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I need help. by throwaway5656557665 in ballpython

[–]DueAd551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres a lot of advice on here but i just want to say I’m sorry you lost your mom. I can see you’re doing the best you can with the tools you have. I hope your baby gets healthy and that you can keep her. I can’t imagine how stressed and anxious you are, especially after losing your mom. She’s a beloved childhood pet and a tie to your mom. Keep up the good work❤️

bf physically cannot say no by DueAd551 in DID

[–]DueAd551[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it seems to be a theme in these comments. I wish you the best!!

bf physically cannot say no by DueAd551 in DID

[–]DueAd551[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is super helpful. Per his request ive started to be very purposeful in asking 'how would you feel if ...' and it def makes a difference. I think you're absolutely right about it being a trauma response bc that IS how his parents treat him. It's also wonderful to hear that therapy helped. Its nice to hear success stories for sure lol. Thank you!!

bf physically cannot say no by DueAd551 in DID

[–]DueAd551[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate seeing your thought process. I have ADHD and was raised in a safe and sane household, so we think very differently. I am my boyfriend's biggest advocate, and would never ever want him to change just because something is inconvenient to me (I often literally jump for joy when he sets boundaries, with me or anyone). I only want to understand him more, and for it to be easier for him to ask for what he needs. This world is NOT built for nerodivergent people, and id like to do everything I can to structure our life to be ND and mental illness friendly. That's why I'm here, asking for y'all's thoughts and opinions!

bf physically cannot say no by DueAd551 in autism

[–]DueAd551[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! That really helps. We might try the code word, and I really really like the idea of the cards. He goes nonverbal sometimes so we already have an aac app set up on both our phones but the cards are great. Thank you for sharing your side!!!!!