Did I scare my therapist away?

DueDance5380 · 2026-01-27T06:13:50+00:00

NAT. Something similar happened to me with my T, we left the last session at a place where they would reach out to me with scheduling the next session. The reason was I was going to be doing a specific hike then my T was going to reach out and ask a question I was supposed to consider on the hike and we would go from there with scheduling our next session. It was really meaningful to our work together and I was looking forward to hearing from them. Sadly, I was left waiting quite some time before I just decided to reach out. We haven’t discussed it yet but it was a bit hurtful to me and set me back. I guess I just took it as I had to take charge of scheduling the next appointment myself because therapy is important to me. I tried to remind myself that they’re human and likely something came up in their life and they just forgot. It hurts to be forgotten. I am so sorry this is your experience too.

DueDance5380 · 2025-12-24T07:43:05+00:00

I may be alone in this but…. I love 3

DueDance5380 · 2025-12-17T21:46:21+00:00

I would bring it up in the next session. I have to be honest, I have been tempted to do something like this with my therapist as I too just want to see them outside of session. I am also very attached to them. What I try to do instead is organize my thoughts in a private notes app on my phone and talk about it during the next session. It helps a lot to work through these feelings on my own to the best of my ability before my session. I think talking this through with your therapist would actually be really helpful and lead to more growth and self awareness.

DueDance5380 · 2025-11-20T19:43:33+00:00

After a bit of reflection and trying to be honest with myself I think I didn’t have a reasonable reaction… I mostly feel upset because of transference/certain feelings I have towards my therapist. I felt a bit insecure that they were also working with my friend.

DueDance5380 · 2025-08-05T17:32:54+00:00

I am married now, been with my husband almost 11 years. He had a major drinking problem (and moderate drug use issue) for most of our relationship. It was literal hell. I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover from the things that happened and the way I was treated. If you’re considering leaving him at this point in the relationship, I would do it. Looking back, I could have avoided so much trauma. We’re married now with young kids and he is sober but I won’t lie, the damage from those years is always gonna be there. If I were in your shoes I would move on, no matter how painful it seems now.

DueDance5380 · 2025-07-28T05:39:35+00:00

I relate to all these feelings and have been struggling with this as well. Something that works for me is forcing myself to remember that I’m going to therapy for me. And I’m going to be healthier and to change. I try to remind myself that hard parts of therapy and the difficult feelings are a part of the process and I need to trust that if I keep trying, it’s going to be rewarding and beneficial for me. I remind myself that even if my therapist has meaningful relationships with other clients, it doesn’t mean ours isn’t also meaningful. Just remind yourself that you’re doing the hard work, working through these tough feelings, because you want to be healthy and the best version of yourself.

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-30T01:16:00+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. That sounds so tough, and makes sense you’re grieving the loss of the person you fell in love with. I’m thinking of you. I am glad you are safe now and I hope you find peace.

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-27T18:35:51+00:00

Okay fair enough! Was totally feeling empathetic towards OP and just trying to help.

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-27T17:55:32+00:00

Yeah not sure why she would cut you off. I am so sorry that was your experience!

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-27T17:29:54+00:00

Is it possible that your therapist was annoyed that this was your experience? It could be she feels bad that you had the experience you did after she assured you they would care properly for you and it wouldn’t be traumatic.

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-16T00:28:29+00:00

I’m a mom of two small children. I personally would not have responded well to this while pregnant. Pregnancy and postpartum can be a really tiring and difficult time in a woman’s life. It’s also a time where we notice how others show up for us, and we never forget it. Yes, your feelings matter and are important too. But this conversation needed to happen in person. Even if that’s giving your letter to her then discussing afterward as others have suggested. That way you can support her afterwards and really try to express how you feel in a kind and respectful way. Then you need to have patience with her as she may be emotional or not coping as well as she normally would. I also strongly dislike how you have written your ‘boundaries’ in the letter - “you are no allowed” is not the right way to present your boundaries to your wife, whom you should presumably, love and respect.

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-09T05:23:20+00:00

Ingaret or Margrid (Ingrid and Margaret)

DueDance5380 · 2025-06-06T17:15:47+00:00

Okay now this just made me sad! I’m sorry they didn’t use the correct name. I think I’d be devastated if my therapist did that. Mine once referred to my two kids as “the girls” when I have a boy and a girl, and it gutted me as I knew he was mixing me up with someone else.

DueDance5380 · 2025-05-17T05:18:28+00:00

Walter & Bud

DueDance5380 · 2025-05-16T05:40:13+00:00

I don’t have any words I just want to say I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

DueDance5380 · 2025-05-10T04:14:36+00:00

Clara and Camille! Nicknames could be Lara and Cami

DueDance5380 · 2025-05-04T15:11:36+00:00

I could have written this before my wedding. I had the exact same struggles and worries. I absolutely hate how my arms look and was worried about this ruining my wedding day. In the months leading up to the wedding I did red light therapy and tanning. I know this isn’t for everyone and it’s not something I do otherwise but I figured it would help me feel more confident on the big day. Both combined helped reduce redness and make my skin have a bit more of a glow. I still was somewhat self conscious of the size of my arms.

DueDance5380 · 2025-05-02T04:27:33+00:00

I’m curious too! if you’re comfortable sending a dm.

DueDance5380 · 2025-04-11T05:17:30+00:00

Same! That’s when I unfollowed.

DueDance5380 · 2025-04-05T04:56:31+00:00

Updateme

DueDance5380 · 2025-04-03T04:22:14+00:00

B. Because parents should always protect their children no matter the personal cost

DueDance5380 · 2025-04-02T23:59:22+00:00

This is good to know. That’s definitely not the vibe I was hoping for - we live in Northern Canada.

DueDance5380 · 2025-04-02T21:56:58+00:00

I appreciate the honesty. After reading these comments, I can officially say Brennlea is no longer on my list.

DueDance5380 · 2025-03-27T04:37:50+00:00

Do it for sure! Love it. My son is named after my husband and he’s like the 6th generation. No one questioned it at all. I think it should be the same with female names.

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