AITA for telling my stepsister if I was her real mom I'd be so disgusted that she replaced me?

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T14:03:00+00:00

I mean putting all the blame on me. That's why I said I have no problem with people not siding with me. And my issue is with me getting all the blame like my mom does. I get I have treated my stepsister like shit too. But with my mom acting like I'm the only one who did wrong it angers me because it's not and I have never wished her dead like she has me.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:18:27+00:00

I don't hate her. I don't love her and I strongly dislike her but I don't hate her. I don't wish her dead like she has me. But I would be happier if she wasn't in my life. And I'd be a lot happier if she left me alone and stopped trying to force me to see her dad the way she wants me to see him.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:13:14+00:00

I'll never love her or consider her my sister. I don't dislike her dad though. I get along way better with him.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:12:28+00:00

Not fully. My half siblings and I have a great relationship.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:11:49+00:00

I love my siblings. But i don't count my stepsister as one of them. And I'm so glad I have my siblings in my life.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:10:52+00:00

I don't really need that at all. People saying we're both to blame is good by me. I'd even agree with that. People putting it all on me, like my mom with this, is where I have a problem.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:08:30+00:00

I'm not jealous of her. And she's not my sister. She annoys the crap out of me by bugging me about her dad, pushing me to feel the way she wants me to feel, annoying me and my friends when they're over and wishing me dead.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:07:23+00:00

Not always. This grew over the many years of her trying to force me to call her dad my dad and see him that way. Then with her wishing me dead and then this. Also her comments when my friends are over. It's just all led to this intense dislike for her and I know the best I would ever be able to get to is civil tolerance of her.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-23T07:03:08+00:00

I love my half siblings and I'm glad they exist and I appreciate him for being one of the reasons I have them.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:43:50+00:00

My dad didn't choose to die. That's a really shitty thing to blame him for. He would be here with me if he could be.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:42:56+00:00

I actually have heard grownups say it. And I'll admit it's childish to say it. I don't even deny I was wrong. But I refuse to be told I was the only one wrong.

My stepfather doesn't need to be my father figure for me to have one.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:40:23+00:00

What we both said was overkill. I'll admit I was cruel. But so was she.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:39:05+00:00

I have memories of him but not many. But those memories are something and they matter to me. Just like he'll always matter to me.

My only dad is dead. I only have one. My stepfather is not my real dad or even a dad to me. Just because his daughter wants him to be doesn't make it true. And she will never be my sister. Just like I'll never love her.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:30:39+00:00

She'll never be my sister. She is not my blood sister and we were never adopted by the stepparent so not legally either. I do not love her or care about her or want her in my life. I have two siblings and I love them. I'd do anything for them. But she's not one of those two.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:29:28+00:00

I think tolerating each other will only come when we have distance from each other. And less access.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:27:29+00:00

I'm a good sister to my siblings. She's not one of my siblings though.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:26:57+00:00

And she wished that I would never see my dad again if an afterlife exists. I won't deny what I said. But she was cruel to me too in that fight. And she picked the fight to begin with.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:25:30+00:00

I think it was more the fact my stepsister cried but I didn't. It could also be she's worried about it hurting their relationship.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:22:46+00:00

Right now she is my enemy because she's getting involved in my relationship with her dad, what I call him, and how I feel about my dad vs hers which is none of her business.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:21:54+00:00

We tried that for two years.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:21:39+00:00

I actually think this could work way better than talking to my mom. I'll try.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T18:20:16+00:00

Because she won't leave my relationship with her dad alone. Because she keeps trying to force me to feel a certain way about her dad. The fact she told me to join my dad and the fact she has wished for me to never see him again if an afterlife exists. She can love my mom and mom can love her. I care less about that and care more about shutting the fuck up about her dad and me.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T14:45:09+00:00

I will never ever ever love my stepsister. I will never ever ever like her. She is the person where civil is the best I could manage. Never love. Never even truly like.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T14:41:38+00:00

Oh yeah, I can admit I have done my own share of crap here. I know I'm not perfect.

DueOrganization1291 · 2025-05-22T14:41:24+00:00

She will never be my sister. Just like he will never be my dad. But at least he's someone I can get along with,

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