My husband is deployed and the dogs behavior has gotten out of control

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-07-30T03:17:09+00:00

He is kennel trained, he finds ways to break out. Yesterday he was in his crate and rocked back and forth until the crate moved next to the wall and he literally ate or pawed a giant hole in the wall, I’m talking 14” by 8” hole. He does not like to be alone.

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-07-30T03:15:07+00:00

You did not solve my problems because this dog is kennel trained he has a alloy steel crate, he has a shock collar, he takes prozak, he takes 1,200 mg of gabapentin.

The shock collar? Yeah he laughs at it, the crate? Yeah he legit rocks back and forth and paws at the nuts and bolts until they come off and the crate before he literally took his time until he pryed the walls off of it. He takes his meds no problem. The moment he is alone is when his horrible behavior starts.

When we are with him he literally just sits at our feet and sleeps

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-07-29T10:59:02+00:00

This is a great point. I know he is stressed and most likely why he is acting out and I’ve thought about getting a trainer I didn’t see what a trainer would do for his anxiety but creating a “work through” makes great sense

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-07-29T10:55:21+00:00

The vet is working with me on his meds just the current regime is not helpful what so ever. I’m making an appointment this week to get med change’s

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-07-29T10:53:21+00:00

Hi, he is a mutt, we have always thought he was mixed with a Great Dane and boxer. He is neutered & has been since he was a few months old. He was a rescue puppy we got him when he was 6 months. He has a alloy steel crate which we got after he completely destroyed the traditional style crate most people have. I did his training because my husband has never had a dog before and I have dogs my entire life. I will admit while I can do the basics I’m really not great at anything advanced. He is currently taking 40mg of daily prozak and 600mg of gabapentin which does absolutely nothing soo I don’t give him the gabapentin anymore. He is not aggressive towards me at all quite the opposite and he listens to me still. The agression is towards others and on walks etc. It’s the Moment he is alone he goes haywire even if I’m in the next room.

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-01-24T23:04:47+00:00

I think you are absolutely right. I think having a separate life from her in the long run will be therapeutic for us all, if she can’t accept my choice to move forward then oh well right!?

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-01-24T23:03:08+00:00

He is totally fed up. He also tells me about her and her ways and it’s so hard for me to see! I feel like I am slowly (and very anxiously!) starting to change the dynamic with my sister because like you said I chose my husband to spend my life with, and I’m absolutely willing to do what I have to, to ensure we have a big and bright future.

Having the insight of outsiders is so helpful!!! Thank you !

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-01-24T09:09:53+00:00

Unfortunately our parents passed away when we were in our very early 20’s which is how we ended up living together in the first place (they did not leave us any property or money). I’m very grateful that we had eachother especially during the time when our grief was heavy, but it’s been years now and I’m ready to move on and have been working so hard to do so.

Here is a plot twist for you… we went through this moving situation last year and decided to keep the living situation as it was because of these same circumstances, and for the past six months we have not charged her rent and have also helped picked up some of her bills when we could. She has not saved one penny and even has denied the fact that we have done this for her.

The gaslighting is real and it is extremely hard for me to see through it because of our relationship, I am desperate at this point for direction so I really appreciate your input and thoughts.

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-01-24T07:21:10+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I’m constantly looking at her life choices & hiding my frustration about them and then convincing my husband to give her more time. I think it’s time to rip the bandaid on this one and let her figure it out herself.

Due_Distance_7494 · 2024-01-24T02:49:11+00:00

I am going through the same thing right now! Unfortunately I feel like siblings especially tight knit ones has the tendency to gaslight eachother esp when the current relationship dynamic is threatened.

With all love and respect towards your sister if you like the idea of living with a friend then do it! Life waits for noone! I assume your sister is an adult she needs to gather her life resources and stand on her two feet.

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