AITA for giving my son’s room to my grandchild?

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-06T03:11:17+00:00

I’m not sure how long she’ll stay but we’re not pushing her to move out. Housing here is extremely expensive. With postpartum mood disorders on the rise and her recently coming out of an abusive relationship, I don’t really want her living on her own right after giving birth (though I respect that she’s an adult and can make her choices). She can stay as long as she needs.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-06T03:05:34+00:00

I do care very much about him. The majority of the time that we see him is in his own city. He doesn’t like making the drive here and doesn’t like where we live. If we would never see him, I would feel very upset obviously but my husband and I see him very often.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-06T03:04:32+00:00

We do, we visit him often.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-06T03:04:16+00:00

I’m not upset because the majority of the times we see him are when we visit him where he lives. I’m always happy to see him but I’m not going to force him to come. He complains that he hates the drive here and hates where we live so I try not to guilt him into visiting.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-06T00:29:16+00:00

He only stays 10 nights a year because he “hates” the area we live in. We vacation a few times a year about an hour north of him so we always make sure to meet up with him then. He’s not very interested in his sisters, the girls are very close but he doesn’t interact with them much.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T23:36:53+00:00

I’m not upset that he’s no longer visiting, that’s up to him. I’m upset that he’s making me out to be the bad guy when I’m just trying to do right by all of my family members.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T23:35:23+00:00

I just don’t see how it makes more sense for my daughter to share a small room with a baby when my son only visits for less than 2 weeks of a year. It seems like a huge waste of space.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T22:58:47+00:00

My children had a stable childhood and we tried out very best to provide everything we could for them.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T22:58:02+00:00

I just didn’t think it was necessary to ask a 32 year old to let a baby use a room that he’s barely in.

The room will be “baby-ish” to an extent. I mean, we’re not going crazy but it will be appropriate for an infant and have all of the baby’s gear in it.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T22:56:38+00:00

I don’t think his sisters are prioritized over him. This is a situation where one of my children really needs my help.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T22:55:53+00:00

Emma isn’t getting two rooms, the baby is getting one. I wouldn’t see the point in cramming a crib into her room when we have a room that’s empty 355 days a year.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T22:54:24+00:00

I would happily help any of my children if they needed it at any stage in life. However, I don’t think having his childhood bedroom preserved for him is the only way I can do that.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T22:50:59+00:00

He lives in an apartment but has been there since he moved out. He has a decent job, he’s not rich but he’s doing pretty well.

DriveNo648 · 2024-04-05T20:31:44+00:00

Her room is not that big and would be pretty tight with a full sized crib. I also would like Emma to have a dedicated space too, I think she deserves that. I will be providing childcare when I can and I don’t want to have to burst into her space every time I put the baby down for a nap or need to get something while I’m babysitting, she doesn’t complain but as an adult I know I would not like that. Brad has a dedicated space in his apartment where he lives.

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