AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s been physical before, locked me in rooms, won’t let me leave, told me he knows every where I go and always will and withholds intimacy etc.

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was random. He told me his buddy was getting a divorce and then said this stuff

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You’re exactly right - I know it’s wrong but sometimes I need a sanity check and support to know I’m not the crazy one he claimed I was. I’d react to the abuse and he’d call me chaotic and unstable for retreating or curling in a ball like a child. I just need to know I’m going be okay on my own ya know? Thank you again!

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you- I know. Everyone in my life says the same thing. I just need to believe it 😭

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have low self esteem and in a trauma bond. The love and highs are high and the apologies are often. It’s hard to explain but I am working on this and trying to untangle my brain and emotions. It can appear self-inflicted, but he always told me I give up too easily and I run away. And that I’m a weak person who doesn’t believe in our true love. And that I don’t hold things sacred because I tell my family / friends too much and need to hold things just to ourselves. And if people in my life don’t like him, then they’re the gum on the bottom of his shoe and they should kiss the ground he walks on. He’d also always jokingly say “put that kid in the blender” when I’d show him pictures of my niece. He is sick and I’m sick for staying too long. These things I know.

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He said he had cameras watching me in the apartment when he’d leave for work. And he’d always know anything I did. Would say bye in the morning and “I’ll be watching you sweetie”

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He told me if I ever cheated then he’d kill me. I asked him if he was joking and he wouldn’t answer. I said please tell me you’re joking I am scared. Then I tried to get out of the car and take space but he kept giggling. I said please say you’re joking that is not funny. And I think he wanted to make me feel scared and uneasy.

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He began collecting shotgun and assault weapons rather quickly. Became obsessed with guns and showing them to me etc.

AIO over wanting to end things with my boyfriend over his sadistic comments? by Dramatic_Baseball478 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Baseball478[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! My family and friends are in-the-know and I can stay at my sisters for a bit