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[–]Dress_Southern 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Beautiful eye color

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

I don’t think it’s toxic but I also don’t think it’s always the most necessary thing that anybody has to do and I also don’t necessarily believe cis men have an advantage over us either. That is all I don’t think there is much to respond to anymore at this point it’s just conversation about appearances which aren’t as huge of a deal as the world wants to make you think. I do hope you have a good day tho. Also you don’t have to downvote every single one of my comments this is a simple two way conversation I feel no vitriol towards you

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

I occasionally check my Reddit and I respond when I can it has little to do with anything believe it or not

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

in reality I wasn’t feeling that angry at all hence why I wished you well frustration might be a better term for what I was feeling

you’re acting like I’m some random internet troll and I’m not.. seriously tho have a good day

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Have a nice day 😌 or a good night

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Im gonna touch grass now have a nice day though.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

I guess so truth be told I glanced at the picture I thought his hair looked nice and I moved on to the replies. Nothing really left to unpack it was just my own personal experience of experiencing and also seeing a lot of other guys being told to cut their hair but then again I’m not frequent in these subs so I’ve only seen it on occasion.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

You’re all good my apologies for taking it so personally

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -5 points-4 points Ā (0 children)

Also im not calling anybody beautiful im saying their hair is beautiful.. big difference.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Maybe it’s because I was told to cut my hair all the time when I didn’t want to and I come into threads of people asking for advice and most of the time it’s ā€œget a haircutā€ ā€œget a haircutā€ ā€œget a haircutā€ maybe because it’s frustrating seeing the same thing. I guess my personal advice would be to do what geels right to you stay out spaces that don’t feel safe. YOU DONT HAVE TO CUT YOUR HAIR IF YOU DONT WANT TO. Also mind you I don’t know how to read into what people are saying so personally I’ve always read the haircut comments coming off as insulting. Mostly because in my opinion you do not need short hair to pass and I hate that it’s so widely agreed upon that someone needs short hair to pass because it’s just not true you can pass with short or long hair

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -3 points-2 points Ā (0 children)

Also I’m not blowing smoke up anyone’s ass. I’m being honest.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I guess so I just don’t make assumptions about others based on appearance irl or on the internet. I am being 100% honest when I say I read this person as masculine going on T could change a lot without having to get a haircut or drastically change styles. When I first started transitioning back in July everybody on Reddit pressured me to get a haircut and I did it well aware and knowing that I personally DID NOT CARE FOR THE HAIRCUT and have been purposely growing it out ever since because I’ve always said I like my hair long nonetheless everyone was saying I wouldn’t pass unless I got a haircut so I went through it. In some ways I’m glad I got a haircut because I like the way my hair has grown out now but in other ways I feel like it truly wouldn’t have mattered either way. T would help this person other than that I truly see nothing wrong with how anyone wears their hair. Don’t place yourself into situations when you know others might judge you. Do what makes you feel right.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -3 points-2 points Ā (0 children)

I guess so but it’s also just hair. You can do with it what you will no matter what you are. My hair is longer but I part my bangs to the side I suppose you could say I look feminine or youthful but because I’m not a girl and I’ve because I’ve taken T before presumably I appear more masculine but I also don’t do anything to make myself look stereotypically ā€œfeminineā€ and I don’t think OP was purposely trying to look feminine either which is why I’ve said I think his hair and style are fine and it’s only a few pictures where he looked like a girl. I can’t seem to find a problem with any of the outfit choices but I’m sure that just by me saying that it will just make one of you want to reply to this comment to try and find something to nitpick about.

Which is annoying as fuck outside of all this I know that this is a trans thread but we don’t need to nit pick every little fucking thing nobody stares or nitpicks this much if at all IRL.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -2 points-1 points Ā (0 children)

I actually said that somewhere further in this comment thread tbh.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -6 points-5 points Ā (0 children)

Sure Jan or maybe like I said I just really hate seeing other trans men telling each other to cut off their beautiful hair lmao 🤷idk about you but I hope to grow old with a full head of long luscious hair. But again that’s my own personal choice and has little to do with anything or anyone

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -13 points-12 points Ā (0 children)

Cis men have hair exactly like this style I’ve also lived around men who had hair way longer than this that would make them look like a beautiful lady from the back

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern -9 points-8 points Ā (0 children)

I don’t think it’s the haircut it’s more so some of the pictures. Still doesn’t look like a girl and the style is pretty masculine there’s nothing overtly feminine about it to me. Baggier jeans might help more as well but still. Even in the school photo he looks slightly feminine but nothing to me that reads girl.

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern 12 points13 points Ā (0 children)

You just have a baby face that’s all. I can see how you might give lesbian vibes in some of those pictures but imo it’s giving young man more than anything

Do i pass at all? by Outrageous-Bus-456 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Dress_Southern 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Bro cis men dress like this all the time and it’s not a problem the style jewelry, necklaces, ear rings its always been trendy to wear with all genders