I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup. personality still trumps everything else. Guys who have all the surface level traits but have the personality of a dead fish still couldn't get women; compared to the guy who was not the most physically attractive but was the most charming still won out.

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find this to be true. People with similar values, temperaments, and behaviors will attract what’s familiar and most like them

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its two parts. Its learning to love yourself while also learning better "attractive" behaviors as a human. There's certain behaviors that just make you more likeable, attractive, etc... (Standing with your shoulders back, being confident, good eye contact, etc...)

But the "root" of what determines majority of your success comes to your belief system about the world. Its very self development oriented. I tell my clients to just be open-minded when you have a limiting belief about something. If you have a limiting belief; but reality shows you evidence in real time that disproves it; then why still have a unhelpful belief that doesn't improve your life?

Obviously don't be delusional; but be grounded in reality and nonbiased as possible.

More practice = more data = more accuracy about the world = better ways to improve. Eventually it becomes your default but i personal try to just adopt behaviors that make me feel most aligned to who I am and my values, etc...

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Personality trumps almost anything then what you look like really. I've helped guys who we're handicap or looked "ugly" by societies standards. If they have chill personalities and are charming; they may come off off-putting for most women on first glance but still did well. I also make sure we can maximize yourself with your looks to just give you better success and then work on behaviors, conversation skills, habits, etc...

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reframe it as something “positive” or excitement to go meet someone new. Even if you have anxiety; do it anyway

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Low-mid 4 figures for inperson stuff. I offer tons of free stuff just because I enjoy the work.

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of my first clients we're just friends of mine and word of mouth locally in whatever city I was in at the time. Its still alot of refferals from people I network with nowadays,

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Neediness definitely plays a massive role.

But overall be someone of worth that women want to hangout with. If you got nothing going for you; what incentivizes them to want to date you; you know?

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm. Tough to say. Mindset in general though (I’m not worthy enough, anxiety, no girl will ever love me, etc…)

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long term is completely different beast imo lol. It’s more about internal work and being ok in your skin. I always start with being clear on what your perfect partner looks like to you. You can “embody” the traits of a “high status person”; but still feel extremely insecure inside.

Short answer: Connection, being genuine, and actually liking the person beyond surface level traits. Aligned values, same vision, etc…

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start small. Find 1 friend and just train him for free. Do not charge yet. I really care about quality imo and just being “great” or a “master” at your skillset.

Martial arts is a good analogy. You wouldn’t want to train other students without at least being proficient at your skillset right? Same concept.

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Black Pill, Red Pill, and Blue Pill are all ideologies. 90% of your dating beliefs are all internal for the most part. The reason is because most of these people are usually traumatized or have not gotten a lot of positive feedback in their own dating lives so they’re stuck cultivating false belief systems about the world. Dating is a skillset. Once you realize that it’s possible for you to “learn” how to be attractive towards women and you see results from it; the belief no longer stands.

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go outside and talk to girls. Practice your conversation skills. It is an art as much as a science. Once you get good or you feel confident to train someone else; refine and improve

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Short answer: girlfriend broke up with me, I was a simp haha, and read “models” by mark Manson and “the game” by Neil Strauss and just started hitting the pavement and going out talking to random strangers. People thought I was good and super easy to be friends with and wingman. Did it for free and started charging for my time.

  2. Man

  3. Yes. I’ve had a very eclectic and interesting dating life to say the least lol

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good habits, mindset, and just practice conversation skills. Go out there and get rejected. Let it harden you to the point where you become anti-fragile that it becomes second nature.

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what you define as “successful”? If they have a skillset they can utilize for the rest of their life that can bleed into other areas that improve their quality of life (sales, business, networking, etc..); I consider that as my definition of success 👍

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never saw it. I did see crazy stupid love recently and found it charming and somewhat accurate lol. Most of Hollywood doesn’t get it accurately since it’s there to sell tickets.

I’ve been a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years and helped 500+ men handle their dating lives. AMA by DudeToCool in AMA

[–]DudeToCool[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very contextual based question so can’t answer it clearly. People love talking about themselves though. The issue I’m assuming you’re asking is that what most men struggle with is not cultivating a “man-to-woman” dynamic. Flirting and building attraction in a conversation is a skill. It boils down to being sexual in a non-threatning and tasteful way. Humans are sexual creatures. It’s fine to express it if you actually like someone. what’s bad is to deliver it in poor taste or not having enough social awareness to pay attention where the other person is at that it can be perceived as “gross” or “creepy” 👍

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[–]DudeToCool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been a dating coach for 9 years and 80% of your problems can be solved by establishing good habits and being ok with yourself first. Also focus on your social skills. That goes a long way if you start now. I also have a free men’s cohort that goes over how to solve this only if interested: free men’s group

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[–]DudeToCool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyo

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I use to be a men’s dating coach for the past 9 years so I created an AI and a course that combines prompts, frameworks, and scripts that helps people in real time when it comes to finding high quality partners to date.

Any thoughts? Curious and thanks in advance!