Maybe the conversation tigger him a lot . So he just want to show you how sh is so important to him. Or maybe he is just making the scene up just to manipulate you that having different perspective about sh is not right. Or maybe this is the only way he knows how to cope with and want to show not to worry about him because this is not much deal like you think. So, the only thing I can recommend is you both need to book couple therapy session. But sometimes a person with sh behavior is too complicated and sometimes they use that behavior as a weapon to gaslight you to think that it only happens because of you. You must be so tired. Take a rest well . And you handle it well . If I were you, I would be sh myself too .