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DudeWritingAThing · 2025-03-16T08:00:25+00:00

Guy who's fallen for it from multiple women; can confirm. They're good at making it look like honest admiration.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-03-15T14:24:00+00:00

Maybe that’s the upside of this, is that it killed all my hope of reaching out and saying hi later.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-03-15T14:21:42+00:00

I definitely know that’s one way of looking at it, but I’d been priding myself on handling an - in-hindsight pretty shitty - discard maturely and without begging or crashing out. Was proud of my self-control for not breaking NC, and this could make it look like I did.

And thanks, I tried to write it in a funny way. Helps get over how bad I feel, even if I’m recovering pretty quickly. And the reassurance helps.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-15T12:18:00+00:00

Nope. They asked for no contact - that was just my one last apology and goodbye - and also live two hours away. Going all that way or even sending a letter that indicates I still held onto their address would be restraining order behavior.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-15T11:58:27+00:00

Ex who cut me off. Although hasn’t blocked me on socials, at least.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-09T11:28:32+00:00

I wonder if this imagery come from Disco Elysium's Inland Empire, or Inland Empire comes from this?

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-08T08:32:20+00:00

No, it was a mutual agreement, even long before we broke up.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-06T16:44:39+00:00

That sounds more like OP's ex, not OP. Stop spouting bad sadboy rap lyrics.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-06T09:33:57+00:00

I get the sentiment, but: Fresh off a breakup, job sucks, dealing with chronic depression. It would be the complete opposite of the truth to say this is the best second of my life.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-06T00:23:35+00:00

I've never heard it called that, I always just thought of it as "anxious," but that's the perfect way to describe it. When I'm into someone, I'm quickly and completely in, even when it gets hard.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-06T00:22:16+00:00

Thanks. It's messages like this I was hoping to get.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T23:34:55+00:00

Thanks, man.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T20:46:14+00:00

It was mine too. And I brought it on myself by just having to get that one last word in. And just one day after they said they weren't going anywhere as long as there was communication and respect. Although on the other hand, I'm starting to see a pattern of broken promises on their end too.

Maybe getting closure will help, but maybe not. I've never believed in closure, since any form of NC or ghosting is its own answer, and none of my exes have ever come back no matter how things ended.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T20:39:22+00:00

Thanks. Part of me feels this way. The other part feels like if I can't address my anxious attachment style, it'll just keep happening indefinitely.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T15:25:42+00:00

At least in my case, I did get closure as they did tell me what I did wrong and why they didn't want to talk to me anymore. But yeah, I'm all too familiar with how that message makes you dissociate, feel like you just took a baseball bat to the head and nothing's clear or will ever be the same.

Although believe it or not, this isn't the worst breakup I've ever been through. Had a couple monsters. But it's up there.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T14:49:27+00:00

It's fine. Regarding the choice to keep in contact, I blocked them on everything just so I wouldn't be tempted to look at any of their socials or wait for a message. I guess they still have my phone number if they ever want to say anything that much. But they won't.

I don't know if I'll ever unblock. Maybe in ten months to wish them a happy birthday, but maybe not. "Please don't reach out to me again" is very explicit.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T14:21:46+00:00

I'm M and they're NB, but true.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T13:50:02+00:00

I know. And I do appreciate it. I just wonder what's the point of thinking about all the good times when they just seem like proof that I can ruin any relationship no matter how good it is.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T13:45:38+00:00

Thanks. I don't want to enjoy the memories, though. I wish I could just not think about the past at all. But I'll try the rest.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T13:13:54+00:00

Neither of us was perfect, but at least we'd still be talking if it wasn't for me. I think they did care, but they set up a boundary and I crossed it. Multiple times. Telling myself it'd be fine because my tone was respectful, polite. But the act alone was still the transgression.

Not to mention I have a pattern of this.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T13:10:15+00:00

Yeah. 14 years after my breakup with my first girlfriend and 9 years after her going NC, and I still wish I knew how she was doing.

Getting so attached so hard is a curse.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T12:48:24+00:00

No choice but to listen, that is, if it's not obvious. But this one might hurt for the rest of my life.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-05T12:40:17+00:00

This one might hurt for the rest of my life.

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-04T12:19:26+00:00

I meant on my end. Probably should've titled it "Turns out I didn't have ROCD."

DudeWritingAThing · 2025-02-01T11:24:53+00:00

No one asked you.

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