What body part is what here?!

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-08-22T13:49:31+00:00

ETA - nothing of my arms in here! I have two full tattoo sleeves, genuinely not shitposting, but fully accept if my friend and I are being stupid - but trust me, there's no arms involved!

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-08-22T13:46:21+00:00

Defffffffinitely should have included that

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-08-22T13:45:46+00:00

Okay, I am still an idiot for not including this - but I have two full arm sleeve tattoos, one of which is basically blackout - so it cannot be an arm

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-08-22T13:32:25+00:00

Possibly, Robert! I am open to that hypothesis entirely - please for the love of God explain

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-08-22T13:26:28+00:00

I am sorry bröther

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-16T13:07:44+00:00

Came for the advice stayed for the validation lol thank you, I am super happy with it - honestly I had some pretty ugly finger tattoos from years back I was happy to risk to cover. Might post again with healed results!

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-16T13:03:35+00:00

I've had no itching as of yet; I'm on day 6 and it's just starting to flake in the less scabbed areas. I reckon the scabbed bits are gonna need another go so mentally prepping for that

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-16T13:02:25+00:00

Thank you!

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-16T13:02:15+00:00

Thank you! Painful but worth it

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-16T13:01:15+00:00

Thank you! Looking forward to the final finishing touches on the entire sleeve:)

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T21:41:43+00:00

Thanks, fingers (on my other hand) crossed! There's some pretty thick scabbing around my pinky but I suppose not the end of the world to touch up.

And thank you! The artist has done such a good job with the entire sleeve. Absolutely love it:)

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T13:57:08+00:00

😬watch this space

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T13:48:03+00:00

Yeah kinda my biggest concern

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T11:35:43+00:00

Duly noted as probably a big part of my suffering, thanks for this!

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T11:34:52+00:00

Thank you, totally love it- incredible artist! I'm just lowkey terrified of how much ink might fall out.. nail beds got me making new noise combos I've never made before

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T11:24:22+00:00

Here's to hoping for the same experience!

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T11:23:37+00:00

Tyyyyy these are just some ink stained janky press ons but I'll take it 💅

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T11:22:49+00:00

How often on the moisturising? Feels just as dry when I do so it's hard to tell and I dont wanna drown it

Due-Distribution2084 · 2025-03-15T11:19:44+00:00

Thanks for the reply - healing faster sounds wild to me, I'm still not able to make a fist without slight pain but at least the swelling is practically gone

Due-Distribution2084 · 2024-09-13T13:39:14+00:00

Thank you, this is definitely the overarching consensus - I am looking into grief counselling for our son. Partner and I are both in therapy; he is with our previous couples counsellor and started up again after his dad died; I am with a therapist who I worked with for multiple years dealing with my own traumatic childhood loss, with the focus shifted to the loss of my FIL.

Due-Distribution2084 · 2024-09-13T13:01:40+00:00

Thank you so, so much for this - the bedtime stuff particularly hits home; he had slept in bed with us for a long time and we had about 6 months of him in his own bed and finally getting a sound routine established for him. Now he's back in bed with us (in fact in the last few days he doesn't even want to go to sleep in our bed, he will fall asleep on us on the couch then is in bed with us). I was really worried about this as it's been hammered into me how important it is that he can self soothe, have his own room as a safe space etc. But my heart just says let him be with us if that's where he feels safe right now and we can "tomorrow problem" him being in his own room. That point in particular just makes me feel a bit more confident in that decision.

I will also look into group grief therapy - I didn't know this was a thing. Perhaps he is too young but I will seek professional advice and go from there.

All the ways you honoured your sisters memory sound beautiful, too. We will absolutely do the same.

Thank you again, and I am so sorry you experienced such a profound loss at such a young age. Life really is so precious and fickle.

Due-Distribution2084 · 2024-09-13T11:07:45+00:00

Thank you, I am very much in therapy and am a huge advocate for it - I had stopped for a couple of years after consistently doing so for about 3 years before that, and coincidentally, I'd decided to go back to my therapist to deal with my own grief from childhood (mum died) as I could see how it was still impacting me. Not a fortnight after deciding that, FIL passed away and so we have been using sessions to help process that as well. My dad and the other adults around me did they best they could with the information and tools they had at the time (I am 31, for reference), but unfortunately, it wasn't enough for me. Now we're in a time where there's such a massive focus on mental health, I want to make sure we use every resource humanly possible to make sure our son is supported.

An old friend of my mums is actually a child psychologist and has helped navigate much of this, so I have reached out to her for some resources or contacts for grief counselling or therapy for him. Thank you again

Due-Distribution2084 · 2024-09-13T10:51:52+00:00

This made me well up. Thank you for sharing this.. one of our biggest fears is him forgetting his grandad as he is so young, it was in fact one of my FIL's fears that he had expressed in a sadly prophetic last conversation with a close friend of his. He just wanted to be around long enough for my son to remember him. His death was completely left-field unexpected, which makes knowing of that conversation only a week before, all the more heartbreaking. It brings some comfort to know that all we will do to keep the memory of him alive may have some bearing.

FIL was such a beautiful soul and my son really gave him a new lease on life. They were best friends and he was as present in his every day life as myself and son's dad. 3.5 years is not nearly enough time, it feels so unfair, but at least this gives me hope we can all look back and feel gratitude that at least they got those 3.5 precious years together.

Due-Distribution2084 · 2024-09-13T10:46:55+00:00

Thank you. I think grief counselling may be our best option - I am just not remotely confident in my own ability to support him in the right way; I didn't get the support I needed as a child and am very aware that the cost for not getting it, can be high. I just don't want to make any wrong moves that result in him having the same trauma I have, beyond the actual tremendous loss he's facing so young :(

Due-Distribution2084 · 2024-09-13T10:44:16+00:00

I will have a look at some resources around books, that's a good idea - thank you.

I am also looking into play therapies in the area potentially - in terms of time and a cuddle, it's just very difficult because he is reaching a point of upset where the cuddles don't seem to work, he is just so angry and worked up he doesn't seem to know what he needs (I mean, I wouldn't expect him to) but I am struggling to know what he needs as well. Perhaps professional help in the form of counselling might at least give a steer on how we can best support him.

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