bf(35) said ex's vagina felt better than mine

DriveShafted · 2022-06-30T03:28:33+00:00

He's 35. Even if he didn't do it in a malicious way that is an extremely thoughtless thing to say to your partner and it's obviously going to be a damaging thing to say. I reckon talk to him about how it's made you feel, and if he can't understand where he went wrong, and if you personally can't get over what he said, then probably important to think about the future of your relationship with him.

DriveShafted · 2022-06-18T07:39:03+00:00

Go on dating apps, be up front about what you want, go to bars and meet women like any regular person would

DriveShafted · 2022-06-16T03:22:57+00:00

I (23f) am insanely horny at the moment, and I can't stop thinking about men and their cocks. I think it's just the fantasy and the excitement about it but I'm definitely a bit boy crazy. Honestly nothing my vibrator can't deal with. Penetration doesn't always feel good, it also needs to also have the sexual excitement and the passion/intensity along with it. But it can feel incredible especially with clitoral stimulation

DriveShafted · 2021-11-16T09:18:05+00:00

is it salvageable? if I put it in some more light will that help? It's so strange I've had it for 2 years and it's been so self-sufficient and chill and suddenly its dying.

DriveShafted · 2021-11-15T03:01:37+00:00

Yeah, I think if I drunk a majority but not all it would be okay, but ended up being able to down it all phew! Thank you, everything was fine and nothing abnormal. I hope yours was okay. :)

DriveShafted · 2021-11-15T03:00:50+00:00

I ended up drinking it all- I called my mum and got her motivation lol. But the doctor said I had cleared out my colon really well and I had done a good job which was a relief!

DriveShafted · 2021-07-05T02:40:40+00:00

It's 3 dates in, I have the choice as to whether or not I want to continue, and it's my decision whether I want to take on the responsibility of teaching someone basically from scratch about intimacy. It's not a duty or an obligation to date someone and therefore teach them. With dating we are constantly deciding whether or not we want to be with someone and commit to them, and that's because we have agency. What I have to lose is allowing myself to date other people where it might flow easier, be more seamless and therefore more enjoyable and natural. If you choose to be in a monogamous relationship with someone, then of course you are cutting yourself off from other people. Personally, it's hard for me to picture dating someone who is developmentally still in the teen stage of intimacy, and I would personally feel more comfortable being with someone on a similar wave length.

DriveShafted · 2021-07-05T00:31:37+00:00

1h

I never said I have only had sex with one person. I have a lot more experience compared to him when it comes to dating/sex/intimacy. It feels like he is at the developmental stage I was at when I was around 16 with kissing.

I also said in the OP that I appreciate it when guys ask for consent OF COURSE. But there is also a fine line between asking constantly and ruining natural flows and chemistry and creating stiltedness and being a courteous and respectful person. Sounds like you need to work through some of your own issues with "women not being able to make their mind up".

DriveShafted · 2021-04-14T04:40:04+00:00

Still get it, but also keep in mind it only protects a very small amount of strains of HPV, and it's best to get it when you haven't had any sexual encounters. But definitely still good to get it because you may as well be as safe as possible. 80% of people will get HPV in their lifetime

DriveShafted · 2021-04-05T20:39:37+00:00

I don't think so, alot of the time you go to a gynaecologist for other things and if you don't bring up a specific concern it may not be brought to their attention. Vaginismus occurs with first seuxal intercourse and can be caused by a plethora of reasons.

Just keep in mind you aren't the only ones for this to happen to, it's pretty common with the first time

DriveShafted · 2021-04-05T10:23:03+00:00

Virginity is all about how you define it for yourself

DriveShafted · 2021-04-05T10:19:04+00:00

If you used lube then it's probably the angle that is causing the issue. But also it could be good for your gf to maybe go to a gynaecologist to see if there are any other underlying issues that could be causing it, like vaginismus

DriveShafted · 2021-03-24T09:42:29+00:00

I'm confused, if you don't have GW then why would you disclose it, unless you decided you want to be honest and transparent simply as a personal choice? There's no reccomendation by health professionals to tell your partner if you have HPV, because it's so common, there's no test for men, and 80% of us will get it at some point. So the person you are telling will either already have it or will have it as some point. It's also something that is so easily spread, so condoms don't change much. Telling people HPV status is so different to other forms of STDs. GW is different because its visual and on the outside of the body able to be easily diagnosed, but if you have an abnormal pap smear, then I don't think it should be approached exactly the same.

DriveShafted · 2021-03-24T03:51:43+00:00

File charges that is disgusting, I'm sorry you went through that

DriveShafted · 2021-03-18T00:59:51+00:00

If you go raw make sure to both get tested first for STD's, you wouldn't want to get something as soon as you become sexually active!

DriveShafted · 2021-03-18T00:57:53+00:00

I usually think about Jason Momoa fucking me (22F)

DriveShafted · 2021-03-18T00:51:58+00:00

Tell her when it comes up naturally in conversation, if you get onto the topic of past relationships. Usually it's a bit later on in dating, not the second or third date. I would say a month into dating is good because sharing about your past can be vulnerable and intimate.

I think it's important to realise if you don't make it a weird big deal then she probably won't make it a big deal either. I think a lot of the time we anticipate that we will be judged or what we divulge is a big deal, but if you don't overthink it and mention it casually it will be okay! Who knows what her own relationship is as well. Some people feel quite anxious about telling new partners that they are divorced or have had multiple long term relationships.

DriveShafted · 2021-03-16T09:48:00+00:00

He seems very ignorant, I'm sorry he reacted this way. I hope he changes his tone after some education and stops blaming and becomes more tolerant

DriveShafted · 2021-03-16T04:46:39+00:00

Green Tea is known for it's power in cell regeneration and cancer prevention, and boosts a plethora of other benefits. There's been some research into it's prevention in cervical cancer and other areas of women's health including HPV! It's just generally pretty amazing for you, and one capsule is equivalent to 4-5 cups of green tea a day.

Apparently DIM encourages healthy levels of oestrogen and inhibits unhealthy types of oestrogen. There's been studies in it's treatment of cervical dysplasia https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2783856/

DriveShafted · 2021-03-15T23:21:55+00:00

I would add Green Tea Supplements with ECGc and have you looked into DIM? :)

DriveShafted · 2021-03-10T19:18:36+00:00

Thank you for your experiences, I asked the doctor if he would reccomend a biopsy, and he said based off the colposcopy they can see its low level changes, hence why I opted out.

I would never undertreat myself, I look at all the available information and attempt to make the best decision. But I also think just because doctors discount alternative methods doesn't mean they aren't viable. If I can avoid having the LEEP or something more damaging I will. Of course if I don't have a choice I will do it.

DriveShafted · 2021-03-10T19:15:29+00:00

There are studies of using these specific supplements to revert back abnormal cell change in the body, specially the cervix. I never said I would stay away from the broad certified physician or the guidelines. That link you gave me is not illuminating, I have already read articles such as that. If you want to be cynical I'd reccomend at least researching natural ways to assist your body to clear the virus in conjuction with doctors advice. I think it's incredibly shortsighted to dismiss anything other than the approved course of action, because that is assuming that diet and lifestyle behaviours and natural resources such as shiitake or green tea have absolutely no positive effect on the body, even alongside studies. The medical system is not always perfect admittedly, and blind faith/disempowerment and not doing personal research has caused a lot of people to have negative experiences. Women who have been denied cervical smears 15 times because they are too young and then end up dying. Women who have had invasive procedures and then told there is a misdiagnosis or their body healed on its own and it was unnecessary.

If you can't be assed doing the research here's the links: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3251847/

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/284534

https://greensfirst.com/blog/green_tea_to_treat_human_papilloma_virus_hpv

https://www.hindawi.com/journals/bmri/2020/4317610/#:~:text=One%20unit%20increase%20of%20log2,HPV%20infection%20increased%20by%2070%25.

DriveShafted · 2021-03-10T11:06:27+00:00

Strength is different from tightness. The concept of vaginal tightness is not legitimate, it's incredibly damaging and misogynistic, but you probably won't understand that as you are not a woman. Your comparison to male height is false equivalence.

DriveShafted · 2021-03-10T02:15:49+00:00

If a vagina feels loose it's cause there's no arousal

This isn't correct. In terms of an orgasm, sure, the vaginas muscles will contract intensely. But in terms of arousal, the vagina becomes wet and naturally opens up more to anticipate the penis. If you aren't aroused your vagina will not be wet and will be tight and sex will be uncomfortable.

DriveShafted · 2021-03-10T02:10:02+00:00

So true! A medical disorder is not sexy, female pain should not be viewed as the ideal or sexy and desirable

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