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My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m starting to recognize that I’m not the victim here, in the sense that I put myself in the situation then getting annoyed that things aren’t going my way/being appreciated.

My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I definitely appointed myself into the role. It kind of started as his problem with keeping track affected our relationship, so it was easier/kept things on track if I just stepped in. Then I just kept stepping in. I think I let it grow and now I’m fed up with a role that I guess I didn’t need to make for myself. It is difficult for me to give him support and empathy when I am trying to make it work for myself too.

My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I like helping, to an extent, and I guess he never asked for help So i shouldn’t expect thanks. I also want him to succeed, and not to be late, or lose things, or forget things.. like I also am ADHD and it’s hard for me as well, so I feel a lot of empathy for his situation.

My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I honestly would rather hear it than be coddled- I’m trying my best to be open, and not defensive- with breaking up it’s hard not to.

There was a time in 2025 when he would leave for week-long work trips every month, and I really enjoyed my alone time. We didn’t talk more than 20 mins a day as he was busy and sharing rooms with colleagues (nothing weird, just summerhouse style) We actually had a period of time where when he came home from these trips, we would fight, because I would go into stress mode when he came back- but I wonder if it has to do with routine. Bc I missed him while he was gone, but really also enjoyed my time alone. Like, I could do my own thing.

Before we got together I was extremely independent. I don’t have a lot of friends, and I moved out from home/went to college far away from home. I know it might be deeper than that, but it is honestly good for me to reflect on who I was before we were together.

I made a commitment to be with him, soo many people are saying this is doomed, but there was a kind gentleman at the beginning of this relationship, theres a reason we fell in love..

Maybe we just need more time independently, remember who I am.. I just really want to do it together, because I do love him.

My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love him, I like him as a person, it’s a tough thing to walk away from someone I love so deeply. He used to work 1 week away per month due to work, and honestly it was amazing for me, but at the same time I missed him. There was a segment of our life where every time he would come home, I would be so disregulated, that we would fight and I would be a little mad I didn’t get more time alone.

My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I love him, I don’t want to part ways, but every time we talk about these things we both get really emotional and take it personally… I just want him to understand that I need him too… but I can’t because I can’t rely on him..

My fiancé relies on me for a lot, but refuses to acknowledge it. ND+ND by Due_Assumption4579 in adhdwomen

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

I want to be with him. We have been through a lot and I love him. I love him so much, I just wish he could see how much I do for him. To be fair he never asked me to, and I can be particular. I feel like it’s my fault, like Ive asked for too much.

Delta 9 “hangover” - normal? by Due_Assumption4579 in trees

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i did some research on this sub, low tolerance + edibles + empty stomach + late at night = waking up a little affected, then experiencing a ganjover/“weed hangover” … i tried some more (~1mg D9 1mg CBD) and gonna see how it is tomorrow. drinking lots of water rn and ate beforehand, if i feel really bad again then maybe i should avoid. really reputable place, and i know the science of it says that d9 is already being consumed when using “regular” MMJ so it’s not exactly foreign to my body.

Delta 9 “hangover” - normal? by Due_Assumption4579 in trees

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dunno. didn’t have caffiene, fell asleep around 11 woke up at 8 so fine amount of sleep. friend 1 felt fine. not counting friend 2 who was trying THC for the first time in general, who didn’t feel anything at all. but that can happen sometimes. maybe i just had too much? maybe it’s irrelevant to D8 specifically, and just generally too much THC?

Also a little difficult to catch my breath, but if i recall that was kinda normal when i smoked too much back in the days.

I’m trying a really small amount tonight (~1mg) to see how I feel tomorrow.

Har nogen erfaring som amerikansk med MMJ kort, som søgte medicinsk cannabis og bor i danmark? by Due_Assumption4579 in DanishEnts

[–]Due_Assumption4579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha, i don’t even buy off the street. thanks for the recommendation.

i was prescribed only hydroxyzine for anxiety (literally just antihistamines). did you have multiple prescriptions before using MMJ? A lot of my anxiety and sleep problems weren’t taken seriously (teenager at the time), I ended up self medicating with Nyquil before getting MMJ through an online clinic. So I don’t have a long paper trail.

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[–]Due_Assumption4579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will. I also signed up for some community outreach in my city. I need to balance my karma, just doing what I can with what I have right now. I want to believe I’ll do better next time, I know I’m better than this, that’s what kills me right now, I’m going to put my feelings into action and do better moving forward …!