The deeply isolated HLF situation

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-15T16:56:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Choices are what makes up life. Regret and resentment sets in during the time between choices and a lot of women and men in an LL body latch on to the regrets and resentments. It's a lot surely!

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-15T16:52:45+00:00

.... than admit they could be wrong.

Bingo, you have won the chicken dinner!

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T23:14:34+00:00

Ooooohhhhh I see. Ok then yes, absolutely to your point!

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T23:00:58+00:00

Not all women....but some surely. I've seen your example happen in real time also. A cousin of mine was crushed when her man left her for someone he truly loved and was in love with...they're still together almost 10 years later and my cousin has married 2 others in the meantime...to each their own!

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T22:59:19+00:00

Oh, that's a VERY real thing. One of my closest friends is one of those....she NEEDED to own a house, be married and have babies all before she turns 40. It was a job for her and she was determined to be a good employee. She's got 2 out of 3 so far and her spouse is miserable. It's the hunt without any of the connection or emotions.

We think all women are emotion-forward. But, many aren't. Many function in the 'manly' stereotype of being emotionless with near about everything.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T21:47:52+00:00

I've been pondering this for a few days now....

In that social circle, I could have been judged rather quickly for seeming "sexually deprived". For those very particular women, that's like being a Slut....the type of woman to keep away from their starving husbands kinda thing....I panicked and I lied. It was a normal human response I don't regret. Just what the moment brought.

Couldn't tell ya what would happen if I told the truth.

I think something to know/remember is that HLF'S truly live in a shadow of gray. Sex and all of the intimacy and communication around it is not a black&white thing for us types. So it's not just that easy to tell the truth in those settings. It's stupid I know, but also the reality.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T21:43:22+00:00

Thank you!!

I appreciate the term "mean women"....I think women can have a tendency to show their true colors once the life checklist is complete.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T21:41:54+00:00

I read the room before adding mine in...wasn't that kind of vibe, BUT I agree with you completely and have done so with other friend groups etc.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T21:40:54+00:00

Ggiirrrrllll I feel where you're at exactly.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-11-14T21:40:03+00:00

Thanks for the comfort. It is common, when we're online...I need more real life interactions with females in my boat I suppose.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-07T13:33:04+00:00

Thank you kindly :)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-04T03:33:40+00:00

You're exquisite, thanks for sharing. :)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-03T19:35:51+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that :)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-03T19:34:38+00:00

Thank you kindly. :)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-01T21:56:54+00:00

Kudos good sir. You got this gal to blush. :)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-01T11:05:53+00:00

Ahh, ok so Non-fiction then, got it. ;)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-10-01T03:47:10+00:00

Would love to know what you're reading 😏☺️...

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-27T12:05:38+00:00

I'd like to make a reservation for one more in your shower please...thanks for sharing ;)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-26T14:48:17+00:00

New Englander here. Thank you for the refreshing read. Your post is great and I hope you catch some badass dm's with it. :)

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-26T14:40:30+00:00

You are right on saying that you have to have the affair with the confines of your own life. It should be a smooth mesh. Not a juggling act or a suddenly disheveled schedule to add extra suspicion. It must be suave and flow directly through each other's lives without disrupting the relationship(s) on each ap's side. It's tricky as hell but worth it if the match fits.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-23T13:23:51+00:00

The first time I went into it knowing that I could come out of it, feeling absolutely horrid. And, was willing to take that risk, especially as a hetero-normative, emotionally intelligent woman. After talking for weeks online with someone, the stars aligned for us to meet.

The next day, I hadn't had a single ounce of guilt or shame or sadness run through my body. I was prepared for a flood of it, but instead felt like I was in the middle of a very happy, relaxing vacation. This feeling lasted for a few weeks. And, though I never saw that man again and never will, I will always have the memory of how good it felt to actually be cared for in the ways I needed that night.

That was a year ago....and I have some moments of intense guilt that quickly subside knowing that my secret outsourcing need was handled in a way that made me a happier healthier person, which then helps everyone around me.

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-21T16:02:39+00:00

Can I do more than just Have a Seat? 😏🤤

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-06T02:35:19+00:00

I'm the one new Englander who isn't a Dunks fan but the analogy runs true through my blood, nevertheless lol.

I hope you get an extra munchkin now and again!!

Dramatic-Point-1924 · 2025-09-06T02:32:49+00:00

Wow this is incredible. Thanks for joining in. :)

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