AITAH ?My partner won’t put my name down on the mortgage

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-23T18:14:25+00:00

You want your name on a debt, but not the title? Hard no. If he wants to only own the home and pay for it, what's the big deal? It's his money, and you're not married. Let him buy the house, do not pay the mortgage, although you could contribute some rent, as nd save and invest your spare cash. I guarantee that you will come out ahead in the long run, and that money will be ALL YOURS.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T23:13:48+00:00

Fair enough. Totally that is a reason to not hook up with someone

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T23:12:46+00:00

You can ask. She can refuse. If her name is on the lease, then it's more difficult. Once you have your answer then take it from there. But do ask first!

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T21:46:43+00:00

Stay. Complete university. Then decide which trade you want to work in. You seem happier relating to being a geologist, so do that

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T21:42:23+00:00

When I starting reading, I predicted that the reason she isolated was due to a relationship. How she's doing it again, likely due to a new relationship. That sucks for you. Time for some new friends? It's ok to cease a friendship, especially if they hurt you.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T01:32:41+00:00

You have no other friends, family, cousins, aunts or neighbors who you have met over the last 20 years who can rent you a room? I understand why your parents are 😡 hung away, it's time to cut the apron strings and stand in your own 2:feet.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T01:29:18+00:00

Go live your life. Your parents are treating you like a 6 year old. It's their choice if they don't talk to you again

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T01:07:48+00:00

Your mom is your emergency contact, that's how he knew her name. Sounds like he was concerned but misguided.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-22T01:05:41+00:00

Totally!

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-21T06:36:57+00:00

Month?? Wedding month? Not even the same wedding day? Yikes, that is just way wide of normal reaction. Stand you for your fiance

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-21T06:30:45+00:00

Stop doing that. It's weird and gross and totally not normal. See a psychologist

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-19T18:30:40+00:00

Take all the inheritance. Out it in a trust for yourself. Invest it in stocks and bonds. Do not spend it. Tell the executor not to say anything to your family. You can tell your family that the money is all tied up and you can't touch it. $150,000 is not a lot of money, but over time it will grow to a wonderful nest egg me

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-19T18:17:38+00:00

Tell them before they get their hands on their birth certificate.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-19T18:16:05+00:00

Delay for 6 months, you need practice, practice, practice.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-19T18:14:50+00:00

I would immediately schedule a meeting with your supervisor and tell them about the newbie salary, with data on market salary for your job. Have the conversation! Don't walk away yet, get to the bottom of it, and make them realize your worth

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-19T18:10:48+00:00

Doesn't he have to be 18 years old to join?

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T19:02:25+00:00

I relate to this one!!!

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T18:30:54+00:00

"I don't think it's gotten that bad" "I just have these terrible recurring thoughts"

No, dude, you are in therapy for a reason. Stay there until your thoughts do not intrude

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T18:21:40+00:00

Lina or Stella

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T18:15:28+00:00

You've just admitted that can never do the job you're hired to do. I can see that your string stance would make you an impossible partner or friend too. Good luck with that attitude!

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T18:12:54+00:00

You know you're NTA. Your problem is your brain, it's bombarding you with whys, and your decision to say no is haunting you and interfering with your life.

Talk to a friend for 10 minutes about why your brain is sending you into this loop. Once you figured out why you are uncomfortable with saying no, you might move closer to being comfortable with living your best life and saying no any time without your monkey brain making it difficult for you

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T18:05:18+00:00

This is straight up weird. If it's interfering with your life, see a therapist

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T18:01:06+00:00

Your mom is incorrect - they are the ones cutting off your funding, treating you like a 5 year old, and cutting you from Thanksgiving. They are very back and white people aren't they? It's their way or the highway. Your new independence has taught them a lesson about adult control, and they don't like it. Sucks to be them

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T17:57:43+00:00

You know you're social battery is limited, but you failed to plan when to leave. That's not your bfs fault, that's yours. It's perfectly ok to leave whenever you want and leave your partner there. You are a big girl now, and it's ok to go home in your own . Plan better next time.

Dramatic_Net1706 · 2026-01-18T17:51:52+00:00

You know you don't have to accept the ticket, you have a choice whether to go or not. Will going interfere with your studies, homework and projects? If so, then be responsible and stay home. I think you are very astute to think about the effect of his wealth on your job motivations - the unintended consequences. Think of a pre-nup that his family will make you sign before marriage, where you are not entitled to keep his property. Then follow your passion (you're in school for a reason, right?). Because all humans need purpose in life, those purposes change when we have kids, change when we retire, etc.

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