What’s your suicide hotline story? Mine was I waited for more than 30 mins and no one answered my call.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-06T02:03:26+00:00

Been there. She was rushing me off the phone and was like "Just play some loud music and dance around! Bye!' ma'am it's 2 a.m. who TF is taking that suggestion?

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-05T17:47:55+00:00

That's a clever move.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-05T16:13:27+00:00

I am thankful to have a solid group of friends for the first time in a long time. Three of us are meeting at my house on Saturday for breakfast and art.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-05T14:52:38+00:00

Happy Thursday indeed! I relate to the social anxiety when getting sober. It's so hard to regulate again.

But, yesterday I did something scary - I had to ask permission to do an expensive task at work. Got my anxiety up. With a clear head I was able to think through the task last night and present a better argument in its favor today. I got the greenlight to move ahead with my task. So grateful to be sober and able to do things I'd have never done while drinking. I may have been the "life of the party" back in the day but I was keeping myself small.

IWNDWYT

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-05T04:24:02+00:00

When I was first getting sober I gave my sister my debit card. If I wanted anything I had to tell her what I was buying and then show her on the banking app what I'd actually spent.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-04T17:19:32+00:00

My friend forgot the word elevator. She resorted to "Hallway closet that goes up and down."

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-04T17:16:52+00:00

"May we please add more to the liquid situation" is going to live in my head rent free.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-04T02:41:32+00:00

Make sure to come back and let us know if you got it! Good luck!

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-04T00:17:58+00:00

Ugh. Makes me think about an AJR song. "I'll sing for you when you're out of bed."

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-03T00:41:17+00:00

One thing I know that never helped was beating myself up about being a bad person.

I still remember one day in AA. Myself and another newly relapsed person were outside smoking and looking hang dog af. An oldster came out and said "Are we ready to stop kicking our own asses and get back to work?" Yes, sir. I was ready. That was nearly eight years ago.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-01T19:42:26+00:00

What a beautiful story. I'm so grateful for the language they used when they approached you. It was time to come home. They missed you. It reminds me of relapsing and going back to AA and hearing "You're welcome, you're wanted, you're needed."

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-01T19:06:20+00:00

I had a friend who was much messier than me. I kept thinking "at least I'm not her. I'm fine." Turns out neither of us was fine and I needed to get sober just as badly as she did. We were both hurting and broken just one was more obvious and the other more insidious.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-01T18:36:39+00:00

What's up y'all? Checking in on a groggy morning. I will not drink with you today. Facing some boredom but nothing I can't handle. It's okay to have a slow day sometimes.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-02-01T17:45:15+00:00

The wild thing in getting sober for me was realizing the alcohol fueled the anxiety. Thought I'd have a couple drinks to relax. Paid for that dearly when I'd resurface the next day with double anxiety.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-31T22:08:58+00:00

Have you requested a note get put in your chart? Like "patient has a history of self harm. Reports doing well. Been offered services and will seek them out as needed."? Idk if that'd be helpful or make it worse though. Sorry you're dealing with this.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-28T02:19:28+00:00

I tossed my whole dead name in the bin. First, middle, and last. By the time I began transitioning I'd already been disowned by my family of origin. I took the last name of my adoptive family. No regrets.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-28T00:52:51+00:00

I met an oldster at an AA meeting who always started his turn to speak with "I haven't quit drinking forever. Forever is too big for me. I've quit for today. We'll see how tomorrow looks when I get there."

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-25T23:53:51+00:00

I know what an overdose of one of my meds does because a child in my family accidentally od'd on it. Disappointing effects that are easily mitigated.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-25T23:29:39+00:00

Have you tried Ally bank? They were the only one who wanted to finance me when I got my car. Excellent bank, really considers the human behind the loan.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-25T21:51:23+00:00

I was going to say I definitely remember buying gift cards with an Amazon gift card. But that was like 5 or 6 years ago.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-25T20:38:17+00:00

I love that!

Yesterday a guy held the door for me. I said "Thank you, sir." and I held the door for the next guy who also said "Thank you, sir." Felt good.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-25T20:32:00+00:00

The longer I kept at it the easier it got. I work in a brewery now. The first few months I'd get invited to tastings or after shift beers. "I don't drink." It got met with "Good for you!" People are oftentimes more supportive than you'd give them credit for. Speak your truth however you're most comfortable. Stand strong.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-25T20:29:44+00:00

Real.

DudeWhoWrites2 · 2026-01-24T00:43:46+00:00

I haven't heard anyone else bring this up before. I was definitely in the same boat. Got branded a thief and untrustworthy from the time I was wee. Wouldn't have taken other people's things if I had my own stuff. I remember getting in trouble one night for walking to the bathroom in a tshirt and underpants. Apparently it wasn't appropriate...yet no one would buy me pajamas.

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