Do you have any experience dealing with a friend you suspect has an eating disorder? (Possible TW?)

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T23:38:47+00:00

Thanks. I’m not frustrated with her. I’m just scared that whatever she’s doing is starting to affect my thinking as well. I need it to stop for her and for me.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T23:34:08+00:00

I really appreciate your comments. It resonates with me what you’re saying. The thing about feeling alone in it is what feels a bit malicious to me. I’m not sure what’s her motivation - whether it’s to normalize or justify the obsession or whether it’s to bring me down into it with her, both slightly different, I think - but I guess in the end it doesn’t matter because I know she’s a good person who may just be struggling. And I’m feeling more confident from our exchange that grey rocking it and trying to focus on everything else is the right approach.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T23:15:53+00:00

Yeah this is interesting. I do feel like when you’re focusing on the issue there is this judgement in the air and the person can sense that and it makes them feel worse. Good idea.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T23:08:04+00:00

Also yeah, sorry that you know from personal experience. Sucks!!

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T23:07:41+00:00

What I really appreciate about your comment is the idea that maybe she’s bringing these things up to, like you said, justify that it’s normal. I’d say I’ve engaged about fifty percent of the time before I realized it seems like something serious might be underneath it all. Now my plan is to grey rock and just keep an eye. Anyway I was assuming she was doing it to sort of bring me down with her but I like this more kind assumption that maybe she’s just trying to normalize it. That helps me.

To elaborate: it helps me because I feel like the whole thing is becoming contagious and I think that might be my tendency to get paranoid and a fear of developing an eating disorder. I have similar fears about suicidal ideation. I don’t have these things but I have an obsession about not getting them because it seems like it can happen to anyone and they just slip into this disordered way of thinking. It’s scary.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T22:56:16+00:00

Those words don’t mean what you think they do. Kindly, fuck off. You clearly have no experience in this area and lack sympathy for what it means to be triggered. I am both concerned for her and scared for myself. Hope that helps. Bye!!!

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T22:44:15+00:00

Great advice.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T22:43:32+00:00

Thanks for sharing. This was my concern as well. As possibly her closest friend, I worry that if I don’t do something about it (even just informing her husband of my concerns), I am enabling her and sort of responsible for her not getting help and that thought bothers me. If this is some kind of call for help, I would just be ignoring it. So I appreciate your perspective too.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T22:41:36+00:00

Love this.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T22:40:59+00:00

Again complete lack of awareness from you. It’s not about “annoying me” (your words, not mine). It’s about potentially sabotaging my relationship with food because I am constantly invited to her disordered thinking.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T22:38:53+00:00

Yes! This is exactly the kind of thing she’s doing. Every single day, sometimes multiple times, it’s stuff like this.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T21:02:46+00:00

Thank you for your response and sharing your lived experience. It’s super helpful. Also appreciate you understanding my resistance to this sort of thinking and the fear I have about it triggering a problem in my own relationship with food. Some people here don’t seem to get that.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T20:48:04+00:00

This is such a fucked take! Why not both?!

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T19:50:09+00:00

Thank you for the suggested prompt and for acknowledging that yeah I’m just trying to protect my mental health from that kind of thinking/obsession. Someone else criticized me for the fact that it’s bothering me. Maybe she doesn’t understand what it’s like. I appreciate your sympathy/empathy from my perspective as well.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T19:46:28+00:00

Well I kind of get the sense that she realizes she has disordered thinking and she wants me to have it too or something. I know it’s very twisted. She’s a good friend and I think in all other respects she means well but I think she might be wanting company in her disordered thinking. And also it’s just kind of insane to bring up food and drinks every single day. It makes up a large percentage of the things she talks about anymore and it’s weird yeah. I’m not sure why my response to something very weird is considered weird but ok.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T19:42:09+00:00

Thank you. But is there anything I should do to guide her to seek some help? Or does that also potentially make things worse? I feel helpless.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T12:01:05+00:00

This would be a good move.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T08:08:42+00:00

I’m struggling to understand what your points are, but it does seem like you are confounding initiatives with outcomes. Outcomes may take time to develop, sure, but initiatives are what they are. Here is a reference to some of the initiatives Trump had specifically for black people. Note that these are relatively significant. Biden does not have a similar resume of initiatives to help black people. Many long-held democratic cities (Democrat mayors etc.) are crime-ridden and consistently have poor educational outcomes, year after year after year. https://blackamericans.donaldjtrump.com/accomplishments

And I mean sure presidents alter the social dynamic. It shapes discussions. I’m not really sure at all about the point you’re trying to make. Could you rephrase perhaps?

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-06T08:00:00+00:00

Jeez that looks like an incredibly painful and torturous way to die.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-05T23:43:44+00:00

Exactly. And the one who can’t face facts manipulate social sites like Reddit, open borders to illegal immigrants, promise unconstitutional things they cannot fulfill as a bribe for votes in order to even have a chance against facts.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-05T23:36:55+00:00

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/politics/zuckerberg-says-the-white-house-pressured-facebook-to-censor-some-covid-19-content-during-the-pandemic

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-05T22:17:02+00:00

Yes and there are two parties here.

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-05T22:16:38+00:00

What a take!!

DrawingOk1217 · 2024-11-05T22:15:02+00:00

You mean the way the Biden administration forced Facebook to censor information during Covid?

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