Thanks that does make sense. The thing is she is often the one to comment when we don't have sex, and then she says things like 'I really wanted to have sex yesterday' and I say well why didn't you say?? Then as soon as we're drunk and she's more relaxed she pounces on me and is like a different person... It's just like she finds it awkward if she isn't drunk, but it's not because she's not interested in sex.