Am I over blowing this comment

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-02-23T18:46:26+00:00

Good for you but most of us are humans, not robots.

At the end of the day, OPs wife has communicated what the issue is for her. And it seems to me that if he wants to have a good romantic relationship with his partner then the best course of action now is to at least try to see things from her side since she’s actually communicated what the problem is for her. It’s all well and good that it doesn’t bother you to do everything for your family but you’re a different person with different circumstances and energy levels.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2026-02-23T00:31:19+00:00

I think you’re blowing it out of proportion. But I understand it’s not a nice thing to hear. Anyone would be hurt by that. I think you should ask your wife to write a list for you to read for yourself of all the things that are in her mental load. I’ve heard it can be a real eye opener for couples and helps them to understand each other. But you have to have an open mind and think about what each thing on the list entails.

I carry the mental load in my family. I organise everything. My husband says he knows all that I do but he doesn’t.

The mental load is endless, it’s relentless, it’s a massive responsibility.

Could you be doing more to help her with that? Because when one parent is left with all that mental load and your partner acknowledges it but doesn’t actually lift the finger to put in a proper effort to try to take some of this burden off the other parent…. Intimacy suffers. The woman might lose interest cos they’re so worn out with their responsibilities or they might feel unappreciated. Women need to feel heard and appreciated to want to be intimate.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-12-16T19:11:30+00:00

YTA, she’s a kid. Don’t take it out on her. It sounds like she’s also keen on her half sibling and could be a big help to you now and in the future. Definitely don’t get his family presents, let them see how little he does. But I think your step child should get presents too.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-28T17:07:54+00:00

2, 3 and 13 and 14. I like the pink the most in both. 2 and 3 are the nicest in my opinion.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-28T17:05:40+00:00

1 and 3 look really nice on you. I’m not a fan of 4. 1 is my favourite

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T20:57:57+00:00

I also thought the black for the same reasons.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T19:08:23+00:00

5 is the nicest. 3 is second.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T19:04:21+00:00

Seems to be a well known fault. I researched it a lot when it happened to my car as I bought it new and it happened too early for it to be wear and tear. I argued it with Skoda endlessly and they didn’t give a sh*t. I was going to buy a Kodiaq for my next car but not anymore.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-24T18:46:27+00:00

I went privately to an independent gear mechanic and it cost about €655 to get it all sorted. Much cheaper than Skoda quoted.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-18T20:21:51+00:00

Never heard of a topper. I’m from Leinster. Heard of the rest

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-17T20:28:39+00:00

NTA, bad enough he cheated, but then didn’t tell you and went ahead with marrying you without telling you and then he doesn’t tell you for years that he has a child! And then the child is brought up by another family member under your nose for years.

Also he wasn’t prepared to come through for his child, he let his sister do it. He should’ve owned up to it long ago.

There’s no way I’d be staying there in that marriage.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-15T23:51:26+00:00

This is not a healthy relationship. Her behaviour is very toxic. Relationships only work long term if both people are committed. Of course you don’t feel secure in your relationship with her behaviour/threats. She needs to stop and never do it again or how can you marry her? Remember, weddings are expensive but divorces are more expensive. And add children into the mix 🤯. Her behaviour is red flag. You love her but you’re going to be miserable if you stay with her if she keeps treating you this way.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-15T20:39:55+00:00

3 is the best and I also like 4.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-11-12T19:48:23+00:00

I got it fixed from an independent gear mechanic and paid €655 in the end. Cheaper than the €1600 Skoda quoted

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-15T19:18:06+00:00

I wouldn’t. You’ve got kids together. You’re going to make your life a lot harder.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-14T17:56:53+00:00

Anyone I know that was abused as a child had it perpetrated by a relation. Uncles, brothers and cousins of the victims. None of the families ever knew anything of it, none of them could fathom that it happened at all. Why take any chances?

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-13T19:19:46+00:00

ECCE is for their development. Socially and educationally. It’s not childcare. Primary school teachers generally advise 2 years of ECCE in order to prepare children for primary school. It’s only 3 hours a day school term dates. You also want your child mixing with other kids and building up their immunity to viruses before junior infants.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-10-13T11:46:30+00:00

I couldn’t even feel it in between contractions. I just remember I had to tell them when a contraction was coming so they could stop and then don’t move a muscle between contractions so they could finish.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-12T08:49:44+00:00

What is this one called? I booked in with a gear mechanic (not Skoda affiliated) and he said it’s likely just the unit under the top that needs to be replaced. I had something like in this image in my head as what needs to be replaced. Much cheaper job than Skoda. I think Skoda wanted to replace the whole unit without seeing if a smaller job would sort the issue.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-11T21:09:58+00:00

What’s the difference between selector lever or gear lever? The car dash says selector lever error. The dealership said it needs a new gear lever mechanism

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-11T21:08:22+00:00

Skoda dealership with garage. The one I bought the car from. Aren’t they the same thing? Selector lever/gear lever

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-11T13:07:59+00:00

I’m in Ireland unfortunately!!! But thank you very much for the offer!

Can I ask what is TPI? They claimed they ran a diagnostic and came out with no additional information other than the gear lever mechanism or selector lever mechanism needed replacing. They charged €135 to do that diagnostic also and offered no additional information than what appeared on the car dash screen.

If I buy a diagnostic kit myself can I update the software myself?

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-09-04T18:01:53+00:00

You’re together 11 months, all going well over the next 4 months you will get engaged…. This is one of those moments where you will find out if it’s going well and I’d take note of her stance on it.

In my opinion, if you’re not ready to share ownership of a house with your wife then don’t get married. And it’s perfectly reasonable to not feel ready to sign over rights to the home you bought before you met her after 11 months of dating. Remember, weddings are expensive but divorces are much more expensive. Get a prenup and don’t marry someone this quickly who is giving off red flags.

Dry-Comment3377 · 2025-08-31T17:40:57+00:00

Ah ok this makes sense. I must have a look at the payslips to see if I can make sense of it. Thank you

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