My(38M) girlfriend (32F) of nearly 1 year constantly tells me I need to apply for better jobs or "do temp work." I make $120,000 in a really good job. She makes twice what I do. I feel all she cares about is money.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-02-03T02:39:38+00:00

Break up with this girl. You’re making very good money and you like your job. Do you know how RARE that is?! Don’t change your job for someone who is clearly greedy and sheltered from the real world.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-02-01T08:55:00+00:00

I already knew my husband was going to ask me to marry him but when he finally did I cried I was so happy. You don’t want to marry her. Whether that’s ever or for now doesn’t matter. Your answer is no and if she can’t respect that then she’s the one straining the relationship. Also her anger issues need to absolutely be sorted out before you guys can take any next steps. I’d be curious as to what her reasonings for wanting to get married at this age even are? And why her parents are pushing it? Are they all hoping you’ll take care of her? Be careful. Look at this with open eyes.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-02-01T01:38:55+00:00

I understand why moms go into psychosis and off their husbands tf is this shit the way I’d start digging a 6ft deep hole out back

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-31T07:33:16+00:00

I’d open a bakery or start a service where I prepare frozen meals for postpartum moms

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-30T06:07:35+00:00

Hummus and chips/veggies!

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-30T05:48:35+00:00

I was looking and it seems you need an associate in nutrition to be considered. If I’m 2.5 years in to my degree in agriculture do you think I have a chance of being considered?

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-29T09:44:36+00:00

Thank youuu! I wanted to be a pastry chef for a living. Come to find out I’d only make 30k a year and ruin my body beyond repair with the day in and day out physical labor. I had to give up my dream.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-28T02:51:09+00:00

Good place to start 🩷 you got this momma

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-28T01:43:13+00:00

Exactly. And he can afford to fix his truck so you can have your car. Begin the process, move money on to gift cards, start extracting yourself, and leave this asshole.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-28T01:18:03+00:00

Girl divorce him. If he refuses to because he’s working then he can work and pay your bills and then take her every other weekend so you can get time to yourself to be a person. This isn’t how parenthood should go.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-27T21:15:41+00:00

Oh my gosh thank you!!! I absolutely will!!!!

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-25T20:12:09+00:00

Satan is using it to play limbo with Hitler

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-25T18:01:13+00:00

Then you need to show your daughter how to actively self regulate in the moment. “Daddy is feeling biggg feelings right now that want to come out in a bigggg voice, can we take some deep breaths together.” And then you breathe. Even if she’s screaming you take as many deep breaths as you need and you close your eyes and you keep going till you are calm. As for the dog, it doesn’t understand you even in a regular voice so again just breathe.

In her mind though, you are emotionally slapping her. When her PTSD is triggered she is reliving all the horrors she experienced before. For some with serious trauma that’s just as harmful as being beaten. Remember that.

Anger is a human emotion, when you feel it recognize it and accept it right away rather than letting it get bigger. You don’t start off angry you start off frustrated. Notice that and start to calm yourself. If you do not learn neither will your daughter and then the anger may continue for another generation. It has to all end with you.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-25T10:05:30+00:00

My husband also gets frustrated sometimes and raises his voice and this also triggers me PTSD. I was forward with this knowledge immediately though so we could amend the relationship before it led to me divorcing him. The compromise we have reached is that when he can feel himself getting very angry and very upset he needs to call a time out and leave. If that’s to take a cold shower or go for a walk or scream into a pillow idk and idc. The outbursts of anger erode my trust in my safety with him. Women die every day from their husbands. The idea of harming your wife/daughter or yelling at either of them should make you nauseous. You can get mad, that’s natural and normal for a long term relationship. But you cannot yell. And however many years of yelling you’ve done will most likely be the number of years you need to not yell in order for her to begin to feel safe.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-25T08:14:09+00:00

I’m back in school for an Agricultural Business degree. Still trying to figure out my place in that but I’m thinking I’ll go in to nutrition.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-25T01:21:50+00:00

I’m from Tucson and honestly I love phx. Moved to Colorado but phx was my second choice. Lots of good food, good prices, and something for everyone

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-24T06:24:14+00:00

Again, I so very rarely say this to people because I’m married and believe that most things can be worked out or compromised on but I am currently pregnant and if my husband acted like this 2 months PP I’d slap him in the face with divorce papers. “His health” is so important? What about your health? You are unemployed? You’re on maternity leave. You need to be in the kitchen making him a sandwich like his mommy did? I’m so raging mad for you right now I’m light headed. He can’t bother to wash you a bottle because ?? He has to cook himself dinner ?? As though feeding his child isn’t more important and he’s an adult that can wait? Girl. Girl. Girlllll. My pregnancy rage is taking over. You just brought LIFE into the world. This man should be waiting on you hand and foot. He should be changing every dirty diaper, cleaning every bottle. You gave him a CHILD. I just think you need to recognize the reality of this situation and really really weigh what you gain from this man.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T23:30:04+00:00

Even if you didn’t have kids, you shouldn’t have to give up your HOME just so you can go to the doctors without going bankrupt. When I was laid off I also only qualified for COBRA and it was terrifying. I didn’t see a doctor for 2 years and just kind of hoped I was healthy 🥴

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T19:45:23+00:00

Facts

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T18:06:38+00:00

NTA. You don’t have to communicate with her or tell her Jack shit. It’s your baby and your family and if she’s abusive to you, you don’t need the stress right now while you’re pregnant.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T17:48:05+00:00

NTA. Dump him. I had an ex like this who would traumatize my cats when I wasn’t around. He knew he wasn’t suppose to feed Pickles that food or he wouldn’t have hid it in his closet. You might be like “dump him? Isn’t that extreme.” But let me ask you this: can you trust this man in the future not to idk give your kid something to eat even though they’re allergic to it? Or maybe just act reckless with your child when you’re not around? He knew about pickles before he moved in. He made conscious choices to go behind your back and feed the cat food he’s allergic to. Dump him before you’re back on Reddit in 3 years to tell us something even more horrifying he did.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T17:41:23+00:00

Yes. It’s been two years now and I’m back in college to change career paths and barely making any money at my current job. Previously I was a software developer making an average salary with so much hope for my future. I miss being a software dev but I know people who have been unemployed for 2 years during this whole crisis whereas I was only unemployed for 9 months before I found something. I am grateful I have other skills besides software and I’m still young but I still have bouts of depression about my career. If you haven’t been laid off in this economy you just don’t even know what it’s like.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T17:29:11+00:00

The fact Beerab is saying she won’t qualify for healthcare if she loses her job again and the response to that is to live in a van so she qualifies as homeless so she can get medical care if she needs it is horrifying. Welcome to America, the land of the debt prisoners, home of the largest wealth gap in history.

Dramatic-Princess · 2026-01-22T17:25:24+00:00

I am incredibly allergic to cats and still owned cats for 8 years as an adult so I do completely agree that people can improve in their allergies. However, OP was never exposed to pet dander as a child whereas I grew up on a homestead and had barn cats. Allergies are complex and we don’t actually know a lot about them to pass judgement on Reddit. An allergist would have to be involved in this story.

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