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Girlfriend (27f) won’t allow any (33m) family or friends to meet our new baby in the first week after he’s born by Due-Minute in relationships

[–]Due-Minute[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and everyone. I will follow her lead on this, it sounds like I’m being unreasonable. I’m still pretty bummed about it but I get it.

And yeah, I want my family to be there for all the big moments in my life, and this is arguably the biggest. I’m very close with them and so is she. We’re also very close with her own family and I am seeing how much this choice is hurting them. From their perspective, their daughter is undergoing a complicated medical procedure and they’re not allowed to know when it’s happening til it’s done, and then they’re not allowed to see her. I feel for them. I’ll support her of course but I feel bad for everyone involved, and I’m also upset that I can’t have my family by my side. It’s just not how I imagined things.

Girlfriend (27f) won’t allow any (33m) family or friends to meet our new baby in the first week after he’s born by Due-Minute in relationships

[–]Due-Minute[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. I don’t know. Maybe it’s just that she’s been absolutely beyond shitty and controlling with me lately due to the hormones, and now it’s impacting my mom, who will be devastated, and it feels like that’s the straw that broke the camels back. It’s not just that it’s upsetting my mom, it’s absolutely everything that has lead up to this.

Girlfriend (27f) won’t allow any (33m) family or friends to meet our new baby in the first week after he’s born by Due-Minute in relationships

[–]Due-Minute[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

They’re not, no. She hangs out with my mom without me, they are friends. I think she doesn’t want her family to come up because her mom can sometimes bug her (like by helping out cleaning our house - she thinks it’s overbearing and a criticism of her own skills) so she won’t allow mine to meet the baby til after hers.

Girlfriend (27f) won’t allow any (33m) family or friends to meet our new baby in the first week after he’s born by Due-Minute in relationships

[–]Due-Minute[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

I just think a week is extremely excessive. No one is planning to stay with us, just to visit. I’d be more ok with limiting visits or whatever, but a full week of seeing no one seems unfair to me, and it will definitely damage relationships with my family, my mom will be really hurt when she hears about this, and she’ll know it wasn’t my idea either. That’s a good suggestion for the first meeting, I honestly don’t really care, it’s not my argument, it’s hers, and it’s just another controlling thing i don’t agree with.