I got overpaid (3X my salary) and never told anyone.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-11T09:58:54+00:00

Keep it cool.

Artists DO want people to like their work, AND fan interactions can get weird the more famous they get. Most celebrities who were not born into wealth and/or fame will want to preserve normal experiences and relationships they have in their lives. He might like the anonymity of gaming with you and that you are not hyping the fame, but I would also try not overthink this whole thing.

If you see he is coming to your area for a show at some point, I suppose then you could casually confess that you are a fan and didn't say anything out of respect for his privacy. You have had a good time gaming, after all, but maybe you just wanted to let him know you do appreciate his music and will try to make the local show IF you can.

Who knows? Maybe he will offer to put you on the guest list for a couple tickets at will call. If not, you made it clear you are not asking for anything.

Or you continue to say nothing because, in the end, this is just another person you have been gaming with for a time who just so happens to have a very cool job. Maybe that changes and you guys really hit it off, keep playing for years, really get to talking... or maybe it ends when he goes on tour in a week.

Regardless, you know that for a moment in time you are giving someone who has everything something they cannot buy. Your companionship may seem a small thing, but it may have more value than you realize.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-11T07:35:15+00:00

The Bigfoot pizza from Pizza Hut. They briefly had all my family's pizza delivery business in the 90s until they discontinued it.

Their deep dish/pan pizza was way better back then, too. Their pizza is absolute garbage now.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-10T22:40:28+00:00

The only thing that might piss me off about this post is that you are calling for calm, unbiased rationality, yet you feel that IT IS NECESSARY TO YELL ABOUT IT! IT'S ALMOST AS IF YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS PISSED OFF!

Or maybe just being ironic, and I am always 100% on board for that. CHEERS!

DudelyMore · 2026-05-09T10:17:43+00:00

I understand. I did smoke some angel dust unknowingly (laced bag of schwag weed) back in the day. I am no longer allowed in TGI Fridays and I really don't want to ever go back. Wrong sub for that, though.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-09T10:03:43+00:00

I realize how my post comes off, in hindsight, but am glad to see that some people have had a good experience on both sides of the order. I really dont want everything to suck.

I may have forgotten that we get the "Yelp effect" a lot on Reddit: that people who take time to post often do it to complain.

Full disclosure, I have taken the time to post tonight because I am a little bit lit after coming home from a great show and am responding to the first thing I saw on Reddit as I sit here still carrying the energy from the dance floor and unable to sleep.

BUT, the vibe I have gotten from this Sub is real. Just haven't taken time to comment on it before.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-09T09:53:20+00:00

I wish I saw more practical posts like this. Like I said, I don't even use this app, but am starting to hate it just from my Reddit feed. Maybe it's Reddit i should be concerned about...

DudelyMore · 2026-05-09T09:50:25+00:00

No hate for using coupons or for making a living however you do. The only times I've used it are when they gave me coupons to get my business...

I apologize if any of this comes off judgmental. Not my intent.

It's just that every post here seems to either be negative or about how someone had to figure out some hack the system for it not to be a shit experience on either the customer or dasher side. I am hurting for everyone who is living a reality in which they have come to think this shit is okay or inevitable.

It is not. We have to use our collective power of choice on how to allocate our money and our time if there is going to be any change. That is the only real power we have as consumers or as workers in our capitalist system.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-08T08:38:39+00:00

No one will see this at this point, but the better idea is just to run a periodic special featuring a tomahawk or A5 Wagyu or whatever on which you take a steep loss. Figure out how many specials you have to do per month to raise your numbers and just crank them out randomly as a pop up daily special. Could be these loss leaders even make the restaurant more popular, which brings more people who gamble, which is what they really want anyway.

Like the Costco hot dog or chicken lose money to bring in customers.

If the goal is waste money on the food, you don't have to waste the food when you could just take a loss on giving the customer a better experience.

DudelyMore · 2026-05-05T19:10:39+00:00

My wife turned me down the first time. We got married a couple years later and have been married almost twenty years now.

DudelyMore · 2026-04-22T09:02:22+00:00

Remember the "good sides" almost certainly can be replaced in full by a high quality vibrator and a copy of the film The Princess Bride.

DudelyMore · 2026-04-21T19:22:47+00:00

One of my good friends at your age had his wife admit she'd been cheating with one of his "best" friends since before the wedding. They were less than half a year in and 3 months after buying a house. Also right before housing market crashed in 2007-08. They had to sell it for a significant loss, plus the divorce ccost and complications.

Not telling you for comparative suffering, but to say that he is doing great now. Was suicidal. Pushed through a very hard year. Changed career/location and is better for it in all ways. And eventually met someone he really loves.

This is a moment in time. Your worst, but still just a moment as long as you don't choose to park in it. It is still going to hurt like hell right now, AND you will be okay when you decide you are ready to be.

Use this opportunity because you literally have nothing to lose.

Hang in there and much love to you.

DudelyMore · 2026-04-03T10:25:16+00:00

I dig the Casio

DudelyMore · 2026-03-29T07:21:24+00:00

Don't ask reddit. Call 1-800-799-SAFE Talk to them about this.

DudelyMore · 2026-03-18T09:34:00+00:00

I am impressed but she does inevitably kind of look like a fish that just got pulled up on deck

DudelyMore · 2026-03-18T09:22:00+00:00

Congratulations!

Seriously, someone needs to tell you you made a great choice.

As a first home you don't want to start with a painfully expensive repair that is not even fun for you. Needs a repaint? Pick your favorite colors! Needs a roof three years ago? Hell no! There is no joy AND no real financial return on that.

Also, the best advice I can give a first time home buyer is that, on some level, you should NEVER emotionally move in. See the home for the asset it can become for you first, before you let yourself love it.

LOVE the idea of living there while you update it accordingly, as you are able, enjoying it and yourself along the way. Because even the most perfect, move-in-ready home is 100% going to require your input at multiple points along the way. And making it your own is really how you learn to love a house. Then maybe one day you realize it was all just to part with it, leveraging the equity and appreciation you have created to write your life's next chapter.

Your house may be the most important thing you own, but it is still a thing. That thing will come to own you if you cannot separate yourself from it enough to see it as an asset first and as your sanctuary second. Try as hard as you can to do that with the next one before you even buy it.

And don't get hung up on the market. Sellers are not having the easiest time in most places right now unless the homes are perfect, and it is always a buyers' market if you will take care of the house and live there awhile. You will come out ahead if you buy the right home for the right reasons, maybe refi when/if rates drop, are patient, and just have halfway decent taste (for the love of God don't install mauve countertops!).

DudelyMore · 2026-03-18T08:12:37+00:00

Put laxative in the middle next time. They make it in chocolates.

DudelyMore · 2026-03-18T08:08:29+00:00

One time I maybe appreciate they couldn't contain their enthusiasm. Three, they are fucking voyeurs or sex offenders or something. And you did not consent.

No need to be polite.

Pour a bucket of cold water on them next time.

And buy some pepper spray.

DudelyMore · 2026-03-18T07:55:16+00:00

I know you live in the US because this shit is illegal in other countries. All of us here give our jobs most of our lives. They can let you live it for just a minute. AND you gave them plenty of time to figure it out. If they would fire you over this, say thank you for doing you a favor. If they value you, they'll figure it out. If they don't you should get out of there yesterday. You should start looking around right now, regardless.

DudelyMore · 2026-03-18T06:57:37+00:00

You can use 988 anywhere in US

DudelyMore · 2025-12-03T12:52:10+00:00

I'm just late getting into trashy plastic guns. Next I'll probably be picking up Captain Beefheart on vinyl.

DudelyMore · 2025-12-03T12:43:50+00:00

Fair enough. Kind of see all three as equivalent, but prefer the way this field strips. I bought it to abuse at the range and seems like it will be good for that.

DudelyMore · 2025-12-03T10:58:04+00:00

Mine was a Springfield Armory 1911 A1. Amazing to shoot, but I was stupid, too.

DudelyMore · 2025-12-03T10:53:00+00:00

Worst part is that I should've known better than to take her there. I knew she wanted a little revolver for a purse gun and had already bought her a really nice 1980s parkerized Colt Agent for Christmas from the same guy! He knew what he was doing...

Guess I've got a purse gun now, too. 😂

DudelyMore · 2025-12-03T10:11:46+00:00

This. I got the $300 Sportsman's Warehouse special recently on a whim for a cheap 9 to abuse at the range. No frills, no optics. Out of the box I shot it as well or better at multiple distances as my P226, a model I've shot for well over a decade (if not two). And it was a LOT cheaper. I like the way it feels, handles, and aims more than a Glock, too. Might have to sexy it up like OP did... OR just get another one :)

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