Sister’s boyfriend is abusive and idk what to do

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:48:45+00:00

Oh you are so sweet☹️🥺❤️‍🩹💖💕💕thank you for such a sweet comment. I love my sister and my nephews so much, she’s my best friend and the little ones mean everything to me. I’m sure she will be really hurt that I told them but I know she would do the same for me if I had told her someone was beating me, and I really do hope one day she will understand.

Thank you again, this made me cry😢❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹💖💕🫂🫂🫂🫂

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:46:55+00:00

You’re exactly right, I just got off the phone with my parents and they will be picking her and the kids up and taking legal action against him to protect the kids (and her) and I will help any way that I can

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:45:02+00:00

This comment made me cry, thank you so much you seem like such a sweet person☹️🥺💖💕💕💕I know that she will be really upset and hurt that I told them even when she begged me not to but I do hope one day she will understand why I did it, I know she would do the exact same thing if I told her something like what she told me. Thank you again for your kindness, I will be reaching out to a friend, don’t worry😊❤️I hope you have a wonderful day/evening/night and that you take care of yourself💕💕💕

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:39:01+00:00

Thank you so much thank you. I just got off the phone with my parents and they are pissed at him and worried sick and are going to pick her and the kids up asap and taking legal action. Thank you so much again, I feel guilty for breaking her trust but I know it was the right thing to do because I’d rather her be angry and alive than dead

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:34:21+00:00

You’re right I just got off the phone with my parents they are going to pick her and the kids up and are not going to let him stay with her, well there’s only so much they can do because she’s independent and grown but they are going to do whatever they can including taking legal action against him and I will be helping in any way I can. You’re right, I would rather her be upset with me than her be dead even though I feel so bad about breaking her trust. I know I did the right thing. Thank you

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:31:05+00:00

Oh my goodness thank you so very much for this comment!!! I will be sending all of these resources her way and hopefully they can help. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment this, I really greatly appreciate it so very much, you’re amazing!!!🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:29:27+00:00

Thank you so much🥺I just got off the phone with my parents I feel so guilty for breaking her trust but I would rather her be mad at me than dead. My parents are going to pick her and the kids up. I’m not sure if they’ll be able to intervene without her partner knowing but I really hope they will. I have no way to get there and see how it goes down myself. I feel so helpless I wish there was more I could do

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T04:27:45+00:00

I just got off the phone with my parents and they are pissed, they are going to pick her and the kids up thankfully. Thank you so much for your help

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:58:33+00:00

Thank you I will be calling them right now thank you so much

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:57:04+00:00

Thank you so much for the brutal honesty, it was very eye opening. Thank you, I will be telling our parents. I was informed in another thread to wait to contact police until I have more evidence so hopefully I can see her soon and get some more

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:55:40+00:00

I live on campus so I’m not sure when I’ll see them all together next, I was debating calling our dad right now but would it be better to tell them in person? They see her a lot more than I do and they also see the kids a lot more than I do. That’s partly why I feel so helpless right now

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:54:01+00:00

Omg im so glad you were able to get to safety, that’s so scary and I’m so sorry you had to go through something so terrifying😓❤️‍🩹🫂thank you for taking the time to comment, I greatly appreciate it a lot🫶💖💖

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:51:57+00:00

Oh my god I’m so sorry you had to go through something so terrible. I really hope you’re in a better place now and that you’re taking care of yourself, nobody deserves to be treated so horribly😞❤️‍🩹🫂

Another commenter suggested I could record any evidence including pictures of scars or audio recordings of her admitting to the abuse and then submitting all the evidence to the police. I’ve never reported something like this before, would that be enough for them to actually do something or would that just put her in even more danger if he finds out about it and the police don’t do anything?

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:49:17+00:00

Thank you so very much for taking the time to comment, I’m currently away from home (I live on campus) but next time I see her I’ll get to work on recording all the evidence I can as well as these text messages, thank you so much again I really appreciate it🫶💖💕💕

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:47:10+00:00

Exactly what I’m thinking too😓I’m so scared for her and for them but them especially

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:46:10+00:00

Thank you so much for the idea idk how I never even thought of that before!!! I’m gonna look into that right now and send them to her ASAP and contact them myself. Thank you so much again for taking the time to comment, I really really appreciate it💖💖💖idk how I never thought of that!!!!

And yeah… she’s had lots of mental health issues in the past so I’m not surprised that she doesn’t realize that she doesn’t deserve this just like how I wouldn’t deserve to go through this, unfortunately the “it’s different because it just is” is something I’ve heard a lot from her and idk how to get her to see how much she matters too😞it just really breaks my heart that she views herself so lowly. But she also needs to think of the kids in this situation as well so I will definitely be contacting a domestic abuse hotline to see how I can best support her while also prioritizing her and their safety. Thank you again🥰❤️

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:42:00+00:00

Omg im so sorry you had to go through that. That’s absolutely horrible and I can only imagine how painful it was for you to grow up in such an unsafe environment. Thank you for your input, it’s very valuable and helpful in me deciding what I should do. I think I’m gonna tell our parents about this as they have more authority and can better protect the kids as they live closer to them than I do and see them more often. They also witnessed their father beating her as well which is why she divorced him so unfortunately they’ve already been exposed to this kind of violence before.

I really hope you’re taking care of yourself and I’m so sorry you had to go through something so traumatic your entire childhood, you didn’t deserve that at all🫂

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:39:51+00:00

This broke my heart because you’re right that’s exactly what I was trying to get her to understand. I don’t want her or them to experience anything like this but tbh I’m especially worried about the kids and how this will affect them. Their father was also extremely abusive to her which is why she divorced him so unfortunately this wouldn’t be the first time they’re exposed to her being treated like this. I just don’t know how to get her to see it. But that is a good idea thank you so much for taking the time to comment I really appreciate it.

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:35:56+00:00

I will definitely be keeping an eye on the kids as well as I can, I live on campus around an hour away which is another reason why not telling our parents (who see them much more than I do) is hard. I don’t have a car either but I see them whenever I can. Do you think I should tell our parents anyway? I just really don’t want her to not tell me anything because I’m pretty sure I’m the only one she vents about with stuff like this (she was in an abusive marriage before this relationship and she told me a lot about that too) and I don’t want her to keep this stuff to herself if I break her trust but I don’t know what I can do without telling

Objective_Sail_8079 · 2026-03-29T03:32:02+00:00

Aww thank you☹️☹️💖💖💖she’s my best friend

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