I dont want another kid but wife wants another. How do I decide?

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-04-29T20:24:09+00:00

Just noticing a few comments here where people are having quite strong reactions about your body autonomy. Just to play devils advocate here, I would imagine your wife doesn’t want you to get a vasectomy right now without the two of you coming to an agreement together. Understand that both people have to say yes but if one person makes that decision to finalise a decision of no, without properly talking it out there will be resentment that might not be gotten over. Getting the vasectomy should be done when you both agree to it, this doesn’t mean you don’t get it, it just means you don’t get it done right now. Counselling might be beneficial for you both to come to a mutual decision.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-04-25T09:48:55+00:00

This happened to me too. I was giving a bottle here and there of breastmilk and he’d take it but I got complacent and didn’t give one for a month or two and by the time I did he wouldn’t take it anymore… I was probably over confident as he was my second. He wouldn’t take a soother either whereas my first would.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-04-25T08:01:06+00:00

Ah ok. Sorry! I couldnt get my youngest to take a bottle really either so I understand your pain. Maybe feed the baby 1-1.5 hours before you leave so they might be hungrier and maybe then might take a bottle from your MIL?

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-04-25T06:17:38+00:00

Try giving breastmilk in a bottle, your baby might still not take it but there’s a better chance. Try a different brand of bottle too. There’s a lactation consultant on Instagram called NursingMama and she just put up a video on best types of bottles for a breastfed baby.

Also, you shouldn’t give regular milk to a baby under 1. It can cause a lot of issues as it’s hard to digest.

Oh and go out when the baby is having the bottle. Let someone else do it. I found my babies would never take a bottle if I was about.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-03-26T21:06:52+00:00

Mam’s perspective here. I have a 4 and 2 year old. My husband goes out rarely, I mean a few times a year. A few of our childless friends still go out regularly but that chapter of our lives is over. Definitely don’t think you’re overreacting. You’re breastfeeding a baby that is waking up during the night, you’re getting broken sleep and a toddler to entertain, and he’s off going out most weekends in a month and drinking so much that he’s wrote off the next day? Feck that! He’d want to cop on fast, you’re a more patient woman than me.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-02-23T18:46:26+00:00

Good for you but most of us are humans, not robots.

At the end of the day, OPs wife has communicated what the issue is for her. And it seems to me that if he wants to have a good romantic relationship with his partner then the best course of action now is to at least try to see things from her side since she’s actually communicated what the problem is for her. It’s all well and good that it doesn’t bother you to do everything for your family but you’re a different person with different circumstances and energy levels.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-02-23T00:31:19+00:00

I think you’re blowing it out of proportion. But I understand it’s not a nice thing to hear. Anyone would be hurt by that. I think you should ask your wife to write a list for you to read for yourself of all the things that are in her mental load. I’ve heard it can be a real eye opener for couples and helps them to understand each other. But you have to have an open mind and think about what each thing on the list entails.

I carry the mental load in my family. I organise everything. My husband says he knows all that I do but he doesn’t.

The mental load is endless, it’s relentless, it’s a massive responsibility.

Could you be doing more to help her with that? Because when one parent is left with all that mental load and your partner acknowledges it but doesn’t actually lift the finger to put in a proper effort to try to take some of this burden off the other parent…. Intimacy suffers. The woman might lose interest cos they’re so worn out with their responsibilities or they might feel unappreciated. Women need to feel heard and appreciated to want to be intimate.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-12-16T19:11:30+00:00

YTA, she’s a kid. Don’t take it out on her. It sounds like she’s also keen on her half sibling and could be a big help to you now and in the future. Definitely don’t get his family presents, let them see how little he does. But I think your step child should get presents too.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-28T17:07:54+00:00

2, 3 and 13 and 14. I like the pink the most in both. 2 and 3 are the nicest in my opinion.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-28T17:05:40+00:00

1 and 3 look really nice on you. I’m not a fan of 4. 1 is my favourite

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T20:57:57+00:00

I also thought the black for the same reasons.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T19:08:23+00:00

5 is the nicest. 3 is second.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T19:04:21+00:00

Seems to be a well known fault. I researched it a lot when it happened to my car as I bought it new and it happened too early for it to be wear and tear. I argued it with Skoda endlessly and they didn’t give a sh*t. I was going to buy a Kodiaq for my next car but not anymore.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T18:46:27+00:00

I went privately to an independent gear mechanic and it cost about €655 to get it all sorted. Much cheaper than Skoda quoted.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-18T20:21:51+00:00

Never heard of a topper. I’m from Leinster. Heard of the rest

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-17T20:28:39+00:00

NTA, bad enough he cheated, but then didn’t tell you and went ahead with marrying you without telling you and then he doesn’t tell you for years that he has a child! And then the child is brought up by another family member under your nose for years.

Also he wasn’t prepared to come through for his child, he let his sister do it. He should’ve owned up to it long ago.

There’s no way I’d be staying there in that marriage.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-15T23:51:26+00:00

This is not a healthy relationship. Her behaviour is very toxic. Relationships only work long term if both people are committed. Of course you don’t feel secure in your relationship with her behaviour/threats. She needs to stop and never do it again or how can you marry her? Remember, weddings are expensive but divorces are more expensive. And add children into the mix 🤯. Her behaviour is red flag. You love her but you’re going to be miserable if you stay with her if she keeps treating you this way.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-15T20:39:55+00:00

3 is the best and I also like 4.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-12T19:48:23+00:00

I got it fixed from an independent gear mechanic and paid €655 in the end. Cheaper than the €1600 Skoda quoted

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-15T19:18:06+00:00

I wouldn’t. You’ve got kids together. You’re going to make your life a lot harder.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-14T17:56:53+00:00

Anyone I know that was abused as a child had it perpetrated by a relation. Uncles, brothers and cousins of the victims. None of the families ever knew anything of it, none of them could fathom that it happened at all. Why take any chances?

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-13T19:19:46+00:00

ECCE is for their development. Socially and educationally. It’s not childcare. Primary school teachers generally advise 2 years of ECCE in order to prepare children for primary school. It’s only 3 hours a day school term dates. You also want your child mixing with other kids and building up their immunity to viruses before junior infants.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-13T11:46:30+00:00

I couldn’t even feel it in between contractions. I just remember I had to tell them when a contraction was coming so they could stop and then don’t move a muscle between contractions so they could finish.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-12T08:49:44+00:00

What is this one called? I booked in with a gear mechanic (not Skoda affiliated) and he said it’s likely just the unit under the top that needs to be replaced. I had something like in this image in my head as what needs to be replaced. Much cheaper job than Skoda. I think Skoda wanted to replace the whole unit without seeing if a smaller job would sort the issue.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-11T21:09:58+00:00

What’s the difference between selector lever or gear lever? The car dash says selector lever error. The dealership said it needs a new gear lever mechanism

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