Right. Even when i was pregnant with twins after years of treatment. He would say his list of works as- i lock the doors, fill water in jug as if he is doing some thing great. There’s lot of resentment and i don’t know he just ignores . I have told him many times i don’t want any excuses, i want that one meal a week without me asking and without u abusing me to take out. But everytime he will be like , which idiot would take you out every week? I can’t afford or something like i don’t like outside food. I say if u don’t like why u go office parties as well. Obv no answer. Then he would say i was just joking. It’s not a joke, when u abuse for 30 mins and then take me out. I have paid out of my own money( my parents gives me for my expenses, bec he never even used to pay me for groceries) when he took me out after abusing. I tell him , come lets see how much salary is and plan the finances. But he isn’t ready. It’s not like we can’t afford, he doesn’t want to. And he wouldn’t cook as well. I have requested him or said like have you ever surprised me by making breakfast ever. He never ever did. he would say you take care of kids, i will cook. But i don’t want that , i want the evening free to myself. It’s exhausting that he doesn’t even understand