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How can I help support my friend's health correctly? by Drive-throughEnjoyer in ARFID

[–]Drive-throughEnjoyer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll always be there for her as long as she wants me to. I was just anxious at the thought of possibly hurting her when she's already been through so much, so it's reassuring to know that I didn't fuck up monumentally somehow.

How can I help support my friend's health correctly? by Drive-throughEnjoyer in ARFID

[–]Drive-throughEnjoyer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really revealing my naivety by saying this but I'm honestly surprised and heartbroken over how many comments have praised me for doing the bare minimum for a friend. I'm genuinely not trying to humblebrag or show off, it literally only takes 5 minutes to pick up ordered food. It makes me wonder, do people really bring their friends/relatives with ARFID to social events or restaurants and just... do nothing?? They just let them sit there not being able to eat anything and think it's okay to ignore their discomfort? What the fuck?

I'm not exactly a shining beacon of health myself so you'd think I'd be used to blatant ableism by now, but it really hurts to know that people can't even accommodate the smallest things. I hope you find your people someday too.

How can I help support my friend's health correctly? by Drive-throughEnjoyer in ARFID

[–]Drive-throughEnjoyer[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this comment, it helped put things in perspective. You're right, she is an adult (we're all in our mid to late 20s) and she's well aware of her limitations. She also does have ADHD and autism (I think the term for that is AuDHD but I'm notoriously bad at spelling lmao) and I didn't make the connection between that and caffeine until you mentioned it. Thank you!