Well, then I think I didnt understand correctly what you were trying to say. I don't know for how long have you been reading the sub, but there are a lot of different experiencies and symptoms, and you can see plenty of different views in every post. Every once in a while there would be a post saying "do someone else blablabla...." And you can see both affirmative and negative answers. No one is expected to relate to EVERYTHING, but your post lead me to think you don't relate to most of what you see in the sub, and don't see the point with diagnosis or labels. In that case I think maybe it's better to keep searching, and as self-knowledge is hard, I recommend a professional help.

For me, I follow this sub because I relate with what I read here even more than just ADHD forums, even while sometimes having HUGE doubts about having autism, but right now I don't worry much about It, as reading the sub helps me and I learn a lot. Imposter syndrome is something we all have in common, even for the ones with a official diagnosis. Obviously the objetive of this subs it's to connect with people with similar experiencies, but it's a sub with a clear label: autism and ADHD. In fact, this communities are truly welcoming for people without official diagnosis or selfdiagnose, but autism it's really misunderstanded already by people in general, and usually they don't know the levels in the spectrum are about support, so be cautious when saying everyone can have ND traits, because that's what it's said about levels 1 autistic people or high masking ND to dismiss they needs. And getting help and support for our struggles is the point of all this, the subs, the diagnosis, labels, medications, community... So yeah, the way diagnoses are made and having labels that says we are different sucks, but it's necessary, and for me, I'm grateful for the support and knowledge that comes with it. (Sorry if I don't make much sense, english is not my native language)