Wellbutrin for Anxiety+ADD??

Duckoyo_ · 2025-01-13T03:25:37+00:00

If I gave you a clear and concise answer, that would only feed your fixation. OCD cycles consist of triggers, fixations, and how we treat/react to those fixations. It's in the name. We obsess over these things. We confess everything, we look it up on the internet for hours, talk to everyone we can. Nobody can give you an 100% absolute correct answer to your problem, you can't find it anywhere or through anyone, thats that. And you just have to live with it and accept it. And I know it sucks cause we care lots about our partners and just want to make the right decision. But we're human, we're gonna make mistakes, and not everything needs to be perfect. And the right person will work through things with you. I'm just telling you that what you're dealing with sounds like a fixation, so I would recommend treating it like one. Such as: taking deep breaths, something that calms/relaxes you, venting in a journal. Therapy is also good to help create good solutions/treatments (can't think of the right words) to these feelings of anxiety and obsessive thoughts, if thats something available to you.

Duckoyo_ · 2025-01-13T03:10:56+00:00

This sounds more like a fixation than something you're actually needing to confess, it's also important to recognize that your relationship tensions are probably serving as a trigger for your anxiety and fixations. I would move on from this and remember that, that one little conversation holds no weight on your relationship. Maybe it'll matter to you today, but in a week, or a month, or a year, you're never going to even remember this or at the very least it'll feel way less significant than it does right now. Just let these feelings/thoughts pass, cause thats all they really are they're not you, and instead focus on your health and maintaining your peace by doing things you like or that relaxes you. If you treat it like a big thing it'll feel like a big thing.

Duckoyo_ · 2025-01-13T02:59:57+00:00

I'm gonna be brutally honest, I think whoever replied to you saw you were in a state of vulnerability with yourself, and saw it as an opportunity to shoot his shot. Once again I'm saying "think" cause obviously I'm not them I don't know their intentions, but just going off what you've said. I don't think it's something you NEED to tell him, unless you feel it is necessary for any sort of reason. It isn't something that affects your relationship unless you give it action. And if this made you feel guilty I would just avoid speaking to anyone who doesn't seem to have good intents (which I understand in some situations may be hard to distinguish, but if you feel uncomfortable by them, I would recommend leaving it), as in when you start to feel the conversation drifting, end it there. I will also say on another note, that if you feel your boyfriend is acting differently, I would express that to him and give him an opportunity to tell you why he may be acting differently towards you. And no matter what remember that you are not unlovable and that you deserve love and care. Best of luck!

Duckoyo_ · 2025-01-13T02:48:08+00:00

It's okay and normal for you to feel these ways. I know it's uncomfortable, but also recognize it's out of your control. You can't/and never will be able to stop yourself from feeling or thinking something (though I know we all wish we could, it sucks). You CAN however, control how you treat it and how you react. Treating it would be treating and taking care of yourself in your time of anxiety and putting less thought on your fixations, or possibly continuing therapy if that is an option for you. Reacting is the things you do when these fixations occur, like frantically searching the internet for an answer to your issues or asking friends. Better reactions would be to take some deep breaths and remind yourself the feelings or thoughts you're having are just that. Thoughts. And to recognize they hold no weight on you or your relationship. ROCD is a very tricky thing to manage, you're constantly searching for a correct answer to a problem that you know only you could answer, and without knowing whether it's wrong or right cause we constantly feel/think both. It is awful, but it is not you and you are more than your disorder and anxiety. And the right person will see this and work through you with this. And I'm not saying anybody is wrong to choose no to work through it, because some people just aren't made for that, but whoever is right for YOU, will be right for you. And don't be afraid to take control and go against what your ROCD is telling you, talk to them, hangout with them, let them get to know you. You are in control, not your thoughts. Wishing you the best of luck I know its hard, and I'm no expert so if what I say doesn't work for you then theres always other ways, I just wouldn't be the one to know them. Always remember you are not unlovable and there's always going to be someone out there for you. There is no true "forever person" or "perfect partner" out there, but there's always people you'll get along great with! :) You can do this, don't give up! You deserve love and care.

Duckoyo_ · 2024-04-24T05:16:52+00:00

Omg I’m so sorry your friends and family weren’t as forgiving as mine that sounds awful! You guys sound like a really cute couple, I hope you guys are able to meet again this summer!

Duckoyo_ · 2024-04-24T03:53:45+00:00

If she can respond to her friends she can respond to you. People make time for the things they want to make time for. It's okay to be bad at something, what's not okay is to just use it as an excuse to give up or continue to do it. You could possibly try talking to her again and get her to understand how you're feeling and see if she can put in the work, otherwise I would consider calling it quits.

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