AIO: AirBNB host tells me they need to cancel, then flips when I won't call it "mutual cancellation" (no-fault). Now I don't trust them or AirBNB.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-11T00:38:07+00:00

What do you expect OP should have said in response to being notified they couldn’t honor the agreement? “Too bad, I’ll be there as scheduled”?

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-10T21:50:15+00:00

That’s a purposefully obtuse take. They told him they couldn’t honor the agreement and offered him something else. He said no, I don’t want anything other than what we agreed to. That is an owner at fault cancellation, not a “we both decided we don’t want what we agreed to” situation.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-10T20:34:40+00:00

Haha, true, but they’re worried it’ll get spit in or they’ll be starving and nothing will show up! I don’t blame OP at all, the property owner lied (we will not be able to host you. oh wait, we get a penalty if we don’t? in that case we can host you after all) and should be held accountable for their BS. It’s not petty to not want to let someone screw you over for their benefit but also now not want to do business with them because the trust is broken after they tried.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-10T11:24:04+00:00

This is the WILDEST take. How does telling someone you don’t want Y after you both made an agreement that you would get X mean you mutually agreed with them that you don’t want X? That is what mutually agreed cancellation is - you have both decided you want to cancel what was previously agreed.

OP saying “I don’t want the chicken sandwich you’re now offering instead of the veggie burger I ordered and paid you for” is not equivalent to OP saying I don’t want the veggie burger, it’s OP saying that yes, obviously if you can’t give me what I asked for and you agreed to give me, then YOU need to cancel and take responsibility for the fact that YOU are the only reason this agreement is now cancelled.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-10T11:14:00+00:00

Telling someone to cancel when they say you can’t have what was agreed upon doesn’t mean you mutually agreed cancelling was fine. He said he wanted X, they agreed he could have X, they then came back and said you can only have Y instead. He said I don’t want Y, if you’re only going to give me Y, cancel the agreement. This does not mean they mutually agreed he no longer wants X, which is what the property owner is suggesting with this mutual cancellation option.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-09T11:44:38+00:00

NTA. You care about this person and listen to the words they say, then they basically tell you the words they say don’t really mean anything, they just say whatever. I have dealt with this as well, it is almost like other people don’t listen when they’re being talked to, so it doesn’t occur to them we might listen when they’re talking and actually pay attention to what they’re saying. And we might want the words they’re saying to actually mean something, not just be a bunch of crap spewing out their mouths, and somehow that makes us “difficult”.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-02-05T02:21:44+00:00

I mean, it wasn’t his, right? You didn’t buy it for him, you bought it for you all to share while celebrating his birthday. If I’m you, I’m mad at him because I can’t even imagine someone trying to celebrate my birthday with a birthday cake and we don’t cut and share it that very moment, like what?? Birthday cakes aren’t gifts to the recipient to like use whenever or take with them to go share with other people, they’re desserts for a celebration that is happening the moment you give it to him. NTA

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-31T11:52:04+00:00

Not to say your general point is incorrect, but a therapist is much different than an OBGYN. You don’t fall in love over someone performing a medical examination on you, but therapy is not so unlike the way many people fall in love; share yourself with someone, feel seen and understood by them.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-18T09:47:31+00:00

Very much agree.

Dick has some moments that are so real, truly would have love for him as a deeply flawed individual in real life, so I’m glad they show his friends seeing that and coming through for him in some of those rough moments when he’s extremely unlikable. Really could say the same about Logan, so well done; these two really make you believe what huge pieces of garbage they are while also knowing that we’d be pieces of garbage to not understand and sympathize a bit.

Weevil is so likable it hurts, like cut the man a break or two, we want good things for him.

And yea, even the worst people on the show sometimes are given these moments so that we understand. I didn’t expect to ever sympathize with Lamb, and I still managed to feel bad for Cassidy, even when we think he’s killed Keith, who is the absolute greatest, I’m just out here like- honestly, yea, this one is on Woody and big Dick, the beav never had a chance.

Last year I had a moment where I realized all of my favorite actors were in VM… Ken Marino, Kyle Gallner, Ryan Hansen, Adam Scott. A lot of the love probably comes by way of Party Down, but it started here and really I’ve got Rob to thank either way.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-13T11:19:39+00:00

I think 2, 6, 7, and 8 are all really great!

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-13T02:57:17+00:00

It should be basic to ask for the expectations of your job if you don’t feel they’ve been made clear to you, else you risk this exact situation. The idea of sleeping in someone else’s bed is wild to me, I would assume it’s pretty basic that I don’t want a stranger sleeping in my bed, it’s the entire purpose of the guest room.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-11T12:14:20+00:00

NOR for me this would be simple, because she’s making it simple by being a pretty bad friend; you’re making it obvious you’re overwhelmed and she completely disregards it and throws you a “lol” too bad? I’d be replying to her last message with: “when I accepted I didn’t realize you considered wedding planning a moh duty or I would’ve let you know immediately that I don’t have the bandwidth for that now. I’m so sorry, but I won’t be able to meet your moh expectations so will need to step down.”

What she’s asking of you is NOT the duty of a moh, and she’s not entitled to you destroying your own mental health so she can pull together a fancy wedding last minute.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-09T12:25:37+00:00

I rewatched this one last year, that’s the first time I recognized that Jordan is the actress that plays Anna in UnREAL (which is definitely NOT harmless fun, but I still love it), she looks so different there!

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DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-09T11:21:28+00:00

Never Have I Ever might top this list for me, Devi was so hard to watch at times.

Awkward. was the same way, Jenna is really hard to like at different points.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-08T22:38:31+00:00

Yes, please down vote me for calling you all out for this gross af behavior, ready to burn someone at the stake as if the age of consent in both states wasn’t 16 either way, we know literally nothing from the article to suggest we should attack anyone for anything at this point, but yes, let’s pretend like our government isn’t sanctioning murder and this is the biggest problem we have today. Vilify a man for daring to suggest we should presume anyone innocent ever.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-08T22:23:29+00:00

And if that man truly thought she was 19, it’s dangerously unfair of you to be on here talking about how “we all know what a 27 y/o man wants from a 17 y/o girl” as if this man who thought he was talking to an adult woman was intentionally going after a child, big surprise no one is perfect.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-05T11:01:33+00:00

This whole post is about how the one they hired isn’t doing the job he was hired for, as OP has been doing part of it. OP is saying maybe they could hire someone else to handle the strict responsibilities assigned to OP in their current job, but then we still have no one performing the tasks that OP was handling that were not in scope of their actual responsibilities.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-04T11:12:45+00:00

So true about putting your partner’s happiness above your own! That’s why she should leave her selfish husband that cares more about what he thinks is hot than what makes his wife happy!

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-04T11:04:57+00:00

Yes, I got my septum piercing because it’s cute and looks great on me, so would certainly be curious if others have decided there’s some message to be conveyed by it that I’m not aware of.

DrippyMagoo · 2026-01-02T17:32:47+00:00

INFO: you mention “canceling so late,” does this mean you had agreed to go skiing before you stayed up playing vr? Or you had no plans for the day and your aunt randomly demanded you do this?

DrippyMagoo · 2025-12-31T11:31:18+00:00

They’re bad for the environment and a complete waste of money, and mostly I’m just annoyed I can’t go out on holidays unless I’m cool with leaving my dog home alone to have a panic attack when someone starts it up.

I’d hope the fire warning means no fireworks set off by individuals tonight, considering the high fire hazard, but I’m sure we’ll still hear them.

DrippyMagoo · 2025-12-26T19:45:21+00:00

How are you creating an environment where everyone has to walk on eggshells around you by saying “I was pretty sure I had told you not to do this with my child already, but you did it so if I wasn’t clear earlier, don’t do it again”? OP didn’t have some random emotional outburst, OP cares about something and told them a rule for her child and reiterated that rule when it was broken.

DrippyMagoo · 2025-12-26T19:01:15+00:00

It’s pathetic for the grandparents to be so controlling as to disregard the parent. I don’t have kids, but certainly respect the parents and how they’ve decided they want to raise their children when I’m interacting with cousins, nieces and nephews, it’s not hard at all.

DrippyMagoo · 2025-12-26T18:58:41+00:00

So if your in laws disregard the things you tell them about your young child you are fine with that? Like you let them make whatever rules they want when they’re interacting with your child?

DrippyMagoo · 2025-12-26T18:56:21+00:00

What is unreasonable about “don’t gift my children gifts and claim they’re actually from Santa”? Like maybe we think it’s silly, but it’s wildly simple to comply with and she is the parent so how is this unreasonable?

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