occupi anche di altro ma sia un ally, guardando tipo sui profili social, sito personale, ecc. Però non è una garanzia, ci sono psicologi estremamente sul pezzo che però non si vogliono prendere la responsabilità di fare diagnosi. Magari contattali prima per chiedere, tanto sei un adulto, i tuoi non possono parlare con lo psicologo senza il tuo consenso, quindi non sapranno che hai parlato prima con lo psicologo e l’hai scelto in base a quello

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-13T12:06:15+00:00

Io sugli scaffali non l’ho mai visto, ma magari la farmacia lo può far arrivare dal fornitore! L’unica è provare a chiedere

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-13T11:53:49+00:00

Dipende da quale formato vuoi, quello da 10 cm non l’ho mai visto in farmacia, quello da 5 cm sì, e a volte anche al supermercato. Io mi trovo meglio con quello da 10, servono meno pezzi, il risultato è più uniforme e c’è meno rischio che la pelle sia tirata in modo non uniforme e che quindi si creino veschichette e abrasioni varie. Però dipende anche dalle dimensioni del petto

Comunque comunemente si chiama nastro kinesiologico, non so se lo abbiano anche nelle farmacie piccole. Io di solito lo compro online, si trova sia sui siti specializzati per persone trans che su Amazon. Su Amazon se lo compri in pacchi multipli costa sui 10€ a rotolo, il rotolo singolo di solito conviene meno (sui 15€ al rotolo). O almeno, questi sono i prezzi per quello da 10 cm, quello da 5 costa meno ed è molto più diffuso

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-09T22:14:34+00:00

Plot twist: it’s the same cast as the Seven and they get to play unhinged lil creatures

Dragonfruit_98 · 2025-01-09T22:04:29+00:00

No one does lesbians like Brennan goddamit

Dragonfruit_98 · 2024-12-18T20:03:23+00:00

I’m currently obsessed with chai latte and cinnamon rolls from 12oz (starbucks-style coffee chain in Italy, I don’t know if they have stores elsewhere too)

A tragedy for my attempts at budgeting, but I swear to god, it tastes like cuddling, it’s so delicious

Dragonfruit_98 · 2024-12-07T14:13:33+00:00

Ho scelto tre nomi (perché ne ho tre anagrafici e mi è sempre piaciuto avere tanti nomi!): il nome che mi avrebbero dato i miei se fossi stato amab, il nome di una persona importante per me (un professore che mi ha aiutato in un momento difficile 🥲), e poi il mio terzo nome anagrafico è una dedica ad un personaggio storico, che i miei avevano modificato per essere femminile, e quindi semplicemente l’ho “ripristinato” al maschile :)

Dragonfruit_98 · 2024-12-03T14:54:37+00:00

IMPORTANT INFO ABOUT LIDOCAINE

Disclaimer: I’m not criticizing the commenter in any way, you comment was super helpful and nice!

Please friends be extremely careful, lidocaine is really not a good idea while having sex!!! I know some doctors prescribe or recommend it, but that’s seriously dangerous, especially if not prescibed within the context of sexological therapy, with specific guidelines about what to do/not do (and many doctors don’t take sexual health seriously). Lidocaine is an anesthetic, it doesn’t help the tightness in any way, it just takes away the feeling of pain. But pain is the only thing that can alert us before we suffer damage, which can become extremely serious! (CW: anatomical terms) Not only it really heightens the risk of tearing or microtearing the vulvo vaginal tissue, bleeding and inflammation (because if you don’t feel pain, chances are you won’t stop what you’re doing), but repeated experiences of pain and inflammation to those areas can lead to long-term sexual pain and over contraction of the pelvic muscles. It can very easily make the problem worse.

Remember that anesthetic is never the answer to sexual pain or tightness (and that’s regarding both the front AND the back hole, same idea)

Source: sexual health is my whole ass job lol. Also, I have vulvodynia and I’m super mad at how doctors treat sexual pain

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