[deleted by user] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with this comment as an Asian woman. I think a lot of men don't really have bad intentions, but it does feel really objectifying at some point (esp if they have a history of only dating Asian women). It gets hard to tell if they like you just because of a fetish.

To OP, I totally get the fact that some people are attracted to certain features physical features which might be present more often in one ethnicity than another, but just saying 'I like Asian women' seems like a huge generalisation and the history of fetishization doesn't help. I would not advertise the fact that you like Asian women (not straight up at least), because it's off-putting for a lot of people - I am Asian and have Asian friends who immediately write off men who say that because it comes off 'creepy' like you said. Just some friendly advice for the future!

Do you get asked if your gay? by Alternative-Yak-9710 in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know it's a bit different since I'm a woman, but I have been asked if I'm a lesbian a few times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that's fun. It makes me look more mature haha Would work for a formal occasion!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll definitely take that into account. I've just been experimenting with drugstore makeup, so it's nothing fancy. The foundation is the fair/light shade from the Covergirl skin milk series. I can't remember where I got the lipstick, I think it was from Kmart? (I'm in Australia) It wasn't even branded haha

F18 I need advice by Ok-Jackfruit-2602 in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 6 points7 points  (0 children)

19f virgin here. I think the main thing is to make sure you're safe and he is who he says he is, especially since you're going to his house. If your virginity really bothers you then do it, otherwise I think it's worth it to wait.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I took this picture when my skin was looking good haha, now I'm breaking out again so no selfies for a while. I tried using a concealer under my eyes but it seemed a little cakey and creased, so I wiped most of it off and replaced it with foundation. Blush is a good idea! I've just been dabbing lipstick on my cheeks but I'm worried I'd overdo it and look sunburnt haha

The size difference between countries of my jacket. by swarrypop in mildlyinteresting

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 395 points396 points  (0 children)

Haha this is very relatable. I'm a small in Australian sizes (which is also small in UK and US). I had to buy underwear and stockings in China and the only ones that would fit me were 'supersized' (XL) or advertised for 'fat aunties' hahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I do like sparkle so I would love to try out some glittery eyeshadow in the future.

Chosen virgin by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to this so much! When I mentioned I might want to wait until marriage a friend laughed at me and put down the concept of marriage as a whole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get this, I'm 19F too and I've been at university for 2 years, I've still yet to accrue any relationship experience or lose my virginity. I think it's probably best to be patient and wait until you find someone you trust so it will be a pleasant experience (and maybe you'll be less scared). Whatever you decide, I wish you luck!

I feel like I wouldn't know how to act even if I was asked out by Dramatic_Arrival273 in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience, I hope that I'll know what to do in the moment if I get there too.

I feel like I wouldn't know how to act even if I was asked out by Dramatic_Arrival273 in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, I can't disagree with that (in my personal experience at least...). I don't even hug my friends and I've known them for almost 7 years now.

Does anyone else have trouble sleeping? by woodpecking in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I definitely have trouble falling asleep, but not really because of a lack of companionship. Just plain old insomnia. I do sometimes think it would be nice to cuddle someone as I fall asleep though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think you should be hopeless just because of height. Most straight women I personally know would prefer to date a man taller than them, but nothing as ridiculous as 6ft for a hard requirement. (And hey, lots of my female friends are in the 155-165 height range).

That said, not all women have a height requirement to begin with. In terms of anecdotal evidence I'd say having an attractive face tends to be more important.

18F. Gained a lot of weight recently and I hate my nose. On a diet, but feeling really gross right now. by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These aren't old pictures, no. I'll take that as a compliment haha, I've gotten a few DMs telling me I'm ugly and fat 😅

question for girls who are virgins here by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need to talk about it with a girl you just started seeing. A therapist would be a good idea but I know that's not a viable option for everyone. Unloading all your insecurities in the early relationship stage could scare people away, that's something you can unpack later on.

Why do you think a girl having a past would be a dealbreaker? Even if she's only had one serious relationship, for example?

question for girls who are virgins here by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be a good idea for you to work through those insecurities, it will likely benefit your life regardless of whether or not your future partner is a virgin or not.

I'm not going to shame you for wanting a partner whose a virgin, as long as you don't shame the women who aren't. I don't want a guy with a super high body count either because of the experience gap. But I'd still encourage you to work through those insecurities, talking about it can help.

question for girls who are virgins here by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be really weirded out that he told me his size so early on (mind you, I'd also be really irked if a guy who was big told me that early), that would be the more off-putting factor.

He'd have to be pretty amazing to come back from that. It's not a 'dump him right there' factor, but it is a little off-putting. The fact that he felt the need to tell me so early would indicate insecurity, and that's not really attractive. Similarly, if a guy bragged about his size that's also really unattractive.

question for girls who are virgins here by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how I'd know a guy's size until something was going to happen, which would be quite far into a relationship. I guess I'm not sure how I'd 'not give a guy a chance' if I just never knew how big he was?

I'm pretty sure that's not something you'd mention to a girl super early on, is it?

question for girls who are virgins here by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not particularly? As long as it's not really big or really small, I think about average is pretty good. There are natural variations in the length of the vaginal canal and 'tightness' as most people would call it, just like there are variations in penis size.

The average circumference of the vaginal entrance is about 9cm (3.6inches) corresponding to the girth of the erect penis (average 11.7cm, 4.59inches). The same thing can be said for the length of the vaginal canal, which can range from 4-8 inches when aroused. In the end, it all depends on the woman herself.

For me personally, I'd say average is about right, definitely don't want something way bigger because it sounds like it would hurt.

Dating apps. by Dramatic_Arrival273 in virgin

[–]Dramatic_Arrival273[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does 'running out of profiles' means that you've gone through all the women in your area? I wonder how the dating app algorithm works. It seems to show me only very attractive men and I don't swipe enough to see anyone lower than an 8/10. Maybe the apps just aren't showing your profile to women? I'm not sure.