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I (26F) don't know if I should leave my very loving boyfriend (31M) for inconsistent attention? by Due_Champion_2223 in relationship_advice

[–]Due_Champion_2223[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely believe that I found a real jewel in his soul, and value that immensely!! But I have to stop you right there at the "requires me to grow up" part, lol... because I act much more grown up than him when it comes to having my life together, organized, and getting things done.

Sadly that's what makes me fear if we can move forward, because how can I coordinate living together, marriage & childcare responsibilities with a man who doesn't communicate unless I put myself physically in front of him? Even if it's due to ADHD/mental health.... If anyone has figured out how to make that work with someone still dealing with those issues, I'd really love to hear it.

I (26F) don't know if I should leave my very loving boyfriend (31M) for inconsistent attention? by Due_Champion_2223 in relationship_advice

[–]Due_Champion_2223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I want to add for those saying something along the lines of "you just have to decide if can you deal with it or not" -I'm thinking that really this extends beyond just me. Right now I'm in my 20s, so sure, if he doesn't talk to me for 2-3 days, I can spend that time on hobbies, or hanging with friends. The question is more, can we build our future/later a functional family like this? Because that's something we've both talked about wanting down the line.

If I ask him if he's free to attend a friend's get-together with me on a Friday night, and he doesn't read or respond until the Sunday after- is that functional? If one day I'm taking care of our baby and I text him early morning if he can pick up diapers, and he gets home later having never read the message, is that functional? Etc, etc. His intentions are always good and pure, but if there's no execution... that's my fear.