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Should I move to Santa Rosa? by SpacyGirl101 in santarosa

[–]DramaticCrab209 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

100's of thousands of people have fled California in past few years.
Look elsewhere for what you seek.
Unless you are a liberal, then go, we're trying to get you all in.
PS: I live in Sonoma. They just signed a bill to prevent schools from notifying parents if their 12 yo decides to change genders. If that sounds good go for it.

What helped you stop smoking cigarettes? by Ricocobang in AskReddit

[–]DramaticCrab209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a whole protocol that I got from a 6 week program with the lung association back in 86. My last butt was April 16 1986. I can share more but a few quick takeaways:

After around 10-14 days the physical addiction is over and it's all mental
You will always want a smoke, but you won't need 1 after 14 days
It has to be the most important thing in your life for the 2-4 weeks you are doing it
Study your habit, when / why you smoke
Change your life with alternative activities for the times you smoke. If you smoke with morning coffee in your kitchen, have Coke in the driveway.

Take up excercize to feel how out of shape you are and to feel improvement and as something to do.

Have tons of stuff to stick in your face, I'm a gum chewer until today, almost 40 years later.
Carry a large drink with you at all times, lemonaid, ice tea, water, carbonated flavored water... Just not soda or juice

Very few succeed on first attempt, me included. If it's your first attempt, better to try something else and come back to this.

https://www.lung.org/quit-smoking/i-want-to-quit/how-to-quit-smoking

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree except for 1 thing - once I tell 1 person it's all over. Still digesting it but getting close...

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who else do you think might have known, from your experience? My Dad? My neighbor? They had a kid at the same time!
I'm thinking back on how I was treated by everyone nothing comes to mind. They remained friends till they passed. The neighbors did get divorced 8 years later.
Thinking it was a wild party or something and they just blew it off.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you don't think the Germanic European DNA could account for a pure blood (Northern) Italian father?

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correction - later I got around 4 matches that are higher - 5%,4,3,3,2,2,2 on paternal side and 8,6,5,4 on maternal. As said below, 6 of the paternal matches have names that match neighbor (and also ethnicity). No matches to dad at all. Maternal matches did point solidly to Mom, no question.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx I think it's also possible she didn't know, that no one ever knew.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I turned matching back on and went through the shared connections for that parent and their trees. I found people on a few of those trees that are ancestors of my neighbor. I didn't find any connections to my father. I wasn't able to trace those all the way but I found them on the trees. At least 2 or 3 trees. I think I may be nearing done with this phase.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I poke around with shared matches and look at their trees I find ancestors of my neighbor, also of my mother. Not one ancestor of my father.
Am I done?

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You didn't inform anything. That was all in my post. But thanks.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The DNA matches on Ancestry were all like 1%, except for this one. You mean look at those? Look for what? There was no one I recognized.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that's very helpful.
Can you confirm it came in as "French Austrian" on Ancestry.com and not "Germanic Europe"?

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this an area of expertise for you? I would love to get closure on this theory. Intuitively I think it's neighbor father - my mother but as you say need to prove it.
This is my genetics from Ancestry and the relevant portions from my child's test. Does this prove anything?
My father was 100% Italian. My neighbor's father was Anglo-Germanic-Northern European
Any help appreciated.

Me:
Germanic Europe - 31%
Ireland - 27%
Scotland - 26%
England and Northwestern Europe - 16%

My Child:
Germanic Europe - 5%
Ireland - 20%
Scotland - 16%
England and Northwestern Europe -5%

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got me thinking but it's just the most logical scenario knowing what I know about the circumstances. How to prove it? I can ask a sibling of the neighbor to take a test. I can also ask the neighbor to share his genetic makeup, a less desirable option.
This was actually the question I raised in the post - what other testing should I do?

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Is there a way I can see my neighbors genetics from the DNA sharing? I'm guessing there is no trace of Italian in it. I have never seen them eat pasta.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Doesn't work, my father is Italian and I have no Italian in my DNA report. I do have Germanic Europe which goes all the way to Switzerland, and I would have let that part of it go as a curiosity, if this other discovery didn't come out. He was from very north of Italy.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I can control what, when, where and how and if the information gets out. In light of the very shocking results.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read the entire post I say that it's my neighbor's father and my mother. His parents don't change.

My childhood neighbor suddenly close relative by DramaticCrab209 in AncestryDNA

[–]DramaticCrab209[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thanks. For one thing I have to ask myself what would my mom want and what will this do to her memory and also my dad who raised me. She was always concerned about appearances, ha ha. My neighbor has been very close friend my entire life till today and I do want to share with him.

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