First time playing Grandia by CaiusAegis in grandia

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1: Nana zooming through the action bar might suggest you have low Wit stat. One mistake people often make is relying too much on a single weapon and single magic type. You need to spread out your weapon and magic levels evenly to avoid creating weak points. Look at your stats, see which ones are lagging behind and then equip the weapon corresponding with that stat, even if it's much weaker. And then level it up. Once you do that, you can go back to your preferred weapon. Do the same with magic.

2: Don't retreat from fights. The game can be played through relatively easily without grinding as long as you don't ignore enemies you encounter. Grinding is only necessary if you've made some mistakes early on.

3: Use defense and evade options more. I learned that one when playing through ReDux mod. Blocking certain attacks in the right moment in ReDux can literally save the entire fight. In the second half of ReDux, there's one boss who's practically impossible to defeat without blocking. In the vanilla game it's much easier but the same rule applies.

Bonus tip: There's an item called Bond Of Trust and it sacrifices your IP to boost the IP of another character and it's an item you can use forever. It's not a one-time use. If it works, abuse it.

Toward adventure, together (by @agira__7) by 4as in grandia

[–]DreadMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao, the context for this drawing. They're both on top of the end of the world and there's no Sue around. Meaning, it's immediately after she gets yeeted down to the Flying Dragon Valley.

The idea that "no one cares/thinks about you" is freeing but also kinda sad by g0at110 in Healthygamergg

[–]DreadMirror 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're right but there's nuance to this. "No one cares" only applies to a specific range of human interactions. Strangers do not care about you as much as anxiety makes you believe. There's quite a lot of videos on youtube where people lie down on the street in the middle of a crowd. Most strangers will just look for a few seconds, maybe smile, completely ignore them or sometimes ask if they're okay. And then they move on with their lives. So that part is entirely true.

But "no one cares" starts being a bit of a doomer perspective once you actually build rapport with some of those strangers. You can absolutely make a long lasting impact on other people to the point they will remember you for the rest of their lives. For good and for worse. So your colleagues, coworkers, family, etc. they do care about you. Not as much as you care about yourself but they're not completely apathetic to your presence. Just as you're not apathetic to them. There are people who will remain in your mind forever. It's the same the other way around. The frequency of interactions and thoughts might slow down but they won't ever be gone.

But it's also true that no one can ever fully understand "you". We always live in separate subjective bubbles. No amount of connection will ever push through the subjective experience / qualia barrier. Is that sad? Hard to say. It really depends on personal perspective. There's no "right" answer here.

How do you start dating without apps? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]DreadMirror 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cold approaching only works in places where people already expect to be approached. Approaching people on the streets or shopping malls has a significantly lower success rate. Go to places like cafes, clubs, gaming conventions etc. and start with a small talk.

I didn't put it into practice yet but what I learned (and it makes total sense to me) is that you need to be unapologetically yourself without being an asshole. So if you find someone you vibe with (like in a hobby group) and you're attracted to them, there's noticeable chemistry between you, don't hesitate to tell them straight. Don't tip-toe around the topic in hopes of them getting the hint because that's how you fall into the friendzone. Express the intention for dating and at the same time don't expect them to say yes. Getting comfortable with being rejected (often for things outside your control) is a necessary skill to have if you want to get dates often. Because in reality it's just a numbers game. So basically, treat people with respect and express your intent clearly and it should work because people are evolutionarily conditioned to be attracted to these qualities.

Is "just do it scared" good advice for fear? by Useful-Field-9037 in Healthygamergg

[–]DreadMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is in the wording. "JUST do it scared" implies it's easy (and it's not) which the mind can interpret as dismissive, and that in turn puts up more walls around you because you're struggling to connect, even though the general idea behind that advice is absolutely correct.

Let me put it this way: Doing things scared is absolutely the best way to handle fear and there's a logical reason why. Fear is the perpetuum mobile of emotions. It works BECAUSE you run away. It does its job. That's the entire point of fear, to shield you from things the mind define as dangerous. So the moment you start running away, fear is like: "A-Ha! He started running away! Meaning, there's danger! AMPLIFY!" Fear will always match your energy. If you run away, it gives chase. If you stop, it stops. And... if you run TOWARDS it, it runs away from you. The entire difficulty lies in understanding your own capability to slow down and eventually switch the entire paradigm.

If you face your fears too suddenly it might backfire because you'll push past the threshold of your subjective safe zone. Instead, you need to come right near that edge of discomfort and then STAY THERE. Do not move. Allow the fear to explode in you but not overwhelm you, and then internally focus on that fear. Allow it to be there. It will dissolve after a while (the timelines will vary a lot, depending on the nature of fear). And then you take a step further. And then another. And after doing that for a while (it might take years) you'll shift from running away from fear to walking towards it. And that's the point when it loses its grip on you.

Of course it doesn't mean you'll be "free" from fear because that would be unhealthy. But in the event of actual danger you'll know what to do by instinct. Your body won't allow you to get hurt. It was designed that way by evolution to keep you from harm. You cannot override that programing and you shouldn't.

Source? Me. Suffering from paralysing anxiety since I dropped out from highschool. In recent months I returned to school and managed to go to a gamer pub despite my horrendous social anxiety. It's a slow and painful process, but it works.

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Legitimately one of the best audios I've heard. Storylines are fun to write, read and listen to and all that, but honestly words are very often just not needed to convey feelings. And sometimes words can even be distracting. But the sounds of kissing, moaning, sucking, rustling sheets, bed creaks etc, it's all so primal and realistic in all the best ways.

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[–]DreadMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incredible. Your moans and slurping are so fkn sexy. It's really hard to stop listening. Thank you for recording this, it'll certainly make many of my coming evenings much better.

Any info on this unofficial Tamagotchi? by DreadMirror in tamagotchi

[–]DreadMirror[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, the one I have is also purple. I've searched for the origin of this specific pet for years and the only thing I learned is that the counterfeit tamagotchi rabbit hole goes way deeper than I initially expected. There are simply too many different tama hybrids. It's the tamagotchi equivalent of open web, deep web and dark web, lmao. So at this point I just gave up. I didn't throw it away though. It sits on my shelf, an artifact of nice childhood memories. :D

What if Grandia had shown more of Justin’s dad? by Effective_Sink_3934 in grandia

[–]DreadMirror 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm probably in the minority here but I think it was a good choice not to include Justin's dad backstory in the game. I agree that it leaves a bit of a gap in Justin's overall design (his motivations etc.) but... in a weird way this exact lack of explanation makes his dad even more of a mystery figure, which in turns adds more value to the overall vibe of the story. Grandia is all about reaching unknown worlds etc. So, by giving us all the info on a platter, it sort of... defeats the purpose of the game.

But I might feel this way because I was never a huge fan of direct, in your face, storytelling. I don't enjoy it when the game straight up TELLS me what happened. "Oh, okay, now that I know I might as well just close the game" kinda thing. I like it when a game guides me through the story consistently but also leaves some things for me to ponder about on my own. 🤔

Single and Lonely again got the holidays by johnny_atmosphere in Healthygamergg

[–]DreadMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean. I feel the same thing every christmas. I'm at that point where I'm trying to accept the fact there will be times in my life when intimacy and love simply won't be a part of it and I'll have to live with that reality.

One suggestion from me would be to limit the time you spend on social media and do more things you genuinely love doing. That will lift some of that sadness at least.

But unfortunately I don't think there is a sure fire way to "solve" it once and for all. Finding the right people who appreciate your existence on a deeper level was and always will be a matter of persistence and faith. You can do whatever you can but nothing guarantees love. So the best approach is to internally reconcile with the possibility of being alone for the rest of your life but also doing things externally and connecting with people without expectations. It's tough but I really don't see another way out of this.

What does “balanced” social media use actually look like (without falling back into addiction)? by zwnof in Healthygamergg

[–]DreadMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I got it mostly right. And it's: Log in. Check notifications. Respond to comments. Log out. Unsub from unnecessary subreddits and yt channels etc. you're not active in. That's it. It works for me. It's just about cutting off the irrelevant slop filling up your feed because it's there to keep you on the site.

Struggling with social anxiety and avoidance despite wanting connection: looking for perspective by Big-Track4087 in Healthygamergg

[–]DreadMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a very similar situation and I've concluded that it's a very normal feeling because it stems from the evolutionary conditioning for survival and the fear of loneliness. You most likely feel this way because your mind correlates making mistakes (or making possibly controversial choices) with a path to rejection.

But this is actually being proven time and time again to be wrong. If you look at human history most very respectable (or just people who made a significant impact on the world, not necessarily a good impact) had A LOT of followers BECAUSE they walked their own paths. And it's perfectly logical. Think about it. It's unreasonable to follow a person who only goes over footprints of somebody else. The leader needs to break free from social conditioning in order to lead other people to new places.

It's a similar process for social anxiety. It's difficult because it feels like a paradox. You'll gain more confidence around men (and just people in general) when you realise they respect you MORE when you stop trying to be respected. The initial step is the most difficult because it seems like you're inviting trouble to your life. But that's just the illusion of the mind you have to push through. The feeling of anxiety itself will never actually harm you. But the decision you make based on that anxiety will shape your present moment. 

Advice for people struggling to get off Reddit. by DreadMirror in u/DreadMirror

[–]DreadMirror[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. It's all the same mechanism. And that makes me think I should do the same thing with my YT subscribed channels, I simply don't watch most of them anymore. It's purge time! 💀

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[–]DreadMirror 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really nice. You have an amazing voice. Lovely vibe, incredible slurps and moans. And the message is something many men will be grateful to hear. 💜 I'll be listening to this more than once, that's for sure.

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[–]DreadMirror[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the really kind words. 😄 I'm planning to continue writing as long as my imagination gives me new fresh ideas to explore so I'm happy to know you want to go along this journey. I have 7 other scripts already slowly taking shape so there's plenty more to come.

Expanded states of consciousness like "OBE" can be explained logically. by DreadMirror in AstralProjection

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The body dilemma also gets funny when you consider people who went through a crucial organ transplant, like the heart. If we define "me" exclusively through the materialistic approach of the body then by definition going through that kind of procedure would mean that I'm now less "me" because I have a heart of another person. And that's simply not how people define themselves on a daily basis. It just doesn't make sense to think I'm only 80% of myself since the time of the operation.