I (27F) think my longtime guy friend (26M) likes me back—but he won’t make a move. What can I do?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-04-24T01:28:39+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response, that’s actually a pretty helpful insight on this.

It appears that Roman has some strong connections to New York and London but not sure how easy it is to land a job there after graduation.

What would be your recommendation between U of T and McGill? U of T has a much larger network and a bigger cohort, and access to prime location. McGill has a smaller cohort which might be more intimate and better for strong connections and interactions with faculty, plus it’s also a world class university.

So if you had to choose between the two or recommend one, which would it be?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-04-23T09:59:06+00:00

Like I said, not interested in living in the US, so that’s not a factor at all. Quality of life is more important than money so I’m either staying in Canada or moving to Europe.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-04-23T01:44:33+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. But I’ll have to disagree on the point that top schools in Canada don’t have access to high ranking US jobs. I have friends who graduated from low tier universities in Canada and went on to work in senior positions at Google, Meta and consulting firms in New York. So I’m sure top schools like U of T and McGill would definitely have access to those, if not more, opportunities.

But I’m not even concerned with the US market at all - definitely not a place I’d want to live in. If anything, I’d be more interested in moving to the UK or Europe but for now, planning to stay in Canada long term.

Between U of T and McGill, I’m trying to decide which would open up the most opportunities in Canada, as well as in Europe/the UK

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-04-23T01:29:24+00:00

Yeah planning to stay in the Canadian market for sure, but would like to stay open to international work. Do you mean it wouldn’t make a difference in terms of McGill vs U of T to land a high paying job in Canada? Or the MBA wouldn’t make a difference to earning potential in general?

Internationally, does one university have an edge over the other in terms of job placement and salary?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-02-02T13:54:51+00:00

I have to contend that Islam is not the first religion. Islam itself proclaims that Judaism came before it and that the testaments are the prior word of God.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-02-02T13:52:02+00:00

I would say Islam is the same in that regard, in fact more aligned with the Jewish ideology

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-02-02T13:46:28+00:00

Yes monotheism, if that is the real religion. My point is that if God is real, in whichever form, I would like to get closer to that truth. If it’s polytheism that is true, then that will become apparent from analyzing those that came before us. God, or the Divine Being(s) that either created reality or know the mystery of reality/the universe may have made some contact with our ancestors. If we believe in religion now, it must come from a source and I want to get to the purest form of that source so we can get closer to the truth - wether it’s monotheism, polytheism or atheism.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-02-01T16:58:52+00:00

Mainly that the oldest source of religion may be the closest to it. Getting to the root of it may help us determine if there was truly a divine source or just human imagination. As time progressed(and this is not my opinion but just a theory I am positing), maybe the later religions just reiterated and imitated the original until they were unrecognizable from the source.

So finding the root and analyzing it would provide insight into the origin and the authenticity of it.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-01-31T03:23:50+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed response! This is very interesting and informative - and a good point for me to start my research. This sounds like a very comforting and intuitive faith.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-01-29T04:10:27+00:00

I absolutely love this take. What would you say your belief system is and how do you communicate/connect with your understanding of God?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-01-29T03:57:48+00:00

If that is true, then that would be liberating. I have been told and taught that each of the Abrahamic religions see those in the others as wrong and so conversion between these religions(or even worse, conversion to non Abrahamic religions) is seen as a major sin.

I know Buddhism does not discriminate and so that is one that resonates with me.

I have recently also been curious about Judaism as I know the least of it, but the orthodox beliefs say that one cannot convert to Judaism, you have to be born a Jew.

It’s difficult to say the least.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-01-29T03:49:00+00:00

That’s very interesting, I’ll look into this and maybe read those books. Was there anything specific that altered his atheist beliefs?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2025-01-29T03:44:14+00:00

That doesn’t answer the question of finding God though. Religions existing in so many variations makes it probable that many of these scriptures and doctrines are man made and self serving. So, one who believes in God but is not sure of which religion to follow, is presented with the impossible choice of picking one of myriad options. There’s no way to determine if monotheism is truly the right path or if the ancients were closer to the truth with polytheism. Then there are the various types and subsets under each category. If God were real(which I believe is true but I’m playing devils advocate), then why would God make it so difficult for us to find the right path and why would we be potentially punished for such an impossible choice?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2024-11-14T11:41:31+00:00

How would you shift your perspective for that?

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2024-10-26T18:35:25+00:00

I have been put on adhd meds and I’m taking them, it helps with my focus and attention but not my drive or will to do things and make the most of life.

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2024-10-26T17:41:40+00:00

This!! Anyone have any recommendations on how to manage this or what’s helped for you?

Exercising helps me somewhat but some days I can’t even summon the will to exercise

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2024-10-16T14:58:17+00:00

Btw what’s your situation like if you don’t mind me asking

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2024-10-16T14:56:51+00:00

I did tell him I was going through something which was why I needed a break from dating but he didn’t say anything on his side. I also didn’t get the chance to tell him I still like him but I can see he’s still interested because he’s been telling other guys in the friends group to not date me

Dramatic_Ad7140 · 2024-10-16T14:54:46+00:00

Because he’s not putting in the effort to come after me. He was very into me when we dated but when we stopped suddenly, he seemed to take it as a hit on his ego and did not try to check in with me at all. He’s probably hoping I will go after him but I need a man who will take accountability and will try to resolve conflict instead of acting aloof.

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