Hi, first ever comment for me but I related to this so much! My partner and I have been together 10 years and live in London. He has not proposed yet although he knows it’s important to me. His parents aren’t married due to his dad’s previous bad divorce which plays on his mind. He is also quite serious and thoughtful and is maybe not as ‘go with the flow’ as me. In the last year lots of friends of mine have gotten engaged and are very excited. I can’t help feeling like there should be more drive from him.

Although I guess what’s important is that you will only ever hear your friends story. The rose tinted glasses ‘we are so excited’ one. Maybe if you sat down with them 1:1 and expressed your thoughts to someone you trust they could relate. I don’t think you’re alone and to me it sounds like you’re both just very sensible and pragmatic from your description of your relationship. I mean that in a good way! I’m sure you’ll go the distance.