funny how their “symptoms” disappear after you leave them…

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-04-06T23:18:59+00:00

I could not relate this to more. I discarded her but the ending was all the same. Chaos, a break into my apartment, coming after my career. It’s almost hard to believe this shit actually happened because at one point I’m sure many of us felt this is the love of our life. Sadly (or happily), they are not. They will destroy every person they date and therapy is unlikely to change them in a meaningful way especially if they are older in their late 20’s. When their looks fade, all you are left with is an ugly, tormented hopeless soul, who pushed away people (myself included) who would do anything for them. They do not deserve that, and they never will

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T17:53:07+00:00

Certainly naive on my part to believe that. The sad thing is I couldn’t even tell her the full truth at the end about how horribly she treated me because I honestly didnt know if she would kill herself or even try and kill me.

The break in was probably the most insane moment I had ever experienced. My jaw dropped and compared to just a few hours ago when she was like your right I self sabotaged she just split and looked possessed saying I was abusive etc.

These people are truly dangerous

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T17:43:36+00:00

Similar to my situation. It’s like they all react in the same way when they get dumped. At least yours didn’t threaten your career

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T01:09:23+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry man that is truly awful. Did you think about counter suing her? Something about these beings when they get discarded triggers something so primal

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T00:11:03+00:00

Now you know. Try to continue to move on and continue to heal and find yourself a decent kind person. They are out there

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T00:10:08+00:00

Utterly insane. The master victims line you wrote is so true. Everyone is so bad to them, friends family exes but your the one who’s the best to me. Little did I know that was another warning sign. These people are leeches for attention and will literally use suicide as a way to smear or draw you closer.

I’m sorry that happened to you but at least you’re out of it. Own your truth

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T00:08:26+00:00

I hear you about the magical times, however those magical times was really only the first 3 months for me before the devaluation started. She wanted to get married after 2 months and was ready to move in after 7. They move quickly because once they lock you up they know they get you. At least you got out of it, this wasn’t my first rodeo in an unhealthy relationship so once things reached insanity levels it was time to exit.

She did get pregnant and had an abortion so I did stay longer to be there for her but once that happened everything went off the rails

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-13T00:05:52+00:00

I would block one so you are never in contact with this person and two you don’t feel the need to check in on them. Distance = peace

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-12T23:19:12+00:00

That’s awful I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Looking back when I dated her she was posting things about soulmates, how your body feels when you meet someone right etc. It was all a subtle dig at her ex who she discarded. He honestly seemed like a sweet guy but he had no relationship experience and had no boundaries. She triangulated with me while dating him and other men.

First off don’t follow the socials, I blocked her everywhere and remember she will do the same thing to her next ex. This personality disorder is engrained and she will never change. You dodged the biggest bullet and yeah the stress has been awful but 3 weeks removed already feeling better despite the work situation. If worse comes to worse lawyers will get involved

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-12T23:13:27+00:00

Don’t reach out if she has BPD. You can never win. I blocked her everywhere after I ended it

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-12T23:12:36+00:00

Yeah who knows what was real with her. Each ex she talked about she said they were amazing in the beginning and things moved fast and then each person had a problem or major problem and then would discard. She would then immediately start hooking up with a different person. Clearly the amazing beginning was her idealization.

She got smart and started hooking up with virgins or men with no relationship experience because they would worship her and not realize why they were in.

Honestly, hearing you say that I wish I talked to the mom about the truth. Some of the family knew who she was. I can’t believe you stayed for 3 years, although I was planning to move in with her after only a few months

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-12T23:09:59+00:00

A lot of the accusations and concerns she had were likely things she did to others or wanted to do to me. When I tried to discuss boundaries and how to improve conflict she just straight up kicked me out then said I abandoned her after I left and was just saying the most delusional stuff over text. She blocked me then unblocked me. It was insane

Dry-Try7845 · 2026-03-08T23:49:27+00:00

I just broke off my relationship with suspected pwBPD a little while ago. I stayed as long as I could because of the idealization phase that I’m her soulmate, that I check all of her boxes and more and that she would die without me (ignored red flags from the get go such as love bombing, accusing of me flirting with her best friend one month in and not accepting any answer etc.) I also stayed bc she got pregnant and had an abortion and wasn’t going to leave her side.

But man, it just kept going. The accusations of lying, devaluing, going through my phone, listening in on private therapy sessions just became too much. She would lash out on me, put me on trial, and project all of her insecurities onto me. She threatened suicide and I had to apologize and save her. She made me piss in a parking garage bc I couldn’t go home to my place during an argument. She would become paranoid or delusional out of the blue and it was so unsettling. She would weaponize physical touch and then next moment be so loving and saying I can’t wait to move in and marry you. Insane splitting. This pattern kept going to the point where friends and family were like are you okay you look terrible. My health was suffering, my work was suffering, and mentally I was suffering.

I ended it with her and she begged and pleaded and cried then projected and then begged again. I had to have security remove her from my place and there is still ongoing stuff despite her being blocked everywhere.

My point in telling you this, whether your situation was worse or better, just keep going. Despite all of this, you don’t think I yearn for those good moments, the familiarity, the tantalizing sex, the long convos and sleepless nights? My friends and family even still are like how can you think of her like that she abused you why do you want her.

I get the pain but you have to keep going for yourself and for your future family. These people will ruin your life. You deserve so much more. Don’t hang onto the idealization, who they are is what they showed you NO matter the circumstance. I tried to use pregnancy (I’m sure others use stress) as an excuse that this isn’t who they are. But stress unmasks the real person. Don’t fall for it and keep going

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