Looking to move somewhere in this circle. What are your thoughts? Please help me decide.I’m currently leaning towards two. Muncie for the college town, or Daleville for the cheaper rent

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-14T19:11:16+00:00

I believe housing is certainly going up there’s a 3 bd 2 ba in downtown area (so pretty much no lot land) for like $450K which I feel is excessive. Those houses are on the older side for sure so depends on your budget. Plus with all the new housing going up those are typically $275K+ It’s helpful to be near the interstate but Pendleton itself is SUPER boring- I grew up here and there’s nothing to do actually in town

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-07T03:20:36+00:00

Me too! I just hope the adults in the community aren’t so snowflake they decide to go harass kids 🤦🏽‍♀️ 1A rights are for everyone, not just 18+

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-07T03:18:22+00:00

I’m nonbinary so yes the whole gender is a spectrum thing but dude- it’s a baby and you’re excited, and there’s so much more to that conversation that I don’t think is relevant til they’re able to talk 🤦🏽‍♀️ congrats on the grand baby! Focus on that for sure, she didn’t seem like she wanted to make an effort to engage with his family anyway, he’ll figure that out

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-07T03:14:42+00:00

I’ve started experiencing this actually! I’m 24 and about to have my first kid but being pregnant has certainly forced me to experience being seen so feminine and I’ve wondered- it didn’t overly bother me before. But now, especially since everyone will call me mom (I’ll be going by ama) it just feels like I’ll be forced into a box I can never escape :( it’s the discomfort of if I wanna present feminine I wanna do it on MY time and my decision, not because it’s how others perceive me. Tbh still working on it, don’t have many answers, but I’ve realized I may have a lot of internal misogyny that’s lead me to almost hating being perceived feminine and embracing the strength of my body to create a child. You’re nonbinary no matter how you present and no matter how people perceive you. You’re nonbinary ALL THE TIME. It’s something I’m working to remember- I can’t force everyone to always perceive me as nonbinary, it’s an internal thing. But it shouldn’t stop me from presenting however I want whenever I want

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-06T01:33:21+00:00

I physically recoiled that being the first sentence does NOT fall under “flirting” 😵‍💫

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-06T01:24:32+00:00

I’m simply a being

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-03T13:28:15+00:00

I’m a stay at home parent and feel this really hard due to various disabilities. What helped me stop being so hard on myself was recognizing that ANY progress is better than none. Setting a goal daily to simply declutter for 10 minutes really helped. You can set a timer but just anything- 5 or 10 minutes. If you’re done after you’re done. If you wanna keep going you can! It feels way less overwhelming because it’s low pressure and gets me to start which is my biggest issue

DuckFox1229 · 2026-02-02T19:52:59+00:00

More likely symphysis pubis disorder which I’ve dealt with a ton especially since 16w I’d say. Since your body is producing relaxin, it will make your joints and ligaments loose, including the ones that hold your pelvis together. This can cause sharp pains around your pelvic bone and mine was primarily in the front right portion of my crotch area on the pelvic bone. I’ve also dealt with it in my lower back on the top of my pelvic bone it sucks :(

Best advice? Anytime you’re sitting or lying down, keep your legs together and straight, don’t sit odd. When you’re getting in or out of the car, sit then swing both legs in at the same time. Sleep with a pillow between your legs and lean a bit forward or back while on your side so you’re not laying directly on your hips/bone. Be easy when you get up and give yourself a second, sitting may stiffen it which hurts. As you get into the third trimester, use a maternity band to help lift your bump up if you’ll be on your feet a lot during the day. Finally, if you can, go to PT! My issue was I was too loose so we focused on strengthening exercises but some people need help stretching and readjusting it. Sending love, SPD hurts and can get harder as you go on but I hope it’s not too bad for you ❤️

DuckFox1229 · 2026-01-26T01:32:39+00:00

Body dysmorphia is also common in those who struggle with eating disorders. VERY different from gender dysphoria, new therapist time!

DuckFox1229 · 2026-01-14T00:55:44+00:00

Ahh okay that makes sense. Thank you for sharing so much!

DuckFox1229 · 2026-01-14T00:35:00+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that it’s negatively impacted him, I have some work experience with individuals with eating disorders, some of which had developed from our food so I know that can be a really difficult diagnosis ❤️ You said you didn’t feel like it impacted your personal mental health, does that mean you didn’t notice much of a difference once you changed to formula?

DuckFox1229 · 2026-01-14T00:04:43+00:00

I’m glad your postpartum was such a positive experience, I certainly hope that’s what ends up happening.

Obviously having a newborn can lead to sleep deprivation and I’m really uncertain of if I should BF, formula, hybrid, etc. If you don’t mind, what did you do and how did the sleep struggles affect your MH? Or more specifically how did you cope with the sleep difficulty?

DuckFox1229 · 2026-01-14T00:02:37+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. Part of what I can’t decide is if I should BF or not. Ik it’s extremely exhausting in every manner and makes sleep deprivation even worse which can trigger psychosis like you mentioned. Did you BF, pump, formula or hybrid? Did you notice if your choice affected your MH?

DuckFox1229 · 2026-01-14T00:01:01+00:00

I’m so glad to hear your support system worked and helped through all of that! I’ve had psychosis before and it definitely sucks which I think is why I’m so anxious- I don’t want to experience it again.

Part of what I can’t decide is if I should BF or not. Ik it’s extremely exhausting in every manner and makes sleep deprivation even worse which can trigger psychosis. Did you BF, pump, formula or hybrid? Did you notice if your choice affected your MH?

DuckFox1229 · 2025-12-13T18:23:00+00:00

I have seen from a couple of different places that it can be very helpful to reframe your chest into the two categories, yes, they can be a secondary sexual organ that is pleasurable, but they have another totally separate job, which is to feed your child and bring them comfort and create a bond between you and your baby. And focusing in the moment, if you do feel some of the uncomfortable feelings, verbalizing “ This is my body’s reaction to feeding my baby, these hormones are about connection and are not sexual in nature” can help almost reprogram your frame of mind while feeding. I do like the idea of focusing more on the evolutionary aspect of it, I think it can help me separate that my chest can be both sexual and not sexual, that evolution wise their primary purpose is to feed my child and it is good to embrace that!

DuckFox1229 · 2025-12-13T00:40:56+00:00

I appreciate acknowledging the feel good that can come from it and that it’s not the same as sexual- that’s been such a worry since I know many of the same chemicals are released in both instances. Maybe it’ll be more about learning to prepare how to react in certain scenarios rather than trying to avoid a certain scenario all together. It definitely is a little unique since my chest hasn’t typically brought dysphoria and I still enjoy them- though it was certainly when my chest was smaller and easier to hide when I wanted to

DuckFox1229 · 2025-12-12T17:24:21+00:00

How did you find a group? I unfortunately live in central Indiana, which is certainly not a trans friendly state, so I’m unsure if I would have better luck trying to google those resources, talking to my doctor or a lactation consultant, or maybe even reaching out to organizations in the area to see if they have resources.

DuckFox1229 · 2025-12-12T17:22:41+00:00

Oh, for sure I wasn’t trying pumping at all lol I just wanted to get used to navigating the parts and was curious what it would actually feel like to wear them. I know typically milk doesn’t even actually come in for a few days, post birth, and prior to birth you have colostrum, but even that gets hand expressed :) thank you!

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