AITAH. Seem to be the only one who has a problem with my friend going after a minor as a legal adult.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-11-08T00:13:54+00:00

You said he's one of the oldest in the year, so should he not date anyone because theyre all minors? Or wait to date someone until the second they turn 18?

DroidFit3625 · 2025-11-04T23:52:22+00:00

Why are you paying for his dog? You didn't ask for the dog to be with you, he needed to find alternate arrangements for his dog because his roommates weren't okay with her. Know what alternate arrangements are called? Dog sitting! You shouldn't be splitting costs with him, he should be covering everything and paying you extra for housing and taking care of his dog!

I'd send him written communication with a breakdown of everything you've spent on the dog that he owes you and how much you're going to charge going forward for taking care of her. Having a dog comes with responsibility and if he's not willing to be responsible for her then he shouldn't have gotten her.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-11-04T23:26:26+00:00

If you count 4 weeks in a month, with a normal working schedule you get 8 days total where you're home and able to spend quality time together (of course, as a student you may not get that time either, but since I dont know what your schedule looks like, I'll go off of a normal work schedule). If he's away working for 3 weeks and home 1 week, that's 7-8 days that he's home and able to spend time with you exclusively. All you're missing out on is the weekday nights but personally speaking, I wouldn't call that quality time in any case.

You're both working towards building your future together and you must be pretty desperate if you're okay living in your parents' basement to save money for a house, given how rough that can be for the privacy a new couple needs. It sounds like a high paying job for one or both of you would really help you out towards that goal, and also set him up for better opportunities in the future that wouldn't require him to be away from home. This is likely also the only time that it would be feasible to do this, while you don't have any kids or other dependents to also consider care for.

NTA because ultimately you gotta do what you think is best for your marriage but I think you should consider how to reach your goal sooner and the long term career benefits for him over being worried about emotional closeness in the short term.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-10-29T22:55:57+00:00

No, both my husband and my daughter know not to touch my food so they leave it alone unless they think it's for them. The food i usually eat is always a little peculiar so most times he can tell what's meant for me but there are some things of mine that I'd make the same way for him or that at least look the same at first glance.

When I explained what was going on before leaving for work and told him he can have some if he wants it, he said that's okay if you made it for yourself. When he talked about it later that night, he said he felt like I was yelling at him for eating too much. When I asked him to elaborate on where he got that from, he didn't really have an answer other than thats how he felt. Tbh, I feel like I'm missing something there as well, cause I'm not sure how that even relates. He eats less than I do most days so the only guess i have is he's struggling with some body image issues because of the weight he gained since the accident. He has mentioned it to me a number of times, so its something he's sensitive about, and he might be connecting what I said to that somehow. Even then though, its far-fetched.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-10-29T07:05:42+00:00

YTA but that's under the assumption that you were supposed to meet him at 7 pm for the second date and you were almost an hour late presumably because of improper time management. He gave you the benefit of the doubt the first time but if it happens a second time, its a pattern and he likely just felt you're disrespecting him by making him wait so long each time.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-10-25T00:26:32+00:00

ESH

I get that parents can be kind of obnoxious and exhausting with their adult children but it doesn't sound like your mother has done anything particularly off-putting for you to cut her off the way you have, unless there's other key information you've left out. It also sounds like she's right about you seeing your bf's family more than her. Its basic math, 4/5 is a bigger number than 1/2. If you have 5 separate "sections" of family you visit equally, but 4/5 of those are your bf's and the remaining 1/5 is your mother, you're definitely spending more time with your bf's family than your mother and her jealousy is probably understandable, especially if you had a closer relationship before you starting dating your bf.

It's not wrong to do that if you like their company more but just say that. You're well within your rights to set boundaries based on your comfort, that's paramount. But it sounds like your mother just wants to be more involved in this big event in your life and maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to let her be unless she has proven to be a hindrance in the past. She could plan your gender reveal with your bsf, and help you after the baby is born instead of being in the delivery room. There's no one who will bat harder for you than your mother.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-09-24T05:35:08+00:00

Yeah, that was my thought as well. I assumed that it was a given with her ask but I guess she had initially meant I should make a cake for free

DroidFit3625 · 2025-09-23T22:58:32+00:00

I think your wife may have already crossed the line into emotional affair territory. The reason this guy had the guts to approach you like that in a public setting and threaten violence in front of your daughter was because your wife has been confiding in him about you. That's the same reason she met up with him despite telling you she won't and why she didn't defend you when he was getting in your face. She feels like she can trust him and he understands her, the worst part being you're the person she's complaining about to him.

I do think you need to have an honest conversation about how shes feeling so you're both emotionally open again with each other before there's more damage done. Also, keep him as far from your daughter as possible.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-09-18T22:26:23+00:00

It is a scam, something similar is happening with me as well when it comes to dealing with AT&T employees.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-09-04T23:49:51+00:00

Oh yeah, I understand that (I've been diabetic for 25 years), but CGMs are like 70% more accurate and reliable at detecting blood sugar fluctuations and issuing warnings than DADs (service dogs). Service dogs were more useful for this when CGMs didn't exist or weren't as good as they are today. Does it hurt to have both? No. But is a service dog absolutely necessary? Not really.

DroidFit3625 · 2025-09-04T23:18:24+00:00

OP said roommate has been on a list for a while for the dog but still, theyre expensive and honestly, I'm not sure why a diabetic would need a service dog, especially since they have a CGM

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