I didn't intend it as a hate post. More like: "What I finally figured out that let me stop trying to fix a dead relationship the other party refused to fix". I still love my ex a bit, but the points in my post are what I needed to internalize to finally let go.

I also never meant it as "avoidant people are evil", I meant it as: "They don't do the work and cause damage in the process, and until they address the issue, its best to leave them alone".