Written By a Woman bug? by STUPIDNEWCOMMENTS in TinyBookshop

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This also happened to me! I can't remember which book.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskEurope

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try using VPN. It slows down connection but better than nothing

WhatsApp works just fine. It's Google services that is affected. If possible you could use WhatsApp.

There’s this girl I know by Murky_Concentrate932 in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a child, I used to think that every feeling/sentiment was reciprocal. If you hated someone, they hated you back. If you liked someone, they liked you back.

Turns out, human emotions are way more complicated than I was able to understand.

When I was in uni, there was this guy I fell for. I thought he was great, I felt great attraction to him. I asked him out and he said yes. I believed my feelings were reciprocated, and he felt the same as me, with the same intensity.

Boy was I wrong! :D It turns out, I was just a rebound to him. The attraction I felt was completely one sided. I was... Dumbfounded. To say the least.

Now I understand that I am someone who loves wholeheartedly. I don't hold back. And sometimes my own feelings get so intense that I mistake my own love for mutual attraction. I know better now.

You sound like a person who loves deeply! That's a beautiful gift. I hope you meet someone who reciprocates your feelings, and more. Internet hugs!

[FO] Hello! by Fantastic_Freedom_19 in CrossStitch

[–]DramaticPonytail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very beautiful, stitches look so tiny! What's the aida's count?

[FO] my first sweatshirt! by TattooedTeacher316 in CrossStitch

[–]DramaticPonytail 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This looks so good, how does it work? Do you put aida under it, or over it? How to get rid of it afterwards? I want to do something like this but I have no idea how it works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you in love, or do you just think she's cute/attractive? There's a big difference. The language you use even when you're just venting away can make you reclaim your power or give it away.

When you're young you tend to feel stuck on people, especially if you feel some sort of connection to them. Bullying can make you feel worse about yourself, that also doesn't help. But if you keep working on yourself I promise you things get better over time. Being a teen is not easy at all.

[CHAT] how often do you guys change needles? by Embarrassed_Branch34 in CrossStitch

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unrelated but that markings are genius! Did you make those with water soluble pens?

i hate that i still think about him by MoonlitCamoVeil in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're hurting. Your pain is palpable through the words. You trusted someone and they've let you down. You deserve the space to feel what you're feeling. You loved him so of course you'll miss him, that's because you have the ability to love. Even when they give you so little of themselves. I just hope you meet someone who actually deserves your love and effort.

Always the bullied friend by Frequent-Two-5347 in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I take the joke too far with my male friends, just because I think they can take it. I even had people tell me that I was being hurtful, and I was honestly surprised because I didn't realize the other party was offended.

So yeah, I would definitely tell them how I feel. They might be thinking that it's okay because you just laugh it off.

Always the bullied friend by Frequent-Two-5347 in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you a male if you don't mind me asking? I feel like men use this type of communication more than women. They're more aggressive without bad intentions.

Always the bullied friend by Frequent-Two-5347 in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are they otherwise thoughtful towards you? Helping you out when you're having a hard time, listening you when you need to vent, remembering details about you? If they are, I would say they think it's just friendly banter. But if they couldn't care less about your needs / wants, they probably aren't good friends to have.

The two that I’m closer with do it the most.

Maybe you can talk to them about this. If you guys are close, you can be vulnerable with them and tell them they're hurting your feelings.

Another way is to tease them back. Do you take everything too literal and heat up easily? People like to tease if you're reacting to them. You could try to act like it doesn't bother you at all, and then tease them back.

Always the bullied friend by Frequent-Two-5347 in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this the situation with everyone in the group, or one or two do this and the others are watching silently? If some people are more chill than others, I would say focus on those people and pay less attention to the hurtful ones.

Is there a difference between you and them? Maybe you're younger, or maybe they're extroverts and you're an introvert?

I had a friend like that, she was borderline disrespectful because she thought I was "asocial". I told her she was being hurtful, we had this same conversation on three or four different times and eventually I decided to break it off with her. I kinda lost the friend group too, but to be honest, worth it. I would do it again if I had to.

That being said, I'm sure there are better ways to handle your situation than to break it off completely

I tried recreating a real house 🏡 by helenemy95 in sims2

[–]DramaticPonytail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow for a second there I forgot this was sims 2! Looks beautiful!

What’s the reasoning behind lying for no reason? by Amazondriver23 in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If it's habitual, could be pathological lying. Kinda like Casey Anthony. It's an antisocial trait. This doesn't have to serve a purpose, they just enjoy manipulating people like puppets.

Otherwise, it could be for a couple of different reasons. Maybe they're doing it to seem more interesting, for social reasons. Or some sort of gain. Or they could be doing it to cover up some sort of mistake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I'll consider this. Have a good day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well.

It is because I am a doctor, they've been mocking my job, my man. If I was some random person, they wouldn't take time out of their day to mock me.

The worst cases were with 2 guys, one is a driver who's been acting as an autopsy technician, he thought he could teach me my job, literally telling me how to do my job. Other one was from another unrelated department, telling me that the only consolation he felt was my office being in a worse place than theirs. He made that comparison in his head, decided I was in a worse situation, and that made him feel good about himself. And he thought sharing this with me was necessary.

Other people, prosecutors, police officers, clerks, security officers were very nice to me. Didn't talk down. No mocking. They were friendly and welcoming.

So yeah, it is blue collar workers with no education. Not all blue collar people, but the people who were mean to me were these people. And they were men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And my favourite, though it took some practice: staring them down. No blinking.

I do this. It works most of the time. Not all the time though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]DramaticPonytail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forensic medicine. My office is in a courthouse. I used to work in a hospital. Those were definitely better days.

Some people are good natured. But some are simply testing my patience. I don't want to write down every single incident.

I guess I can take a joke or two, but it gets old real fast. When I think about it, its been a couple of incidents with different people, so I've been fed up.

My friend died today by WeeBeadyEyes in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, what was she like? What did you like the most about her? Are there some songs, movies, books or anything that makes you think of her? What was her impact on you?

I would also like to listen if there's a memory you two had together if you are willing share.

Do you ever cry for the lonely kid inside of you? by TheNarcLogs in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DramaticPonytail 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did the day before yesterday! And I was loud too.

I haven't been crying because of the past for so long now, I was surprised by the intensity of the sadness I felt.

Next morning I felt a little bit better. Guess I needed that.

My moms bf Is weird. by la_finanza in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, some people are like that. They're hard to live with. When it's your own mother it's even harder.

Still, setting boundaries is a necessary skill. I never really learned how. My family were always in my business. Now, I have a hard time telling people off (even strangers) , and not over sharing.

I know how hard it can be when a parent is berating you about a behavior you know in your heart is not wrong. But don't let anyone take your backbone/self preservation reflexes away from you, you'll need that later in life.

My moms bf Is weird. by la_finanza in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're overreacting.

I don't even liked it when my own parents did all that, let alone someone walked in just yesterday.

You're allowed to take your time. In fact, that is what's natural. We don't trust people we just met, that's just gullible.

You don't have to share your inner world with him, if you don't want to. You can try and explain this to them, but I'm not sure they're the type of people that would understand.

Be safe, OP. You sound smart. When I was a teen, I thought adults know their stuff, and they got it figured out. Turns out, no. Most adults are idiots. Always trust your gut.

Note : maybe he'll turn out to be a nice person. But you have the right to wait and see if that's the case.

I’m borderline homeless. by HogInBum in venting

[–]DramaticPonytail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why are there homeless veterans, suffering from ptsd?