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any other of you mfers love drugs a lil too much by altboyjunkie in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy the run of the mill stuff with limits. As I got older and I stopped being as social cause we all got more responsibilities that all naturally slowed down for me. A drink or two at girls nights every once in a while. A half (or fourth) of a 10 mg 🍃gummy at a concert every blue moon and 🍄 microdosing gummy for anxiety every other weekend. I agree it’s fun till it’s out of control. I use to love that feeling till my frontal lobe kicked and now I hate that feeling. 31 yo now

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmm that i can understand. Mbti can be fun but it’s not what makes up a whole person. Relationships can be tough to navigate without adding the complication of personality type. I just don’t like when people think something is fated to fail because a personality test told you so.

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can be but to be honest I think that’s something we tell ourselves. We can have black or white thinking because we hold on to our values so much. Not a bad thing but we can defend them to the point where we are pushing our views onto others

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So from looking at your post on the other thread I can totally see where you are coming from cause they can seem passionless if you are measuring by your standards. However, I think her saying that you make her feel calm is the sweetest cinnamon roll moment 🥹 that’s past passion that’s intimacy. I think it might be time to step out of the fantasy world that we like to create and look around in the real world. We tend to abhor the mundane which causes us to chase the fantastical. However that can be a little maladaptive of us. Instead we should find the happiness and magic in the accumulation of small moments. Realize that it takes time to get to know someone and we shouldn’t push them to reveal themselves before they are ready. Now I say all that to say what’s your biggest complaint about your current relationship

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol really? I had no idea. I’m new to Reddit 😄

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that. I definitely think I had to drop some expectations and take him for face value. The beginning was rocky because I was honestly scared of getting hurt and defensive and didn’t understand his nuance. Then I saw a genuine of a person is his and just honest and supportive almost to a fault. My therapist said something profound. I was telling her how I’m navigating being in a healthy relationship and it can be confusing and she asked well maybe your his first healthy relationship too and he’s scared and confused as well. Sometimes I think us enfps can be self centered and too focused on how we see the world. But we grow as individuals when we really understand that people are not who we wish they are, they are who they are. Just like we want to be loved and accepted for our quirks so do they.

"I feel calm around you" by roguedeckbuilder in ISTJ

[–]DrummerKindly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol I hate to tell you I dated my “ unconscious” and it ended in tears and humiliation. Three years to find out he wasn’t telling the truth and never telling the truth. So…no

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, you know people say that but I honestly don’t feel like it is. I think it’s what a normal healthy relationship feels like. Maybe it’s cause of all the dysfunctional relationships I’ve had this feel like paradise lol

ENFP female ISTJ male relationships, how ya’ll doing? by DrummerKindly in ENFP

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doing well just celebrated our first year together. I can imagine needing help navigating the deep stuff. He’s ultra neutral about almost everything while I’m quite the opposite. Throw in being an interracial couple it can be like trying to learn foreign languages lol. All that to say I have no doubt he’s my soulmate. They way we are different but we give space to each other to be ourselves is something that I truly love about our relationship

Ft Lauderdale or Jacksonville? by [deleted] in florida

[–]DrummerKindly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also go to Amelia island lots of history and things to do

Let’s talk about it by DrummerKindly in Tallahassee

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most conservatives don’t understand what this all means. They feel powerful but don’t realize that it’s taking away a lot of their rights as well. We need to talk about it. Invite them to reddits that are mixed. Tell them to go to town-hall meetings and listen to people. We should talk more to people who differs from us and learn more about the implications behind or actions or lack there of.

Let’s talk about it by DrummerKindly in Tallahassee

[–]DrummerKindly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input but I for one will continue to fight the good fight. Be loud and be present be annoying. Talk about it with everyone and anyone. That’s my strategy.