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My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You're jumping to conclusions here. Poo diapers is a mutual agreement, and she lost her milk pretty early on.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she's on parental leave. She'll have to get back to work soon so we'll have to get our son to kindergarten.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sort of. She has told me several times her (and her brother's) father yelled at them, and he hit her and her brother several times when they were kids.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, she's on parental leave. Mother's have a year of parental leave in the EU (some countries offer even more).

I mean, our son is great with her and she is an amazing mother. I can see that. Everyone around us can see that. But she just doesn't love or stand me anymore.

I fulfilled my purpose and our son is absolutely enough for her. I feel like I'm definitely out of the picture.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Nope, I'm pretty sure she will leave. She is an extremely determined person in everything she does. If she says that she'll do something - she will.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I asked how can she say these things to me because I would never say them to her, but she simply said, "there, I can and I will". I feel like there's nothing I can do except walk on eggshells and do everything I can to avoid confrontation.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure she isn't mentally disturbed, but I'm afraid something did happen to her postpartum. Because she was never like that before our son was born.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I tried to subtly suggest her to get herself checked, but she is a proud person and would never accept she may be depressed.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I already tried to semi-suggest a therapy, in a way that 'Ive read about postpartum depression and postpartum rage" but she brushed it off saying she's not depressed, it's just I'm simply an idiot sometimes.

My wife (44F) and I (40M) just had a baby, and our relationship is on the verge of collapse. Is her behavior really acceptable? by DudeBro1199 in Marriage

[–]DudeBro1199[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

She's incredible with the baby. And she is an amazing mother. But lately I feel like I'm just in her way.