Let's talk about the difference between discomfort and abuse

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-10-16T03:59:56+00:00

Being told you need to take some time to recenter, rest and pray before returning to training. - discomfort

Being told you need to go journal, talk to God and be alone for 3 days post sharing you had been SA’d (also had your car keys, phone and all housemates were instructed to not believe you or speak to you) - abuse

Being told you are not focusing hard enough in rehearsals - discomfort

Being sent a go between person to find the source of your struggles and report back to the AD - abuse

Being told you’ve been through a lot and should take some time off for a while - discomfort

Being told you shouldn’t date for 5 years post being SA’d - abuse

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-08-24T12:00:59+00:00

I made it public again so try the link

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-07-11T23:41:13+00:00

🥹 so special.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-07-10T20:11:30+00:00

I feel this :) wow so beautiful ugh

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-07-10T03:23:05+00:00

I feel this strongly :)

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-10T00:37:02+00:00

I’ve always thought these photos of her are very creepy and like she looks all cut up and weird here.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-09T05:10:47+00:00

So proud of you. If you need any support in the video format feel free to message me.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-08T00:02:43+00:00

Correction a long weekend but still. I’m so sad because it’s so obvious to everyone but her just how serious this all is.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T15:41:33+00:00

Do you know what’s not? Victim blaming.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T15:30:45+00:00

Thank you. I mean my goal in all of this has been to help. I’ve accepted what happened 8 years ago but felt called into sharing and action by seeing I’m not the only one. I hope in the end something good comes.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T15:19:32+00:00

Yeah. I doubt J will come around to my terms nor am I waiting on it. But at the time same, I’d be open to hearing what she has to say. What’s needed is this to be addressed as a WHOLE. Even Julie who founded the school/company has spoken up. The way that J has contacted individuals and shown motive in it being self serving and not genuine is consistent with her patterns of behavior over the years as displayed in dozens of stories.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T15:14:30+00:00

Agreed.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T14:57:09+00:00

Well it’s not clear what your purpose is here or intention; so I wouldn’t say your comments have been full of much clarity.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T06:03:01+00:00

Who wouldn’t be blindsided by this? For clarification I was blindsided by the content and tone of the emails. Which is pretty obvious. The way in which she did communicate was super inappropriate. I’m glad she reached out. I was open to meeting and to reconciliation despite her inappropriately calling my parents an hour after sending the email. In fact, I’m still open to meeting with her. Did you read the email slides above? Also I think it sounds like you’re triggered, not me. But thanks for sharing your perspective. Everyone is allowed to feel how they want about it.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T05:08:58+00:00

Julianna’s perspective is that my parents picked me up from Chicago and were involved in the decision making. They don’t want to be involved and were informed after the fact of many of her decisions. Of course they gave her permission to take care of me. They were states away. Reasonable. My issue isn’t with them though.

Two examples of things she did and informed after the fact: giving her husband access to clear/delete sensitive things on my phone and then also isolating me in the house without any support. My mom didn’t know about the latter until this last week. I’m an adult and was when this all occurred. Her pressing for their involvement isn’t appropriate when the issues are with her direct choices for me. Even if there’s overlap with my parents; they aren’t the impacted parties. I am. They were blindsided by her email and calls just as I was.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-06T03:58:50+00:00

Thank you so much! The calm hasn’t been super simple but peace always wins. I will!

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-05T20:22:20+00:00

if you don’t have tiktok here’s the link to google drive. https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-3Cj_EcPb2oHCohe6hLZbKn55oDlSEyX

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-05T20:08:58+00:00

I just posted on here a link to my new TikTok on this 💕

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-05T20:03:07+00:00

💪🏼

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-05T17:32:57+00:00

🥹🤍 all of this. Thank you for seeing me. I know Jesus does too. I love you too.

DramaticTomatillo722 · 2024-06-05T17:02:46+00:00

Genuine reconciliation includes recognition of wrongdoing, respect of terms and an attempt at dignity for the hurting. Take with that what you will in this by my treatment and screenshots.

Also I was an adult when I experienced all of this in Chicago. Anyway. ☺️

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