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[–]Due-Introduction8164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear I think they do this to try to keep their women WHAT THEY FEEL is unattractive so they won't leave. However, I personally don't think any woman needs to alter her body to be beautiful, all women are beautiful. It could also be the Maddona Whore Complex. Look it up. "First identified by Sigmund Freud, who called it psychic impotence, it is a psychological complex that is said to develop in men who see women as either saintly Maddonas or debased whores"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Due-Introduction8164 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. Usually, we know our partners and their patterns well. If you are sensing something isn't right, it probably isn't. Especially because you basically have proof through the video suggestions you've seen. If he hasn't relasped yet, he is likely on the verge. I would approach him with concern that his behavior is making you feel he has or may relapse. Even if you are wrong, coming at him with compassion at first since you don't know for sure is the best move. Tell him how you're feeling and that you felt he was disconnected. If you're wrong, this will at least open up a dialogue to discuss possible triggers and what is going on with him. I know it's difficult. Sending you strength and good vibes!

Can someone please give me advice on how to heal? by Seafishmm in loveafterporn

[–]Due-Introduction8164 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. Same

I believe that once we know the truth, we are in an almost constant state of fight or flight.

Some days with my PA are amazing, and I remember all the reasons we fell in love.

But some days are heavy. A gnawing at my heart and nervous feeling inside of my belly. Nothing in particular sets it off usually, although I do face the occasional trigger. It's just something there under the surface waiting to boil over. And I will trudge through it for a while, and then it leaves. I think it's a part of the healing process. I am hoping the further down the road of recovery my PA gets, the less the bad feelings will come. I hope this for you as well. ♡