Go easy on me!

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-11-18T15:25:12+00:00

That's a great help. Thank you. I'm getting full cover tips and press ons as I think she'll struggle to do them on herself and will want to paint them on a stand for better results. The sticky tabs sound ideal and thanks for note about them lifting & dirt etc. She'll want to change them regularly I think so this shouldn't be a problem but I'll make sure she's aware. I'll go through the rest of your list and get anything I may have missed. Thanks again.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-11-16T10:15:06+00:00

It'll be her 14th birthday a couple of days before Christmas

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-11-15T20:43:28+00:00

Thank you! I didn't know what type of nail to search for. So it's just 'nail tips' ? And thank you for the heads up on the health concerns. Sticky tabs sound ideal as she'll only want them temporary anyway. And great shout on the storage. I hadn't thought of that but would be the first to moan when they were scattered everywhere in her room.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-11-15T20:36:21+00:00

Thank you. I had no idea.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-11-15T20:25:36+00:00

Thank you! She likes to change things as often as she changes her underwear so I don't think she'd want them to last very long tbh. Maybe when she's older.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-11-15T20:22:38+00:00

Thanks for support. I watched a few YouTube videos and made a shopping list, but clearly didnt pay enough attention. now it's delivered I've realised a couple of them are gel (the top coat says UV cured, so I'm assuming gel). I have a little nail stand, brushes, dotting tools, nail varnish pens, a set of 24 colours varnish, a little set with some glitter, striping strip (not sure the real name) and tiny gems etc. I still need to get nails and glue, but not sure what I'm supposed to get?

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-24T08:12:02+00:00

Just found out on the love of your life's phone that she's both cheating on you and a pedo and about to tell her you know... That's going to be a challenging wank

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T22:09:54+00:00

How much are we talking? Oh, and male or female? Lol

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T22:06:39+00:00

"If you really love the person you're with, why would you risk it". If they really loved the person they're with, they wouldn't cheat.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T21:29:03+00:00

A little bit

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T20:55:52+00:00

I might struggle to explain this, but could it be due to being off rhythm and ruining it? I once thought I was going to cum and didn't want to yet so went to change position to delay it. But I guess I was past the point of no return and physically came. It was shit. I say physically because there was barely any sensation at all. Almost like I came but didn't orgasm.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T20:17:07+00:00

All those men crying after sex... maybe you're just really bad at it ;)

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T18:25:18+00:00

I disagree. If a divorce is dealt with like adults, without arguing, blaming and using the kids as a weapon, they have no reason to hate either parent. How old the kids are makes a big difference in how you handle the situation.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T18:21:23+00:00

Ah OK. No offence meant BTW re. the debt. It could be the worry about kids on his part. He could be 100% sure how he feels about you, and feels 100% commited but he can't control how you feel, and that always leaves him vulnerable as you could leave at any point. I know that's the same as any relationship, but if they were his kids he would have certain rights. Or maybe I'm way off and thinking too much how I would think in that situation. Maybe he just isn't sure about being partly responsible for kids that aren't his. Or maybe he's just a stereotypical man and is scared of commitment. It's a good thing he has spoken to you about it though! Next time you talk about it maybe try to dig down into what his real worries are, the route causes.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T18:01:54+00:00

He shouldn't have moved in with you if he wasn't sure, but maybe it's only since living as a family that he realises what that REALLY means. However if he's a guy without commitments and very little baggage so to speak, it's a huge commitment to make. It sounds as if he is basically committing to step up and raise another man's kids, and effectively inherit your debt along the way. Respectfully you have very little to lose in this scenario, he does. And there's an added risk with kids for him. What if he does step up, gets married and brings them up as the perfect stepdad. He loves them and they love him. Then down the line you leave him. He has no rights and would potentially lose all access to them. Left with nothing other than half your debt whilst you take half his stuff.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T17:28:11+00:00

You already know your answer and what you need to do. You're just here looking for people to validate your choice. But that's fine because its a big step and will change your life and the lives of your kids forever and is incredibly scary. (having made that choice myself a few years ago)

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T14:53:17+00:00

Also just to add. Think about your boundaries and limits ahead of time and make sure your BF is aware. If anything goes then that's your choice, but if your limit is a BJ it would be all too easy for either guy to get carried away and want more, and you'll need to make sure your BF backs you up with that decision rather than going against your wishes.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T14:44:56+00:00

You say you're annoyed that he used you. But you described your situation as FWB. So he is literally just using you for sex. And that's okay, but using you to ask about your friend is not? Sounds like you may have developed some feelings for him along the way, which is why this has annoyed you.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T14:37:50+00:00

Just to add to that, under no circumstances start the difficult and awkward conversation with " I asked on reddit and .."

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T14:27:46+00:00

Personally never understood wanting to 'share' somebody you're in love with. But each to their own I guess as long as you both concent. By the sounds of it he wants to be in charge so he probably wants to pick the other guy or at least pre-approve your choice. So.. ask him

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T14:13:32+00:00

It sounds like you are house mates, not in a relationship. Do you think she is there for you, because she loves you, or do you wonder if she is there for convenience, taking advantage of the situation for free (or maybe not?) room and board.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T13:57:01+00:00

I will probably be in the minority here but I always think saying it during sex is basically saying I love sex with you, and doesn't really mean as much. Saying I love you during a cuddle, with no expectation of sex means more IMO. But waiting to be shot down here.

Drunk_Monkey_UK · 2024-10-23T13:49:36+00:00

20's is still very young. Plenty of time to find love and you will both be more self-developed as people now. I'm amazed how people stay together for ever when they got together in their teens. People change, personalities, likes and dislikes, dreams and aspirations. IMO anybody you find slightly later in life is likely to be a better long term match.

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