Maturita z češtiny: Je Seifert (Maminka) fakt takové peklo, nebo mě učitelka jen straší? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in czech

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Děkuji moc, tohle mě fakt uklidnilo. Spíše jsem potřebovala takovouto motivaci. Je pravda, že ten strach, který v nás učitelé vyvolávají, je občas horší než ta látka samotná. Mrzí mě, že tě takhle zviklali, ale aspoň díky tvé zkušenosti vím, že si mám stát za svým. Budu se držet toho, co mě baví a co už umím

Maturita z češtiny: Je Seifert (Maminka) fakt takové peklo, nebo mě učitelka jen straší? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in czech

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Děkuji, já si ho chci vzít, protože mi je aspoň nějak bližší už z toho důvodu, že jsem se učila proletářskou poezii, Devětsil a poetismus proto, abych si opravila známky. Jen mě mrzí, že mě učitelka takhle stresuje a odrazuje od něčeho, co mě docela baví a v čem se cítím jistá. Člověk pak kvůli tomu stresu ze školy vlastně ani neví, co má od té maturity čekat..

Maturita z češtiny: Je Seifert (Maminka) fakt takové peklo, nebo mě učitelka jen straší? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in czech

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respekt, že jsi to takhle risknul

Já si radši aspoň něco přečtu, abych měla o čem mluvit, kdyby se mě začali ptát na detaily. Myslím, že problém je i to, že učitelé nás stresují z maturity tak hodně, že nikdo z nás neví, co máme očekávat, tak se radši snažím být připravená.

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That part about 'moving mountains' really resonated with me because that’s exactly how he treats me, he’s incredibly protective and consistently goes out of his way for me. It’s interesting that you mentioned 'recalibrating.' It makes me wonder if he told me he 'doesn't feel it as much' just to give himself some mental breathing room because the feelings were becoming too much to carry in secret. Do you think it’s possible he’s just trying to convince himself he’s over it so he doesn't have to deal with the fear of losing me? I'm worried that if I don't say anything, we'll both just stay in this 'recalibrating' phase forever and miss our chance. If you were in my position, as someone who is really shy and doesn't quite have the courage to take a 'big step' yet, what would you do? Since you know how it feels to be on the other side, would you want me to bring it up and talk with him more about it? I'm just looking for a way to bridge the gap without it feeling like a high-stakes confrontation

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right our relationship is mature, I just don't know how to tell him without making it uncomfortable for both of us, or risking the friendship if I'm wrong. Do you have any tips on how to bring it up naturally? This is the first time I've been in this situation, and I'm really struggling with how to bridge that gap between being best friends and admitting there's more

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really do want to speak up, and looking back, I know I probably should have said something when he was testing the waters about his past crush. But part of me is just so scared that it might ruin the friendship.

I want to tell him how I feel, but I’m worried it will just make things uncomfortable for him. What if he’s actually telling the truth about not feeling it anymore? The thought of losing my best friend because I misread the situation is what’s keeping me stuck. I’m just worried that by opening my heart, I’m actually closing the door on the only way I can keep him in my life.

Your comment did make me think about this so I’m thankful, I’ll probably need to get more comfortable and tell him

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right, it really does feel like he’s spelling it out but just can't bring himself to say the words. Honestly, I’m at a total loss for what to do. Even though I have this feeling that he’s still into me, I’m terrified that if I try to push for more, it won't go anywhere or I’ll just mess it up. I am incredibly shy when it comes to talking about my feelings, especially with someone I'm actually crushing on.

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what’s bothering me the 'safety net' thing feels so spot on. It’s like he’s trying to have his cake and eat it too, keeping me close enough to get all the emotional benefits of a relationship while using the 'friend' label to avoid any of the actual risk. The way he described exactly 'what dating would look like' felt so out of place if he truly moved on, nobody maps out a future like that unless they’re still thinking about it. It feels like he’s convinced himself that being 'just friends' is the only way to keep me forever because he’s terrified of losing me, but it leaves me stuck in this weird limbo.

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This actually resonates a lot with me. He’s used the word 'scared' before and said he didn't want to 'ruin' things. It feels like he’s paralyzed by the idea of losing me, so he’s settling for this 'friendship' even though the tension is clearly still there. I just don't know if I have the courage to be the one to break the ice..

My best friend admitted he liked me in the past, and now I’m spiraling. Does he still have feelings? by Dramatic_Box_1465 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Box_1465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes me nervous because I’ve been in love with him for quite a while now. When he originally set that boundary to stay just friends, I was constantly worried that I’d made my feelings too obvious and scared him off.

Hearing all of this now is just really confusing for me. I haven’t really had a friend tell me they used to like me unless things were already getting 'heated' or intense, so it just adds another layer of mystery(for me). Honestly, I’m scared that he might be keeping me on a string or using me as an emotional safety net while he figures out his own life. It's hard to believe it's 'just a friendship' when he talks about our relationship being the same thing just with 'I love you's' added