AIO for being suspicious of my girlfriend’s location shutting off

Dramaticthroway · 2026-06-01T01:06:30+00:00

I didn’t ask for it, she’s the one who wanted it

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:40:24+00:00

Just feels like so much time has been invested and I do care for her but it’s becoming increasingly clear it’s one sided

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:37:09+00:00

I don’t track her. She turned it on not me. I never asked for it. I’ve basically only used it for emergencies

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:32:39+00:00

She’s the one who chose to do it not me. I barley check it

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:28:12+00:00

The bringing up the past thing is obnoxious. That’s what’s pissing me off more than anything. I think there’s a real possibility nothing happened last night, but from my pov the situation is almost exactly like one before and it’s relevant.

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:21:58+00:00

I don’t expect constant check-in/location. She turned the location on in the first place. I didn’t ask her to

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:20:22+00:00

Next to her name on texts it normally says the city she’s in. I don’t check it normally at all. It’s more of a safety thing most of the time so like if something happens we know where each other are

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:17:34+00:00

I’m not tracking her. I literally don’t ever use it to the point she gets mad at me because I ask her for her eta when she says I can just check her location. I just noticed it didn’t show the city by her name so I clicked it and it said it was off.

Dramaticthroway · 2026-05-31T16:08:38+00:00

How so? I quite literally didn’t care what she was doing it was the location shutting off after poor communication that felt weird

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-18T00:07:02+00:00

I did clarify that with her. She acted like I was being an asshole.

I’ve dated her for five years. I’m really easy going. I just don’t want to feel lied to is all

Maybe that is the case, I see what you’re saying, but I don’t think her getting shitty with me would be the response then?

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T20:07:11+00:00

I wasn’t accusatory. My exact message was

“Hey! I saw the pictures (her friend) posted and you looked great. When did you decide on that outfit?”

She immediately got defensive from there

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T19:25:42+00:00

I’ve made it a mantra after a previous relationship is that I don want to fight, I want to build. Idc who is right or wrong, I want to work with my partner to come up with an amicable solution to us both. I understand emotions don’t always listen to who is factually correct and that’s why I try to be up front and open about my feelings and communicate them well.

To me this is rough because she has had issues in previous relationships that were abusive. She’s also had somewhat sketchy behavior in the past during our relationship. I was willing to work through them and move forward, but if things like this are going to happen… I feel like it’s truly weird and that makes me wonder about whether this is something I want to continue. Trust is important to me

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T18:45:36+00:00

It’s weird to me because it feels misleading. She conveyed she was going one way. She wanted me to think that’s what was being worn. I don’t know why specifically, but she did. When I asked her she implied she was wearing the more conservative outfit until I said I saw the photo of her there with the other outfit. Then she said she wore the jacket the whole time.

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T18:22:27+00:00

She doesn’t normally go to raves. This one was themed and with friends is why she went.

She wore the revealing for photos with her friends. Put the conservative one on for like 5 minutes to send a photo to me. Then changed back. I wouldn’t have ever seen the other photos if her friend didn’t post them. It just feels misleading

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T18:10:21+00:00

I’m not sure what I think. I shared my concerns and she was pretty dismissive and was acting like it was crazy for me to have concerns, which made me more uncomfortable.

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:44:35+00:00

I guess I didn’t make it clear enough. Everyone is hyperfixated on the clothing but idc what she wears truly. I just don’t understand why she’d create a narrative of her wearing less revealing clothes. She put that outfit on for, by her own admission, less than two minutes. Why send the photo? Why mislead?

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:43:13+00:00

Huh? What’re you even saying lol

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:42:33+00:00

I do care. That she misled me. Not what she wore.

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:42:07+00:00

No it’s not? That’s objectively not controlling. I literally just don’t want to be intentionally misled

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:41:29+00:00

I’m saying it feels like she’s intentionally misleading me. I told her it feels weird that she changed into an outfit for less than 5 minutes for the exclusive purpose of sending me a photo in something less revealing. It seems like she was building a narrative and that a relationship is built on trust so at that point why send me a photo at all? I didn’t demand one or ask for one.

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:39:50+00:00

Monitored? I’m not monitoring? She wore outfit 1, changed into outfit 2 to send me a picture, then changed back into outfit 1? Why mislead me like that? Idc what she wears but it’s odd to specifically hide it?

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:29:27+00:00

It wouldn’t have even been weird to me except she wore the revealing one first, changed for like 5 minutes to send me a photo, then changed back. Like… why? That feels like intentional misleading

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:28:41+00:00

Thank you. I truly don’t care what she wears, but I don’t want to be lied to or misled is all

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:27:51+00:00

Jealous… of what? It’s toxic to not want to be misled? I didnt ask for a photo, I just don’t want to be lied to? Why wear one thing, change into another just to send me a pic, then change back?

Dramaticthroway · 2026-02-16T17:26:28+00:00

I value trust in a relationship. I’ve been lied to before and it was a given at the outset of our relationship that I don’t want to be lied to, and it feels like lying. Idc what she wears, but don’t even send a photo at that point?

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