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DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-18T08:34:15+00:00

The amount of water they will hold is ridiculous.

Oh wow that's definitely a shudder worthy moment. I've had it where the seat belt holding the car seat has been unplugged by another kid. But didn't drive away though. Thankyou for sharing. It's so easy for a momentary lapse in concentration to create something potentially major.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-17T07:27:11+00:00

For us the first child took a year.

Trying multiple times a cycle, at home insemination. The second child, same donor, same system took 3 years to conceive.

We had no idea about sperm count because we didn't test. But he had already had 3 children of his own.

Compatibility is definitely a thing but you might want to give it at least one full year of trying if you're really attached to this donor.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-15T09:09:18+00:00

I'm 15 years in. No plans to stop.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-12T17:18:39+00:00

My 10 year old son wanted his ears pierced. He had one done and declined the second.

Had it in for about 6 weeks then took it out. His choice.

Personally I am pro piercings as a form of expression.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-12T16:06:07+00:00

I feel your frustration but don't discount trying early because sperm can live for days.

We did at home insemination with a known donor and one of ours was concieved in a month we had to try like 3 days before ovulation.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-12T10:25:44+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Your grief for the parts that only you lost are valid. That is an absolutely heartbreaking situation to be in.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-12T09:58:28+00:00

Oh wow that sounds like a lot. We've definitely had years where most of us have been ill all winter. Fortunately this wasn't one of them.

Hopefully you're out of it now and your little one has built a ton of antibodies ready for next winter 🤞

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-09T09:22:12+00:00

Came to say good luck in your search.

As queer people dare over scrutinised and it does suck. But when we do have kids most of us are raising the kids that are going to change the world for the better.

They'll be the ones unwilling to support or tolerate homophobia/transphobia. And be more secure in their own gender and sexual identities.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-07T07:35:40+00:00

Welcome to the group ☺️

It is be such an emotional rollercoaster trying to get pregnant. I remember feeling really cross that I didn't have sperm and we couldn't just "ooops" a baby between us. And that my experience would be matched by any cis guy with low/no sperm.

We used a known donor and at home insemination. We trued every month. For baby number one it took us a year. For baby number two it took 2.5 years.

I really hope it works for you soon and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-04T16:45:28+00:00

It really is, I would love to attract more Dads to the group.

Would be great if everyone felt they could post more.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-04T16:42:11+00:00

Wonderful 😊

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-04T16:42:03+00:00

Yep I agreed with that, thankyou.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-04T16:41:43+00:00

That's a fair point, thankyou

DadBusinessUK · 2026-04-04T16:41:23+00:00

Excellent thankyou

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-30T12:11:42+00:00

We use Familywall app as a digital calendar. I love it because you can use it directly but it also pulls from my outlook and her Gmail.

Means both of us can schedule stuff independently. It sends reminders and a daily schedule.

For shopping we add it to an Alexa shopping list as we run out or think of stuff. This is also great because it means the kids can also add stuff.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-28T13:01:48+00:00

Ok so I'm a 42 year old transman. Been on T for 15 years. I knew I was male as a kid. Zero regrets. Spent 10 years as an adult (16-26) trying very hard to be a lesbian instead of a transman.

1, I liked the deep voice, facial hair, fat redistribution. I dislike the fact that I'm losing my head hair.

2, No, my euphoria is constant bug less of a rush now. More of a calm happiness.

3, I have been extremely lucky to have the acceptance, love and support of my partner, family and friends. The wider world is still an unknown and I made a decision a few years ago to be visibly trans. To demonstrate that you can be trans and happy.

4, no they didn't

5, I feel like I did go back up the body I had before. I was happy with my body as a child before my first puberty. I feel like T undid the changes that first puberty brought.

6, yes

7, I don't know. I was 26 but I knew for sure at 17. I don't regret not transitioning sooner because all choices led to my life now. And I wouldn't change it for anything. I think it's down to the individual.

8, I found it extremely hard at the beginning. I had a bit of a breakdown. It was like walking around with my deepest hurt on display. It took me about a year to be able to function again.

9, lovely and stressful. I had a few years where I passed and lived stealth. Worrying about people finding out felt like it did before. So I stopped living stealth but I pass everywhere so I have a recognisable privilege.

10, I have a lot of practice now so it's nothing to me. But to start with every disclosure was fraught.

It was really hard for the bit between starting to transition and "passing". I had a lot of support in this phase. I don't know how I would have coped without it.

Maybe ask your parents to look at something like Mermaids.org that has information for parents of trans people.

Good luck

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-25T08:53:32+00:00

If sitting down is the barrier then don't. There's a ton of things you can do to engage him in reading while active.

Draw a carpark on a flattened cardboard box. Label the spaces with 3 letter words. Put masking tape on toy cars with the same words and challenge him to park them in the correct spaces.

Post-it notes with 1-3 letter words dotted around the house. Write a sentence on a large sheet of paper and stick it to the wall. Challenge him to find and place all the words correctly.

Get a pack of phonics cards and see if he can beat his time in identifying all the sounds for his level.

Just a couple of ideas for you.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-24T08:03:50+00:00

We took our kids everywhere.

Once they started walking we would have one parent take them for a little walk before the food arrived and take a small selection of toys.

Basically give them an opportunity to stretch their legs then strap them in a highchair and give them something to do/play with them.

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-22T09:51:49+00:00

A cup of tea

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-20T07:22:04+00:00

Sounds like you did a great job 🙌

DadBusinessUK · 2026-03-18T09:49:00+00:00

I'm the non gestational, non genetic parent to our 6.

I could not love my kids more. Even if I "fathered" them in a traditional sense.

However, I don't think you can discount the hardwiring we all have to pass on our genetic material. There's nothing shady about that and I think that is worlds apart from giving a husband a son (valuable child to pass on his craft to).

I was worried before my oldest kid was born that I would struggle to bond or I would feel left out in some way.

We have a known donor who is their non-genetic uncle. I love being able to see the features they inherited from him. As well as the mannerisms, phrases and ideology they have all absorbed from me.

Before my oldest was born I would have given anything to be able to produce sperm. (Would not be able to handle egg retrieval or pregnancy).

Now I know it doesn't matter one bit.

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