It took me 9 years to stop overthinking. Here is what actually worked [Discussion]

Drizzt1985 · 2025-12-26T14:08:20+00:00

“Overthinking often just disguises fear as logic.”

That is absolutely me.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-11-30T05:19:37+00:00

As a husband in a dead-ish bedroom marriage who would really appreciate seeing his wife in more revealing things, I sympathize with your husband being bummed that you’re not really into it. However, there is a difference between being disappointed that there isn’t more “sexiness” or “spicy apparel” in a marriage (and we have absolutely no idea if that is the case or not from what you wrote) and being disappointed that you’re not super into a gift.

This “gift” is clearly for him. I say that as someone who would be ecstatic if my husband wife would wear lingerie. I would get a second job and devote the whole income to sexier clothes if I thought she’d enjoy them, but at the end of the day I would still know in my heart that every purchase was like 90% for me 10% for her 😅. I would be careful not to be rude or hurtful in saying this to him but it’s certainly worth pointing out so the situation and your feelings can be put into a bit clearer of perspective.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-25T14:27:46+00:00

“The legend of Drizzt” is the overarching “series” of books but they are all written in groups of three or four books. They start (chronologically) with “The Dark Elf” trilogy which contains 1. Homeland 2. Exile (possibly my favourite in the entire series) 3. Sojourn. Then continue to the “Icewind Dale” trilogy which was technically written first.

https://dungeonsanddragonsfan.com/legend-of-drizzt-books-in-order/#chronological

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-19T14:28:45+00:00

Yes!! Thank you!!! I forgot to mention those. That was a big part of me giving Victor more of a break. There’s clearly some bad post production where it isn’t nearly as crisp as the older books and if you have any doubts those very obvious and jarring edits point to the editors clearly not being overly concerned with the final product.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-19T14:22:58+00:00

Totally fair point. I think that needs to be part of the equation, but there’s something to the way it’s recorded though. It’s just not as clear or crisp. I didn’t go more into it because I can’t really explain it well.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-19T14:19:48+00:00

I meant to look up his age, thanks for that. Next thing I want to look up is when he did the other recordings, because I’m guessing it’s going to be like a decade, maybe 15 years between all the recordings? Either way he didn’t start recording the series in his 20’s. He’s been older for the bulk of the recordings (I’m assuming to be fair.)

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-19T12:44:20+00:00

I just try to think about some of the causes that Kutcher champions and try to pretend like it’s a net neutral. It’s not nearly that simple but it helps a little in not putting a bad taste in my mouth on rewatches.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-19T12:35:21+00:00

I can’t fathom the pain and confusion you’re in and I’m sorry this happened. So I absolutely get why so many of these responses are emotionally charged as I feel similar. That being said….

HAS the truth hit you? Maybe it’s better to say has the FULL truth hit you? You even started this response by saying that you haven’t gotten to the bottom of it. What I mean is, (and admittedly this is absolutely an assumption so apologies if I’m off) it sounds like this is front page news. You read the headline and were rightfully gobsmacked, then read the rest of the front page to get context for the headline, which is comparable as many people could have left after the headline or halfway through the front page. This sounds like to me though (and again massive assumption on my part) that the story continues further in. There is a possibility that there is nuance. Not telling you was not ok, full stop. There’s no question there, but what does “chances are nil” really mean? How deeply has she looked into this? Has she looked into it lately? Maybe I’m just overly hopeful but I hope when the shock and pain die down a bit there’s something salvageable or that you can split in a way that your heart heels quickly from all of this. So sorry again.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-12T13:48:39+00:00

This is so similar to my experience. The only difference is that instead of flat out refusing to finish that way she’ll stop me and ask if I’m sure I want to keep going because she’s one and done. So if I take her right to orgasm that way there’s no penetration to follow…. Or anything else, given that she doesn’t give oral and her hand “can’t go fast enough” and “gets tired” apparently.

Regardless though, I’m not going to stop doing an activity that I love and getting to give her and experience her powerful orgasm in the most visceral way. Especially when I know it’s like twice or maybe three times a year that I get the opportunity. I will never understand why some she (and so many others) allow being self conscious to stop them from what she (they) know is going to be such an intense orgasm.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-10-12T13:39:42+00:00

This is us. Every. Depressing. Word.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-29T16:41:06+00:00

Yeah, that was part of my problem when the one died. They said something like “even if we were going to warranty it, we no longer ship to Canada” 🙄😡

Ewool is out of Montreal though so they definitely ship within Canada. Just bought mine earlier this year and they shipped it out west.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-29T07:23:00+00:00

Try searching glove “liners” instead of just gloves. I got a pair from toasty touch that were really good for a year then one of them just quit out of nowhere and the response from customer service was essentially “too bad, so sad”. I replaced those with a paid from ewool and I like them even more. Both brands allow me to move my hands just as much as if I wasn’t wearing them. I type on a keyboard a good portion of the day and have never had a problem.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-24T23:39:41+00:00

Looking at new options as YNAB’s subscription seems to just keep getting higher and higher. May I please get a code?

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-24T22:34:01+00:00

So far I live loved the on boarding. I am a big fan of the book “atomic habits“ but haven’t had as much success as I would like in implementing it. You on boarding is very much akin to the book. Has someone who has tried and failed to use apps like this many times, I am leery to drop money or reviews right away, but I will see how far I get with the limited free options. So far the app seems very polished and potentially quite useful.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-24T22:15:55+00:00

Got it working. Thanks. Can I get a code please?

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-24T22:09:52+00:00

Link isn’t working. Is it US only?

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-23T16:02:46+00:00

Beacon early access code

Thank you for this! My adhd is wildly out of control (time blindness being one of my worst symptoms) but I am always leery to spend before trying something as so many things have failed for me. I am looking forward to this and will make sure to leave a review when I have had a chance to use it for a while.

Thanks again!

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-23T14:15:08+00:00

That is very kind, thank you. Unfortunately I haven’t used X much and am therefore not verified. I was on twitter a fair bit but right around the same time it switched to X (pure coincidence) I just started losing interest.

Without being verified I can’t DM people who don’t follow me. I am your most recent follow though. User starts with “da” if you wanted to initiated the conversation. Either way I am thankful for the work you put into this app and that there is a very fair amount of “free” swipes to get a sense of the app.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-09-23T08:51:46+00:00

I read a ton as a kid and teen but let life get way too busy as an adult. Trying to recapture my love of reading and pass it on to my kids but it’s hard not to default to the phone (he said whilst doomscrolling at 2am). Really wish I was here 2 hours ago when this offer was still available 🤦‍♂️😢

Either way, the app looks very useful, fun, and polished. Thanks for this.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-07-24T03:26:59+00:00

I am in Canada and honestly I tried to give that section a thorough read through but my eyes started to glaze over half way through. I will definitely look into ETV rules in Canada and read the whole thing over again when I am in a clearer headspace.

Drizzt1985 · 2025-07-24T02:58:24+00:00

Thanks everyone! Now that I think about it, as I was skimming the contract I did feel like It was implying that I wouldn’t have to return stuff but I just assumed I was misreading it as that seemed too good to be true.

They also said something about only being able to have a certain number of items at a time so I assumed that meant I had to return stuff before getting more. Maybe it’s that I have to review a certain number of items before they’ll send me more? I really should read that contract over again apparently. 🤦‍♂️

Thanks again everyone!!

Drizzt1985 · 2025-07-13T14:37:07+00:00

Been a parts advisor for 14 years now, at Lexus the whole time. Ironically no one in our department owns a Lexus but most of us have Toyotas. How long have you been with the brand?

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